The world is unfair, at least in origin, everyone is born unequal.
What is inferiority complex?
If you search Baidu's official explanation: inferiority is a complex feeling that you can't control yourself or that you are weak, that is, you look down on yourself and feel inferior to others everywhere.
Inferiority, like poverty, often accompanies many people's lives like diseases.
This reminds me of a person, a legendary woman and fashion master-coco chanel.
I am not a fashion lover, and even I hate all things that are labeled and symbolized, because it will limit one's cognitive freedom.
However, when I finished reading coco chanel's legendary life, I was in awe of her experience, or rather, I was amazed at his complex and contradictory emotions and realized a particularly important point:
It turns out that inferiority complex not only appears in the poor, but also in the rich.
Next, let me take you into the history of this legendary woman.
Coco chanel, formerly known as Brill Chanel, is a lonely girl who grew up in a monastery. Although she has been trying to hide her life story all her life, after all, the birth certificate cannot be changed.
Her parents are poor, her father is a commodity vendor, and her mother is a cowherd in a ravine. She was born in a poor man's yard.
This is already a disconnected family. Who knows that at the age of 6, my mother died of illness again. Her irresponsible father left her and four brothers and sisters, and her whereabouts are unknown.
Her humble background became the root of her inferiority complex.
As an orphan, she was sent to the monastery with her sisters, while her two younger brothers were sent to the farmhouse and became child laborers.
The real nightmare began.
Chanel, who was originally lively, was full of poverty, tears and sympathetic eyes in her childhood.
According to her own description, "She wears black clothes every day, her hands are shriveled, her eyes are cold and her chest is wrapped in a black shawl. The depressing and dignified atmosphere in the monastery stifled the colorful nature of the girls. "
Young Chanel tried to resist, but she was always caught by nuns and taught a lesson. So, the poor girl, in order to avoid all this, began to wander around the cemetery near the church.
For her, the person buried under the tombstone seems to have more life, because she can pour out her misfortune to the dead and open her heart to them.
"As long as someone misses him, then the deceased is not dead," she told herself.
Chanel is not a death addict. She came to the cemetery to find a sense of security, because the dead don't hurt people.
More importantly, she wants to find a sense of superiority, similar to "queen-like" superiority, because compared with the dead, at least she is alive.
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As an adult, Chanel is like a broken kite, a prisoner who has seen the light of day. With her talent for singing and dancing, she is desperate to devote herself to this romantic place.
Chanel's goal is simple and clear, that is to change her living environment.
Does this remind you of "China's legendary woman"-Wendi Deng?
As the saying goes, many things happen. This smart and charming monastery girl began to be invited by officers to attend their private parties in the small park.
This is why Chanel has been given a new stage name by military fans, called Coco, which comes from the name of a puppy in her performance lyrics.
Later, she simply changed her name from "Brier" to "Coco", which was also the unbearable life before "farewell".
In this way, KTV in the park gave birth to a generation of fashion godmothers and the name of a great luxury brand.
As mentioned above, if Chanel's purpose is to attract the attention of powerful people, then she did it with her own efforts.
A young officer, "Bashang", who was born in a famous family, fell in love with this lively and handsome girl.
Bachang is a dude. After retirement, he bought a luxury manor in Bocheng, France.
After so many childhood hardships, Chanel knows very well that this is a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity. Once she jumps on the boat, she won't be easily left behind.
Therefore, Chanel pestered repeatedly, aroused Bashang's sympathy with her own life experience, and finally made Bashang reluctantly take her back to her villa.
She often confides to Bashang: "I have wanted to be loved since I was a child, and I am thinking about how to commit suicide every day." Otherwise, I will jump off the elevated railway ... "
However, although Chanel got the right to live in Bashang House, in the "harem" on Bashang, Chanel had a long way to go for promotion.
This is because Bachang is not Chanel's only mistress. At that time, there were often all kinds of gentle and graceful women coming in and out of the manor.
Among them, the most famous is a beautiful woman named Emilianna Dalancon. She was the mistress of Belgian King Leopold II, and until her retirement, she was still the darling of men.
Dalanken is 14 years older than Chanel, but she is the favorite mistress of Pakistani businessmen. Moreover, every time a celebrity visits, Chanel even hides and eats with the people below.
However, these grievances are nothing to Chanel, because all the "costs" are worth it as long as they can get close to the upper class.
Therefore, Chanel accepted the reality wisely, and began to absorb nutrients from the upper class, learn the methods of those romantic ladies, and constantly study her craft-tailor in her spare time.
If the relationship between Chanel and Bachang is an exchange of interests, then the appearance of Arthur capel, another most important man in her life, is really out of her plan.
Capel is a wealthy industrialist and a close friend of Pakistani businessmen, with British aristocratic blood and gentlemanly demeanor.
On this day, at the invitation of Pakistani businessmen, capel went hiking in the manor. Handsome bronzed capel rode a big horse, which turned Chanel into a little girl in an instant.
"I was intoxicated by his carelessness and his green eyes. I realized that I was in love with him. I have never loved Mr. Bachang. "
One day, she suddenly heard that capel was leaving Bo, so she panicked. Then she inquired about the specific time and train number of capel.
The next day, Chanel arrived at the station with a suitcase and boarded the train to Paris with capel.
