The article I shared with you today comes from my friend Shui Mei's story. She is a super investor from the media circle, a serial entrepreneur with three mothers. She is the most popular investor on Douban, and her published personal finance books are also on the best-selling list of financial management books.

She has helped countless people change their views on financial management and built a moat of risk for more families. I also realized the freedom of wealth in this career.

If others feel uneasy about every change in life as an uncertain prediction, she can turn every change into an opportunity according to her own actual situation.

In addition to being an expert in investment, she is also an expert in self-management and time management. Today, listening to her share her understanding of self-motivation may also give you some inspiration from different angles.

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My current status

My name is Shuimei Wuyu, and there are three companies at present. Among them, Changtou School, which is doing online education, has been in its seventh year and is well known. In 215, a new private equity fund company was established, and in 217, a new company was established in Japan because of my interest in Japanese real estate.

The state of life is that there are three babies, DuDu is almost 4 years old, and the twin sorbet sisters have just turned 1 year old, which are all lively and worrying stages.

In addition, I basically keep reading 1 books a year, and the company writes 4 articles a week, which is about 7 words.

How?

Let's talk about how to do this. To balance the interests of work, family and self, the first thing to do is to arrange time reasonably. I have written three articles "Let Your Day Have 192 Hours-Time Management Cheats of Starting a Business" to elaborate on my time management.

here's a little more about how to multi-thread and multi-task.

Multi-threading and multi-task is a very common time management idea.

For example, going to a children's playground

For example, one of the most common means for most parents to take their baby is to take their son DuDu to a children's playground. But what I often see is that the children are already very old, and their parents are following closely in the children's playground, for fear of falling down. Children compete with children for toys, and parents rush to solve the problem at the first time.

The most exaggerated thing I've ever seen is that grandparents, parents and children bring a baby over 4 years old together. Every five minutes, the mother takes the baby out, feeds the children with water, fruits, snacks, wipes his sweat and undresses.

As for me taking Dudu to the children's playground, I started to let it go when I was about one and a half years old. I fell and got up, competing with children for toys to solve it myself. I am beside myself, reading and writing with this long blank time.

in this example, taking care of the baby (family part), career (off-site work) and interest (brushing books and drama) can be completed in a period of time. Of course, working in a children's playground is definitely not as efficient as working in an office, but at least it's done.

For example, taking a baby on weekends

Let's take another example. On Saturday, I take my baby, and I will take DuDu along the subway to go shopping. The purpose of following the subway is very simple, and it takes time. It takes 1 minutes to walk from home, 1 minutes to wait for the minibus, 1 minutes to take the minibus and 2 minutes to take the subway, which will take almost an hour.

Many parents with children like to drive directly to their destination. Send it to a children's playground or an interest class, thinking that interest classes can bring knowledge and ability to your baby.

I don't know that in fact, there is learning everywhere in life. I remember that when Dudu was more than 2 years old, it took him more than half an hour to learn to buy tickets at the subway station, and he played for 2 minutes after passing the security check. He kept asking me to put my bag in the security checkpoint, and repeated the security check five times. Finally, the security inspectors all finished with him, and I watched the fun. This kind of life experience and knowledge is far more vivid and useful than those in interest classes.

At the same time, the task of taking a baby has been completed during the journey, which itself follows the idea of this multi-threaded task.

Shopping also follows this idea. Apart from taking him to play, it certainly doesn't delay me from visiting my favorite clothing store and my favorite grocery store. Of course, there is also a snack bar that we both like. In this process, I didn't delay my fun, nor did I delay taking care of my baby.

Not only that, observing the people around you, interacting with salespeople, knowing how to buy things, calculating prices, and even experiencing how to choose and endure desires are all very important life education. These experiences are also something that interest classes can't give.

One day, I bought my favorite clothes. He learned mathematics by price, words by toy packaging, and even learned cross-cultural communication (we once met two foreigners, one of whom was good at Chinese, and talked with me about educational ideas for an hour, and the other who didn't know Chinese played with Dudu in English for half a day). I also learned how to buy subway tickets, how to strike up a conversation with children in toy stores, how to praise the little beauties who put together tables in restaurants, and so on.

During this process, I had a full communication with Dudu one day, and he also had a more direct experience and study of real life, which was a great success. When I go home in the evening, Dudu often says, well, I am very satisfied and I will come out to play next week!

