British psychologists once defined this phenomenon as a "temporary emotional crisis", because when two people have been involved in each other's lives, it is easy to lose their original freshness.
They will even deny their own choices when they find each other's shortcomings, which will greatly widen the distance between them.
In fact, people with high emotional intelligence should know that the sweetness in love is accumulated from some trivial ordinary things.
After all, the essence of life is dull, and adding points from small things can make our feelings more stable today.
Life needs a sense of ceremony, and anniversaries need some small gifts.
Life is sometimes like blue water. When the breeze blows, there will be small ripples, and throwing a stone into it will make a splash.
When the feelings between lovers are getting more and more dull, if you can't feel the waves of love in each other's bodies, you might as well throw some small stones to break this emotional deadlock and let the two people return to their original state.
This small stone is actually some small surprises in life, and the life between lovers needs a sense of ritual and the like to adjust. When you feel that the other person doesn't love you so much, you might as well recall some habits when you are in love. From time to time, you will go to kisses and hugs, choose a dress that she likes for each other, send a bunch of flowers, and have a romantic candlelight dinner on the anniversary of love.
Some people say that the correct way to love someone is not to give her what you feel, but to take the initiative to understand her preferences and give her what she expects most.
Sweet words cannot be lost, which is an important nourishment for emotional development.
In the process of love development, both men and women will gradually have such questions, "Does he/she still love me?"
On the one hand, it expresses the confusion of love, and at the same time it indicates that your relationship has entered another new stage. Every pair of love has a shelf life, and it is more reliable for lovers to get along with each other, although it is more often in action.
But sweet words have to be said to be a good medicine to regulate love and a skin care product to moisten love.
Couples with high emotional intelligence will never be stingy with their compliments when they are in love. They don't use sweet words as a tool to perfunctory each other, but know how to praise each other from the heart.
Be good at looking at each other's everything with the eyes of discovering beautiful things, so as to tap each other's bright spots.
Sweet love words are like fermented candy. When you start to give endless encouragement and praise to your lover, you will find yourself expressing your appreciation and love for him.
At the same time, when the other person senses your affection, he will give back accordingly. As the saying goes, "what is right is right", the love between lovers is cultivated through running-in with each other. Giving him a warm heart is better than thousands of negative energy complaints.
There will inevitably be friction in life, and knowing how to communicate and understand is the way to operate.
Some people have been going downhill from falling in love to getting married. Friction and collision in life, trivial daily life, let two people from the original mutual admiration of lovers, gradually become the most familiar strangers.
In fact, this is a necessary stage in emotional life. When you feel that the other person doesn't love you so much, you should think about it. How long has it been since you sat down and talked calmly?
Even if there are many disappointments in life, hiding them in your heart and not expressing them will only make disappointment and pain occupy all your thoughts.
Lovers are not worms in our stomachs. There is no need to take you for granted. Only by learning to communicate and understand can we keep our feelings in good condition.
In love, no matter big or small, some seemingly casual little moves will wake up that long-sleeping heart.