At that time, Chanel was 26 years old and she knew exactly what she was doing. She doesn't want to be a man's accessory. Besides being rich in money, Chanel also expects to pursue "independence and freedom".
Knowing Chanel's departure, Bachang suddenly realized what it meant to "know the value after losing it".
Three days later, Bachang followed her to Paris, but Chanel resolutely refused to go back.
After coming to Paris, Chanel fell in love with capel's gentle male authority and his gentlemanly demeanor, which made her more integrated into the upper class.
But capel still can't get rid of the romantic charm of men, which also leads him to be merciful everywhere, and his mistresses are like horses on the field.
Although capel once said that Chanel was his favorite woman, powerful men kept women as pets at that time, but they didn't give her sincerity.
Chanel has seen through all this, so she asked capel to open a hat shop for herself.
When capel was infatuated with mistress, she hid in the apartment alone to design clothes and hats and mend her dreams.
After such a long time, Chanel began to feel dissatisfied with being kept by men. She decided to get rid of capel's golden cage and become a truly independent woman.
Chanel suggested to capel and her predecessor Bachang that she would start a business.
Two helpless people discussed it and decided to share Chanel's start-up funds. Although ostensibly supported, in fact, the two privately confirmed that this "hat shop" was just a toy they gave her.
Out of dissatisfaction with the living environment, Chanel is mixed with humbleness, frustration and injustice. She wants to beat them, just like facing the dead in the cemetery when she was a child. She wants to pursue the feeling of being superior.
19 10, coco chanel officially established her first fashion shop in Paris, which was the starting point of a fashion empire named after her. However, her first loyal customers were the mistresses and important friends of her two former men, including the mistresses of Bachang-Dalancon mentioned earlier.
Because of Chanel's humble background and the deep imprint of her childhood life, she embodies the psychology of surpassing herself everywhere in her design: she should not pursue fashion, but create it.
Because of this, she made a bold breakthrough in the design of clothing. Chanel invented a brand-new way of dressing women, freeing them from corsets.
Young Chanel showed her enthusiasm for power generation. She has opened up a real path of her own, and even expanded the fashion website.
But just as her career was booming, capel married Diana, the "right" wife, which surprised Chanel, but she could only pretend to be calm.
It never rains but it pours. When Chanel was busy with her booming career, a bad news reached her ears.
19 19 12.22, capel died in a car accident. This time, Chanel was heartbroken.
She said, "Without capel, I lost everything."
To express her condolences, Chanel painted the shutters of the villa black. At the same time, during this time, she also fell madly in love with Blake.
She believes that black can overwhelm all colors and express the deepest feelings.
Thus, the classic little black dress was born.
Some people say that Chanel designed the little black dress in memory of the love of her life, capel.
It is also said that Chanel is obsessed with black because of her humble background, which makes her like to use simplicity instead of luxury to cover up her childhood poverty.
But no matter what the truth is, Chanel's desire for lovers is heavy and lasting, because after Keppel's death, she never got married.
I think many people know what happened later.
Coco chanel has become the spokesperson of new women's self-confidence, independence and modernity. Her clothes, perfume and stories of self-struggle have inspired and inspired generations of women to surpass themselves and pursue their dreams.
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However, does this seemingly legendary woman really surpass herself?
Some people say that although Chanel proudly holds her chin up, she has not completely got rid of her inferiority complex, or that she can't face up to her past and can only keep making up her childhood with lies.
After her success, she described her humble father as an elegant horse dealer, described her childhood monastery as luxurious and gorgeous, turned a blind eye to her former friends and early patrons, and even paid off her brothers and sisters with money to pretend that they never existed.
She imagines herself as a princess without any brothers or sisters, and she spares no effort to defend her self-esteem with lies.
Even though her background is well known, she still chooses to fill another lie with one.
Psychologist Maslow once put forward the ultimate level of human needs, that is, self-realization needs, which include peak experience and spiritual growth.
The main personality traits of self-actualizers are: on the one hand, they hate evil, on the other hand, they are extremely tolerant of the fragility of human nature.
Coco chanel, one of the most legendary women in the 20th century, always hides her identity as an orphan, nightclub singer, mistress and Nazi spy, and shows great sympathy and tolerance for her life experience.
However, for strangers, she is more demanding.
For example, in the face of a strike during the Great Depression in France, a homeless worker once asked him for a raise, but her reply was direct and cold: since I also climbed from the bottom, there is naturally no reason to consider your feelings, because all the gains need to be won by myself.
Inferiority is often accompanied by strong self-esteem.
197 1 year 1 month 1 day, coco chanel died in his long-stay hotel at the age of 88.
Before she died, she told the maid that "it's no big deal to die" and left a last wish that no one should see her after death.
You see, a person can face death bravely, but he can't face himself calmly and still stubbornly safeguard his dignity.
I believe many people are familiar with coco chanel's life.
Let's go back to the beginning of this article: Inferiority is sometimes like poverty, and even seemingly powerful people may not be able to completely overcome it.
Some people say that inferiority is due to lack of care;
It is also said that inferiority is due to excessive competitiveness;
Some people even say that they feel inferior because they have nothing at the age of vanity.
Frankly speaking, there are thousands of reasons for inferiority, which may occur at the turning point of your past experience, but we can't study the facts. After all, "Rome was not built in a day."
Why don't I tell another legendary story, and maybe you can get some inspiration from it.