For example, blind date

The multi-thread and multi-task thinking mode should run through the whole life. I once chatted with a friend, and she said that she had been dating frequently recently, and sometimes she couldn't get rid of the introduction of acquaintances, which was very boring.

I suggested to her that you make a list of the delicious restaurants you want to eat in Shanghai, and choose a restaurant you want to go to every date, no matter how boring, at least you have a favorite restaurant. If you date dozens of times, you will not only become a dating expert, but also be a food critic.

No matter how bad it is, like me, you have to write a public number every day. Every time you observe the blind date, you can make up an article, and you can also make up a food review in the restaurant. How great!

In this way, we can make the boring blind date interesting, turn the embarrassment of blind date into an appointment to taste delicious food, feel better, and of course we will have a good time.

For example, traveling on weekends

As Dudu grows up, I will take him to the neighboring cities of Jiangsu and Zhejiang on weekends to meet new friends. Take the train, stay in different hotels, meet new friends in different cities and visit new places. Eva had a good time, and I also had the happiness of traveling.

Now that the twins are growing up, I sometimes take them with me when I go out. Of course, I have to take my aunt with me, and I want to go wherever I want. I can recruit a children's tour group when the twins grow up, and I can't help but have a little expectation, haha.

I don't have 25 hours a day, and I don't have an extra leg than others. All I can do is to do what I can to be more efficient, or at least, to make myself happier and more comfortable.

About how to make yourself comfortable, you should learn to be lazy.

The most important guiding ideology in life: laziness

Being a lazy mother is the most important guiding ideology for me to take care of my baby, and being a lazy leader is the most important guiding ideology in my work. By extension, laziness is simply the most important guiding ideology in my life!

apply it to work

I found out that I was pregnant with a second child in early p>216. Soon after, I was surprised/horrified to find that I was pregnant with twins. At that time, the problem was that Dudu was only 2 years old, and Changtou School began to develop in great strides. When pregnant with twins, her reaction was particularly serious, and she was sleepy, irritable and her physical strength dropped seriously.

what should I do? Only lazy!

When I was pregnant with twins for about three or four months, my physical strength was seriously reduced, and I was often short of breath, so I started to take a small oxygen bottle with me, so I began to drastically reduce my working hours, which could not exceed four hours a day, and the rest time was lying down to sleep and rest.

However, my work will not stop because of this, so I keep thinking about what is the most important thing.

I should choose reliable working partners, set clear strategic goals and standardize work processes. What's left is that you don't have to do everything yourself, fully authorize, and let your colleagues work hard towards their goals.

to tell you the truth, I did it. After the third trimester of pregnancy and a period of postpartum vacation, the working hours are insufficient, but the team continues to create good results. Especially in the month when I was confined, the team performance reached the highest value, which led me to think for a long time whether they would do better without me, huh!

Being lazy doesn't make my work worse. On the contrary, being diligent in thinking about "what is the most important thing" makes me more focused, so that I can take care of my career and family.

So what I often say to the team now is "Imagine that you are a seven-month pregnant woman who can only work four hours a day. What are the most important things you would choose to do?"

thus forcing them not to work overtime blindly, but to think about more efficient and focused working methods.

It is used to take care of the baby

Next, I will consider Dudu, and send him to a kindergarten nearby. Before that, he was always taken care of by his grandparents during the day and I took care of him myself at night. To tell the truth, if it weren't for the second child, I might not have sent him to preschool so early, but fortunately Dudu quickly adapted to this rhythm.

Then I began to be lazy in front of him. My mother was so tired that she wanted to sleep. My mother wanted to hug and kiss. My mother wanted to drink water and chew watermelon. Please help her. Yes, during that time, Dudu was very good and learned to do all kinds of things within his power.

As a result of being a lazy mother, Dudu is more concerned about people and more independent.

after the twins were born, I also continued this lazy style. Oh, mom doesn't have time to hug. Go and play with my brother. Now the three little ones can play with each other for a long time. Alas, this little popsicle colleague, I don't have time to make a decision on this matter. Why don't you discuss a solution with other colleagues (such as DuDu, such as sorbet)?

mobilizing the masses to fight against them is the best kung fu for a mother to be a leader.

Of course, being a lazy mother will also include not over-managing your life.

