Text/Psychologist Murong Tu/Network Since midnight last night, there have been people @ me in Weibo. The incident is about an article written by an industry colleague, entitled "Restricting children's normal communication with the opposite sex can easily lead to homosexuality", which was recommended by Sina. Teachers are well-known in the circle. When she said this sentence today, she could have a premonition that maybe she would be questioned, including myself. She had reservations about many opinions without thinking. However, I saw teacher H's response and netizens' reply, and accepted the invitation of friends in Weibo, and wrote it here to share with you. First of all, homosexual behavior is very common in the animal world. This is a fact without evidence. If you emphasize this point, you will be afraid to ask questions with far-fetched reasons. Man is a civilized animal, how can he compare with animals? Let's talk about things related to civilization ... The following words in brackets come from the Internet: Speaking of homosexuality, it has a long history in China. The earliest record can be found in ZaShuo: "Child molestation began in the Yellow Emperor." Zheng Feng in The Book of Songs has a description of "two people falling in love". There are a lot of records about homosexuality in Shang and Zhou Dynasties, which shows that this is indeed an ancient emotional form. In the Han Dynasty, men were very popular. According to records, from the great-grandfather of the Western Han Dynasty to Emperor Ning of the Eastern Han Dynasty, ten emperors all had such experiences. Liu Che, the most famous emperor of Hanwu, had as many as five same-sex couples. Ji Ru of Gaozu, Hong Ru of Wendi, Zhou Ren of Jingdi, Jin Shang of Wudi, Xuan Di's ancestor, the sage of Yuan Di, Chun Yuchang of Chengdi, Dong Xian of Mourning Emperor ... Because the Han Dynasty was not ashamed of homosexuality, these people were all recorded in the official history and became celebrities in history. It is famous for the same-sex love between Emperor Aidi of Han Dynasty and Dong Xian: Emperor Aidi shared a bed with Dong Xian, and Dong Xian held down Emperor Aidi's sleeve. Emperor Aidi couldn't bear to wake him up and cut his sleeve, so it was called "Broken Sleeve". Dong Xian and Eddie are like husband and wife, and even refuse to go home for a holiday. Eddie had to order Dong Xian's wife to live with Dong Xian in the palace. As a statue of the Ninth Five-Year Plan, it is incredible that Eddie is willing to share a man with another woman. At the same time, there are also homosexuals among literary and cultural celebrities, such as "Longyang" and "Parting Peach". Tchaikovsky, Wilde, Leonardo da Vinci, Chopin, Michelangelo, Kidd, Qu Yuan, many modern Chinese and foreign celebrities need not say more. Only Leslie Cheung, whom I deeply love, was not surprised when I learned that he was gay, but more blessed him because I loved him. I hope everyone can accept their sexual orientation as much as they like their works. It can be seen that human homosexuality is no secret, but it is not in the majority at any stage of cultural and social development, which can answer many people's concerns about population development, and 95% heterosexuals can fully undertake the task of reproducing. If it is necessary to say that homosexuality hinders the birth plan, it is not true at all, not to mention that technology can completely realize the desire of same-sex couples to have children. It depends on whether the two sides have reached an understanding and decided to form a family with children. As for children's education, it has been proved that heterosexual families and homosexual families are not necessarily different and different in the growth and influence of children's personality, and the probability of any problems is equal. Therefore, the theory of "carrying on the family line" provoked by homosexuality is untenable. The second challenge is about the narcissism of mainstream culture, a word and deed that people have always admired and imitated. How can the code of conduct be challenged and subverted by homosexuals? The so-called homophobia is partly due to the inability to open one's own cognition and belief to question, that is, to accept that there is another reasonable existence besides those "rules" that one firmly believes in, and to lose the ability to know the truth and accept differences. Because we have been required to be highly consistent and obey a system since childhood, our ability to think independently has been weakened. Social diversity and sexual diversity, whether you believe it or not, exist, not because it accounts for it. The third provocation, about sexual behavior, is considered normal and justified, and no one doubts it, nor does it feel ugly. However, men and women are considered disgusting, and even if such a picture is imagined, it is unacceptable. Parents who come to consult accuse their children of being indecent and hooligans. In fact, everyone has confused a concept, and it is obvious that same-sex behavior deviates from the essence of sexual relations under the premise of moral norms. The