The best way is to encourage. Criticism is the biggest enemy of children's self-confidence. Try to emphasize the child's advantages and ignore his shortcomings, and the child's self-confidence will be improved. China parents should learn from American parents. China's parents give priority to criticism, while American parents give priority to praise. Therefore, American children have stronger self-confidence than China children.
Children must be encouraged to make progress and do better. Children who grow up with encouragement are full of confidence and keep moving forward. We should learn to be parents who applaud our children.
Don't rush no matter whether your grades are good or bad. Encourage and trust children to do well, and children will do well. Let children know that it is his responsibility to read good books, not the responsibility of parents. The future and life belong to the children themselves. No matter how much parents love their children, they can't take the place of their children in their lives. Tell him that those who study well and those who don't study well will come to the social hierarchy. Tell him you have 100% confidence in him. If he studies hard, he will get excellent grades. Don't rush him to make his own arrangements. If you rush him specifically, you are overreaching yourself. Children will think that learning is your business. Even if he did it under your supervision, he thought he was studying for you, not for himself. Then once he loses your supervision, he won't study. Can you supervise him for life?
Believe in children, praise them constantly, and often say to them: "
Son, I'm glad to see that you have been studying hard. I hope to make persistent efforts and make further progress. You have great potential. Give full play to it. You're great. "
Socialization: Let children participate in group activities such as ball games. Let him watch the ball first.
Fu Lei's way of educating children; Fu Lei's way of educating children.
Fu Lei is a famous literary translator in China. In fact, the most successful job in his life is to cultivate an excellent son. Fu Lei's letters, which are integrated from his family letters, are full of love, all of which show the deep love of strict father.
How to teach a child how to raise a poor child and a rich daughter? Original address: poor children and rich women-originally refers to this way of raising: becoming butterfly poor children and rich women-originally refers to this way of raising. Many people don't know the true meaning of raising children in poverty and daughters in wealth. I think boys should be strict, pay less, and girls pay more for good things. If you have children, please read the following article. Teaching you how to support your son in poverty and your daughter in poverty is an investment in a boy's life. Raising a daughter is an investment in cultural literacy. The similarity between the two lies in cultivating the baby's self-confidence, self-reliance and wisdom. I've never been rich, and I've never been Gao Fushuai. Therefore, "poor men and rich women" has become the "golden rule" of traditional parenting. The true meaning of "poverty" as a parent raising a boy must be clear. Now that my son has suffered, he will become a "rich" person and a real man when he grows up! For every boy, whether he grows up or matures, he needs self-reliance, more responsibilities, greater difficulties and unremitting self-struggle. It can be said that the growth and maturity of a successful man is a process of constantly challenging himself and striving hard. Perhaps, many people think that raising a boy "poor" means controlling the child's expenses and not giving him too much enjoyment to avoid spoiling him. This understanding is one-sided, which is different from what we call "poor" raising a boy. We believe that the more important significance of "poverty" in raising a boy is to understand the child's will, quality, character and mentality through personal feelings of "poverty" and "bitterness". Without this process, boys will easily form the habit of profligacy, coveting enjoyment, being fragile, incompetent, irresponsible and ignorant of the world. Just like some city pupils who heard that there are children who don't have enough to eat in the countryside, they were surprised and asked, "Why don't you eat chocolate when you are hungry?" This can't help but remind people of the dementia emperor Jin Huidi in history. The world is in chaos, and the people are in trouble. He said, "Why not eat minced meat?" How can such a boy face the test of future life? Sooner or later, they will be eliminated by society. As the old saying goes, "When you are in trouble, you are successful." Boys can only "succeed" if they become talents and do not avoid "difficulties and hardships". Let boys approach "rich" prematurely and avoid "poor". It seems that they like it very much, but it actually hurts. Therefore, boys must be tempered in the necessary "poverty" and "bitterness", and know how to be proud of their efforts and ashamed of their arrogance and extravagance. Of course, when we say "poor" to raise boys here, we don't want boys to eat chaff and swallow vegetables, recall bitter thoughts and sweet thoughts, and make boys suffer unnecessary inhuman torture and pain. Instead, we want parents to reduce their pampering of boys and arrange boys to replace them, so that boys can have more experience and exercise from childhood and cultivate their tenacious character. To sum up, we can understand and grasp the connotation of "poor" raising boys from the following aspects: let boys live a "hard life". Rich material life, giving children a lot of money, is the first killer to ruin children. Some people joke that children have a lot of money, not only for enjoyment, leisure and comparison, but also for prison cars and prisons. With the rapid development of economy, it is understandable that parents with bulging pockets spend money to train their children, which can create good learning conditions and environment for their children, but they must not give them too extravagant material enjoyment. Otherwise, it's not too late to save money for your son when he grows up and has a normal view of money. For the sake of his son's positive progress, for his son to develop the virtue of diligence and thrift, and for his son's lack of warmth and bad thoughts, it is better to let him live a "poor life." The second connotation of "poverty" training: let boys experience frustration. The flowers in the greenhouse can't stand the storm. The concept of loving children, contained in the mouth and held in the hand, will make boys weak-willed, psychologically weak, and go to extremes if they are slightly frustrated or frustrated. Frustration will inspire the boy's fearless spirit and face difficulties positively. As parents, we must let our son encounter "setbacks" and encourage him to overcome them. Connotation 3 of "poverty" training: let boys learn to live independently. "Clothes come to reach out, food comes to mouth" and "everything is arranged", which is the taboo of educating people. Many college students can't cook, wash clothes and fold quilts, which is incredible. Can such a person accept the challenge of society? Can you be creative? Therefore, parents should teach as early as possible from an early age, so that they can independently undertake what they can. It is inevitable that people should take care of themselves, do housework, cook and do things independently! Connotation 4 of "poor" support: let the boy suffer some grievances appropriately. Boys must learn to be strong. If you are wronged properly, you will have a deeper understanding of life When a son does something wrong, it is necessary for parents to give him appropriate criticism and punishment. Even if he is wronged, it is a strategy to educate people. Such a child, after experiencing all kinds of emotional experiences, has less rebellious psychology, strong psychological endurance and healthy psychology, and is easy to achieve great things. Connotation 5 of "poverty" training: let boys learn to take responsibility. Responsibility is a badge on a person's shoulder. Men are more attractive because they dare to take responsibility and don't shirk it. So parents should educate boys about their sense of responsibility from an early age. Let them shoulder the dual responsibilities of family and society in the future and become a man with indomitable spirit. Connotation 6 of "poverty" training: make boys more optimistic and loving. Optimism and kindness are essential qualities for a mature and excellent man. Therefore, parents should guide their children through different ways and means, wipe away the dirt in their hearts, eliminate selfishness in their hearts, and let their children grow into an optimistic, cheerful, kind and sincere person. Every parent loves his son, but love can be divided into "little love" and "great love". The practice of blindly doting on your son is "little love"; The practice of "poor" raising a son is the real "great love". Love is boundless. Only under this kind of education can boys grow into healthy, happy and excellent men. The real meaning of "having money" to raise a girl is to cultivate her temperament from an early age, broaden her horizons, increase her ability to read the world and enhance her knowledge. A pampered girl knows what she wants and what is really worth pursuing, because she is well informed, independent, independent and smart. When she reaches the age of sixty, she will not be easily tempted by all kinds of glitz, prosperity and vanity. The most important quality that girls should cultivate is understanding. She has a good personality, can control her emotions and is grateful to those who help her. She is an elegant lady. The connotation of "wealth" cultivation 1: encourage-encourage cultivation, not humility cultivation. Once, a girl's mother wrote to me and asked me: There are too many and complicated ways to educate girls. Is there any "perfect", "simplest" and "easiest to master" method that can help my lazy mother successfully guide her daughter to grow into an excellent woman? My answer is this: we must "encourage". One of my students, a 13-year-old girl, once wrote in her diary: Whenever I encounter difficulties and hesitate, my father will always stand by me and tell me, "Son, you are the best in my father's mind, and my father believes you can do it!" Thanks to my father, I can cultivate independence and strength? Compared with boys, girls live in a relational world. They need others' affirmation and recognition, and they need others to push her behind. For them, the affirmation and recognition of others and their help are the source of their self-confidence, independence, strength and pursuit of Excellence. In the process of girls' growth, one more word of encouragement and one more act of encouragement will often create a miracle of education. Of course, "encouraging cultivation" rather than "modest cultivation" requires us to always do: "Daughter, mom and dad love you very much." "Mom and Dad believe in you." "In the eyes of mom and dad, you are the best." Hold your daughter in your arms when she is sad; When the daughter is timid, pat her on the shoulder; When my daughter is depressed, she often gives her a bright smile; When I have nothing to do, I often whisper to my daughter quietly ... Don't say or do: "Why do you always do something wrong?" "Compared with XX, you are far from it." "I really don't expect your performance to have any future." The second connotation of "enriching": love-love and nurturing, not doting and nurturing. The second "rich connotation" of girls' healthy growth is love, which comes from parents' love. But what about parents and friends? I want to ask you: Have you chosen the right way to love? Let's test our "love degree" with such a short story. Love drowning story: daughter and neighbor's children are in conflict. A mother said to her daughter, "It's all his fault, which hurt my baby. I won't play with him anymore." Love story: A daughter is in conflict with a neighbor's child. A mother said to her daughter, "Please forgive XX, he shared his toy with you the other day!" " What is true "love"? What is excessive "love"-doting? The same thing happened to me. How did I deal with it? I think every parent has his own answer at this time-if he doesn't want to cultivate a delicate, arrogant and even bossy "little princess", he should put an end to "doting". So, what kind of love is "love" In my opinion, love is to occupy the girl's initial, weakest and simplest heart with bright, warm, confident and optimistic words, and turn it into her lifelong belief, so that her world is full of love and happiness. Connotation 3 of "rich" cultivation: responsibility-responsible cultivation, not natural cultivation. A female friend of mine, who has been dating 10 for many years, always mentions her mother to me, full of grievances: since childhood, my mother has taken care of nothing. When my sister got married, she just said, "I don't agree with this marriage. Don't come to me if you regret it later, and don't blame me. " When I was admitted to the university, she also said, "Tell me what you like, don't ask me." As a result, my sister's married life is very unhappy now, and what I hate most is my mother; When I think of what she said, I also want to love. Every time I think of my friends, I think deeply about this question: Why does a daughter who should be closer to her mother have no feelings for her mother? After thinking about it, I have to admit that my parents did something wrong. The mistake of parents is that they are too "natural" and lack a "responsible" attitude in raising girls. What kind of responsible attitude is this? That is-you have to "help" your daughter grow up. -Girls are introverted and even feel inferior.