For example, our twins have no stage of fine complementary food. At first, breast milk was mixed with milk powder, and soon it was changed to milk powder. Then there is rice flour. After 5 months, complementary food is added, and then porridge is directly fed. Basically, I didn't experience other children, bought all kinds of food, and smashed it with a blender. The reason is very simple, no time.

Use it to give yourself a holiday

Of course, being lazy also includes leaving enough time and space for your mother.

on my typical day, I wake up around 7: , and the chicken flies like a dog, and I take turns with my father (who has usually gone home) and an aunt (the other one is going to buy food at 6: ) to wash, have breakfast, change clothes and feed the baby, and then send DuDu to kindergarten. Leave for the company at 8: 3, and then it is strictly working hours until 6 pm.

I get home at 6 o'clock until 8: 3 pm, which is the time to play with my baby. I take my baby all day on Saturday. But on Sunday, my grandparents help me with toot toot, and this day belongs to me completely (of course, I don't rule out baby's illness, business trip, unexpected events, etc.), reading books, playing drama, eating a good meal, and occasionally going out to see a movie by myself or something.

If you rest on Sunday, you will be a hero again on Monday!

Some people question that there is no time to read 1 books. Come on, let's do the math. Every night at 8: 3, I sleep with Dudu. At about 11: in the middle of the night, I will automatically wake up (the sequelae of feeding before) and start reading with kindle for about 2-3 hours. Plus Sunday, I spend about 12-15 hours a week reading, and it is the whole period of uninterrupted time. I used to read books at a relatively fast speed, which is not to mention three books a week.

Being lazy, of course, requires some preconditions.

In fact, my life is basically divided into work, family and personal interests. When you work, bury your head in your work. When you take care of your baby, you will basically be isolated from your work, and then leave some time for yourself, whether it is reading a book, watching a drama or gossiping.

such a life is certainly not perfect. When the baby is sick, he will be exhausted, but basically, he has not delayed any aspect.

being lazy, of course, requires some preconditions.

first of all, it is the economic foundation.

Once, my aunt took my baby out with me and said that the children's playground was so expensive. I joked that it was my aunt and the house that were the biggest expenses. Children's paradise can be played for less than 2 yuan for one year, but the salary of two aunts is more than 1 thousand a month, which can't be compared at all.

Money can buy time and human leverage. In other words, if you have no money, of course, you can raise a second child, so you have to spend enough time on it yourself.

secondly, we have to make some choices.

some people will say that your own company, with flexible time, can certainly do a lot of things. Yes, my own company, the time is very flexible. But the same is entrepreneurship. Why do some entrepreneurial mothers work overtime all night and can't take care of their babies at all, so I can get off work on time and set aside time to play with my baby?

that's because in my values, career is important, but family and children are also important. I won't sacrifice my career for my children, just as I won't sacrifice my family for my career. If we add a third factor, it's the same for me. Reading books is my pleasure (so is writing public numbers). I will not completely sacrifice myself for my career and family.

Compared with the average working mother, the extra time I have is mainly in commuting, 5 minutes' walk and 3 minutes' bike ride from my company to my home. But this is also a choice. I chose not to buy a house, but to rent a house. I think time is more important than the house.

finally, of course, it is the support of people around you.

thanks to my two full-time aunts, it seems that there are many people, but considering that they have to take three days off, take care of two twins, and cook lunch for 5 people in the company five days a week, I have to say that compared with me, our aunt is really versatile!

Dad also takes on important responsibilities, such as twins waking up early in the morning, an aunt leaving early to buy food and cook, an aunt getting up early to wash, and her mother accompanying DuDu. So dad pushed one on his back, and one person took the twins around the community for more than an hour, and bought breakfast and went home.

Grandparents are responsible for Dudu's entertainment activities from class to dinner. Although grandparents live far away, they usually don't participate, but when the baby is sick, it is incumbent on them to move their luggage for a few days until we tide over the difficulties.

Dudu once took an advertising paper and recorded a thank-you note to grandpa's mobile phone. At the beginning, I said I love you, mom. Then I said I also love grandpa and auntie, and I also love Aunt Qu and Aunt Zhou. Then it was my father's turn and my two sisters' turn.

DuDu's words are also from my heart. It is not enough for a home to be a home. Only with the support of people around it can it be a home.

A company can't be a company with only its founder. It needs about 5 full-time colleagues, 1 part-time colleagues and more than 1 million users.

Only with such support can I make a limited day 24.