only way to enjoy sex is not to cooperate with penis and vagina. Masturbation, oral sex, masturbation, anal sex and the aid of sexual tools can all achieve sexual pleasure. Respect, openness and equality are the only prerequisites for sexual intercourse. In addition, they are all additional conditions given by the outside world. So this provocation is untenable. There is an unavoidable problem, and that is HIV (AIDS). It is unfair to pay attention to homosexual HIV among sexual minorities, but this does not mean that this phenomenon is more serious for heterosexuals. You should know that the proportion of heterosexuals is more, and they can still be infected through unsafe sex and drug abuse. It takes time to popularize knowledge and do a good job in publicity and prevention. There are public welfare organizations and national special funds concerned. I believe more people will get help and advice. Everyone is not afraid of HIV. Facing it with a good attitude is of great help to the recovery and stability of the disease. The fourth challenge is to talk about family relations under the China model. This is a complex relationship that can never be asphalt. Like a group of wool that can never be selected, all kinds of colors, thicknesses and materials are mixed together. Children carry too many parents' expectations and desires. Parents naturally want to improve themselves through their children. This is a terrible tendency, depriving children of their autonomy and basic requirements for survival, so many same-sex marriages against their will. Just because I can't face the decision made by my parents, I have heard my gay friends say feebly more than once, "I don't want my parents to get hurt." So, let an unsuspecting partner bear the harm? Then there is the formal marriage. I told my friends on the hotline more than once to be cautious, because it seems that one difficulty has been solved, in fact, there will be more difficulties in the future. Of course, I can understand that this is the only way to weigh, but we must be fully prepared to face the problems brought about by formal marriage. In the final analysis, when you can't cross and sort out the relationship with your family, there is no realistic possibility to solve the problem. The root of the problem lies in whether you have enough ability to be independent of those big hands who always want to control us. This part of the content can be said in time alone. The fifth provocation is related to the saying that everyone has a Brokeback Mountain psychologically. We are bisexual from the embryo, and then gradually determine a biological identity, but it does not mean that this is our psychological identity. Our love for the opposite sex or the same sex has nothing to do with biological identity. Everyone has one or two good same-sex friends since childhood, and that kind of brotherhood and girlfriends will leave a deep impression on people for a lifetime. Who can guarantee that there is no love and sexual fantasy in that attachment relationship? However, in most cases, this relationship has been sublimated into friendship, not lovers. In other words, some people who firmly defend the theory of the opposite sex actually reject the same sex that they don't know. Reverse formation is a defense mechanism, and their desires are resisted by an opposite view. Some people say that there are so many homosexuals now, and the momentum is still so strong. It seems that once TA is said to be bad, it will attract group opposition and attack. Once a website made unfair reports on sexual minorities, which led to the withdrawal of relevant content in the final negotiations. This can only show that the voice of the sexual minority is becoming more and more firm. As for the sudden increase in quantity, it is an illusion. There is a psychological phenomenon called the pregnant woman effect. It is said that a pregnant woman will find more pregnant women around her. What we pay attention to will feel that there are more of this around us. Since I came into contact with sexual minorities, apart from getting together regularly, TA is just the most common colleague, classmate and friend around us in life. However, we are now in contact with this group. In the past, everyone avoided this topic, and it was difficult for the parties to stand up and speak for themselves. If you ask me, it is not too much, or not enough, because in front of heterosexual groups, homosexuals, bisexuals and transgender people are a minority at any time, the so-called number. The seventh provocation was not provoked by homosexuality, but by teacher H, which aroused the feelings of the majority of sexual minorities and gay friendly people. After that, her self-defense will not achieve any purpose of benign communication. On the contrary, she is trying to safeguard her dignity, correctness and authority, making it difficult for everyone to see her kindness and sincerity. Judging from the personal accomplishment and professional quality of psychological counselors, it is really worrying. Please forgive Mr. Murong's unkind comments on his peers, which I didn't like to do before.