Mrs Carson's idea of educating children: choose your wrist carefully. Please be careful. The dial of Rolex is about 39, which is really big. You can try it on in the shop before you choose.
I wanted to buy a Rolex, but I tried it on. It was too big. My wrist is thin, too. In the end, I chose Carson of Tissot, and the movement is the same as ETA2824-2.
The actions of the two models are the same. Li Luoke is a classic style of Tissot, with a finer surface than Carson's, but I still like Carson's, which is more durable (like Longines' famous craftsman series at first glance).
The watch must be matched with the wrist, otherwise it will be very uncoordinated.
Wang Qiqi's method of teaching children should have real feelings after reading it, so it's better to write it yourself. Here are some writing methods about the feeling after reading:
First, carefully reading the original text and carefully understanding the spirit of the article are the prerequisites for writing a good review.
"Sense" comes from reading. If you don't read it carefully, you can't deeply understand the spiritual essence of the original text, and you can't stimulate your feelings. If you don't understand the original text, it is impossible to write valuable feelings.
Second, you should choose what you feel most, which is the key to writing a good summary.
After reading a book or an article, there may be many feelings. If you cover everything like a grocery store, and write your feelings in one place, there is nothing too deep, and the key parts are brushed away like dragonfly water, which will inevitably make the article dull and not profound. Therefore, before writing your feelings, you should carefully think and analyze, refine your feelings, and choose what you feel most. You can write by grasping the central idea of the original work, or you can write by grasping a plot, a character and a flashing language that you feel most deeply in the text. It's best to highlight it, dig deeper and write your true feelings. In short, the deeper the feeling, the more vivid the expression, and the more touching the article.
Third, we should closely connect with reality, which is an important content of the feeling after reading.
The focus of writing post-reading feelings should be to express feelings in connection with reality. What we are talking about is extensive contact, which can be linked with personal reality, social reality, historical lessons, current situation, childhood life, class and family situation, but the most important thing is to highlight the spirit of the times and have a strong sense of the times no matter how we contact.
Fourth, we should properly handle the relationship between "reading" and "feeling" and combine discussion, narration and lyricism.
The feeling after reading is an argumentative reading note. We should use personal experience, practical experience and vivid examples to clarify the truth learned from "reading". Therefore, we should not only write "reading" but also "feeling" in the feeling after reading, which should be both descriptive and reasonable. Narration is the basis of discussion, and discussion is the deepening of narration, and the two must be combined.
"Letters from Fu Lei" Fu Lei teaching method is about 600 words! In urgent need. In China, there are two bestsellers from Home. One is a letter from Zeng Guofan and the other is a letter from Fu Lei. The former is regarded as a classic by many shopping malls and officialdom, and has become a necessary book for the desk; The latter is a necessary book for many people's bedside, and it is the traditional father's love for his son in China.
Reading Letters from Fu Lei means reading a person, a serious father and a father with personality. He stands in front of you and takes pains to remind you from time to time, so that you can't slack off in life and in life.
Since the publication of 198 1, the circulation of Letters from Fu Lei has exceeded 1 100000 copies, especially in the 1980s. Why can a letter from home attract so many readers? Not only because it teaches you how to be a man, but also because this book has deep feelings, and more because it embodies the spirit of China intellectuals.
Excerpts from books
Education should pay attention to individuality.
◆ One somersault after another. As long as you can climb up, you will gradually climb to the top. People who have not experienced severe pain will not have deep and extensive sympathy.
