In the photo, Leah Dou smiled and Faye Wong smiled happily.
The scene in the photo is the New Year's party of the Ranyan Angel Fund held in 1 month this year.
This photo moved me very much. This mother-daughter relationship is really harmonious.
Faye Wong and Leah Dou give me the feeling that they are both mother and daughter and friends.
Few families in China can do this.
Think about it, what is the relationship between most of us and our mothers?
We love her very much, and she loves us very much, but we and she can't touch each other's world.
Why? Obviously, you can't be friends.
Your mother always says that she is good for you and helps you plan better, but this kind of kindness is not necessarily what you want. And the life you want, she doesn't understand.
Over time, apart from the short time at home, you don't have much communication at all. Look at the relationship between Faye Wong and Li Yan and Leah Dou. They can talk as equals, like sisters.
20 18, on the stage of "Fantasy City", Faye Wong and her mother embraced happily.
After Leah Dou's performance, Faye Wong lost control and rushed to the stage, hugged Leah Dou and said, "Great."
When He Jiong asked Leah Dou why he came to this program, Leah Dou said, "My mother asked me to come." Faye Wong smiled and said, "Nonsense!" The whole atmosphere is playful and lovely.
Leah Dou and Li Yan are not perfect children. Leah Dou dropped out of school, and Li Yan was born with cleft lip and palate.
But you will find that they are all sunny and confident.
Leah Dou wants to learn music, so Faye Wong gives her full support.
The mark on Li Yan's lips, she never felt anything.
I remember Faye Wong was once asked in an interview program, what if someone saw the angel print on Li Yan's lips and gave her a surprised look?
Faye Wong said, "Let's treat her like a normal child. Children's growth stage depends entirely on their parents' mentality. I really don't think she is a problem child now. I think she is very beautiful. She will take care of our mentality. If you have such a healthy mind. I think it should be no problem. Mom and dad think I'm beautiful. "
Therefore, we can see that Leah Dou rebelled in his own music and made achievements.
Li Yan is still young, but he has unlimited talents. He can draw and walk on the stage. He is simply an angel.
It can be said that the growth of Li Yan and Leah Dou has a lot to do with Faye Wong's selfishness.
For a long time, everyone said that Faye Wong was not a competent mother. Why?
Because of her two marriages. In many people's cognition, women should not divorce easily for their children.
But Faye Wong didn't take the established route. She was divorced twice, and then she was with her first lover, Nicholas Tse. This abnormal behavior is unacceptable. But this is Faye Wong.
After Faye Wong and Dou Wei divorced, she was asked what kind of father she wanted to find for Leah Dou. Faye Wong bluntly replied: "Tong Tong has a father, and I am looking for my other half."
How many Chinese mothers have this awareness? We are always used to flaunting Chinese mothers with greatness. In fact, a good mother really doesn't need greatness, she needs selfishness.
Like Faye Wong, she has been living with her heart and pursuing herself. Even after being divorced twice, will my daughter complain about her? No, what I saw was the child's worship of her.
I remember one year, at the Spring Festival Evening in Faye Wong, Leah Dou sent a dynamic show to her mother: "Look, this is my mother!"
In the face of netizens' doubts about Faye Wong, Li Yan dared to reply: "Is my mother a good mother? Are you clearer than me? "
No matter how Faye Wong is criticized by the outside world, Li Yan and Leah Dou love Faye Wong very much.
Indeed, Faye Wong is not a good mother in the traditional sense.
But why do so many so-called good mothers fail to raise healthy and happy children?
The biggest feature of a good mother in China is to sacrifice for her children.
In this case, you must be familiar with:
"For you, I can't bear to eat or wear."
"For you, I quit my job and have no self."
"I did it for your own good. Why did you let me down? "
Really, don't pay so much for the children.
Your love is great, but for children, it is a kind of suffocation, leaving them nowhere to escape.
Remember zhuyuchen's mother?
She once said in the program that zhuyuchen was everything to her, and she moved the kitchen wherever her son went to work.
Families in zhuyuchen don't need nannies. Everything depends on his mother.
His mother also proudly said, "I can give and support two Filipino maids."
Even more frightening, she also said that she had treated her son all her life and had no self at all.
She must control everything in zhuyuchen, not only her life, but also her feelings. Zhuyuchen also talked about her girlfriend, but her mother where will you go.
Such a mother sacrifices everything for her children, but is zhuyuchen really happy?
I remember in the program, zhuyuchen said that he felt lonely and no one understood him. He is afraid of such maternal love, but he dare not refuse.
Zhuyuchen is in her forties and hasn't got married, so is her sister. Asphyxiated maternal love never makes a happy child.
Your efforts have killed the child.
In fact, what children need is not a nanny-like mother, but an example.
Dong Qing once shared her parenting experience. She said that at the stage of becoming a mother, her life plan was completely out of order. No matter what you do, children are the first consideration.
The child's eating and drinking Lazar touched her heart.
She's confused. Is it necessary to give up self-growth and breakthrough for her children?
Until one day, her friend said to her, "What kind of person do you want your child to be? The easiest way is what kind of person you become first."
Dong Qing suddenly realized that she was back on the stage, looking for a breakthrough in her career.
In fact, she has done very well in the professional field.
Later, she said, "I don't want to give up the possibility of self-growth. I can't stop myself just because I have children. " I will try my best to make myself better, so that when my child grows up, he will have love and respect for me when he really understands. "
Yes, you must be what you want your children to be.
A dissatisfied mother will not raise a happy child. A decadent mother, children can not make progress, can not be excellent.
Faye Wong and Dong Qing are both successful mothers, and their success is only a little more selfish.
At any time, women should put themselves first. If you are happy and shining, your husband will love you more and your children will respect you more.
All love is based on a better self, not what you give.
Keeping growing up, being happy, being loyal to yourself and being selfish is the attitude that Chinese mothers should have.