◆ I think that as long as a person is sincere, he can always impress people; Even if people don't understand for a while, they will understand in the future. I have always been the first confession, the second confession and the third confession. It's suspicious to dodge in circles. It's better to play tricks aboveboard. Deal with a controlling person, always deal with him as he is. He will not deal with you by controlling means, but will value you.
It is natural for a young man to be indignant at the injustice and misery of human destiny, but it is unnecessary to be unhappy but stupid.
Think more about the problems of life and the universe. Look down on a person. Then it will naturally reduce the heart of being swayed by considerations of gain and loss. In this way, the body and mind will be comfortable, but the work will be smooth.
◆ If a person has no spirituality and only talks about theory, it is very rare for him not to become a modern pedant, a contemporary pedant and an expert in stereotyped writing! The most important thing in learning is "communication", which cannot be rigid, pedantic, sour and rigid; "Communication" can cultivate integrity, mind and light. "Communication" can become "big", and if it is not too big or too big, there is a danger of sitting on the well and watching the sky.
◆ If a person wants to do something, he must think clearly beforehand. Especially when you change course and abandon the old road, you must balance your own reason. Accurately weigh the old road and the new road in two plates.
I teach children to write 600 words, online and so on. Many parents have the trouble of educating their children. Some people even say that educating children is simply planting potatoes in crying and swearing. But I feel that in the process of cultivating Yang Xia, I get much more happiness than distress.
Yang Xia's growth and learning process are basically carried out in happiness. At that time, I saw a theory that it is easier for children to learn anything when they are happy, but when they are depressed and nervous, their confidence will weaken. At this time, no matter how great an educator is, there is no way to face them. The only good way is to adjust your mood to be happy, confident and focused, and then start learning.
Since Yang Xia was a child, we have worked hard to create a happy family atmosphere for him, so that he can realize our educational goals with laughter and pleasure. Yang Xia's father is an optimistic and humorous person. Influenced by him, our family is always full of happy atmosphere. When the three of us are together, we like joking, watching sketches, listening to cross talk, telling humorous stories and having brain teasers. Sometimes because something is unpleasant, the three of us will play a joke, laugh at ourselves, or restrain ourselves, and the unhappiness will soon pass.
Any life will show special interest in certain objects. Once they are interested, it is a good educational opportunity. Yang Xia's study was completed in this reality. For example, when he was three years old, he might be interested in an ant, so I will tell him a lot about ants around this ant; When he is thirteen years old, maybe he will be interested in pop music and animation, and he can also exchange this knowledge with him. Interest and satisfaction always bring happiness. Therefore, through such guidance, we have gained a lot of knowledge about Yang Xia. When teaching him some knowledge, let him be interested first, and the following work will get twice the result with half the effort.
A lucky child should meet a restrained, patient parent who constantly seeks educational methods and makes unremitting efforts. At this point, Yang Xia's father and I try our best to be happy educators from the following aspects to avoid the unpleasant influence that may be caused to children.
1. If you don't educate your child when he is in a bad mood, it's easy to vent your emotions on him.
2. Don't start education or force children to learn things after they are depressed or just crying.
3. Strive to create a happy, encouraging and appreciative family atmosphere, so that children have a sense of accomplishment and realization in the family.
4. Try to be an optimistic and happy person. A happy person sees more of his own advantages when he looks at his children, while an unhappy person sees more of his own shortcomings when he looks at his children.
Suhomlinski, a great educator, believes that the syllabus and textbooks stipulate all kinds of knowledge for students, but they do not stipulate the most important thing for students-happiness. His educational belief is "to cultivate real people!" And a real person must have a sound personality and a healthy and happy mentality.
In Yang Xia's education, I always follow the principle of "happy education", no matter when we have conflicts with our children or when we discipline our children morally (I will talk about children's morality in detail). I believe that the children trained in this way will be full of self-motivation, creativity and cooperation spirit, no matter what work they are engaged in in in the future. He won't be afraid of any difficulties in growing up, and his life will be healthy and happy.
Similarities and differences between Confucius' Tao and Laozi's Tao The difference between tangible Tao and intangible Tao ~ The so-called tangible refers to the moral concepts and values that have certain subjective colors and are conveyed by positive and idealized persuasion and guidance, and have certain universality of the times.
Laozi's Taoism advocates starting from a realistic perspective, leading by example, matching words with deeds, influencing and guiding people around him step by step, moistening things quietly, accumulating personal resources for everyone, and reaching the realm of flying geese without trace.
What are the similarities and differences between Laozi's Tao and Mencius' Tao? Laozi's Tao is natural. Mencius' Taoism is spontaneous.
What is nature? Self-nature also.
What is spontaneity? It should be spontaneous.