Relax yourself and try to give yourself some good psychological hints. We are all brothers, there is nothing to be afraid of, and since we haven’t seen each other for such a long time, I won’t neglect you.
Don’t stress negative consequences to yourself. We should not always give ourselves reminders like "I fell down here yesterday", "There are always traffic accidents on this road", etc. Because the more this happens, the more nervous we will feel. Therefore, smart people should avoid using the lessons of failure to remind themselves, but should use more positive hints, such as: "If you walk more steadily, you won't fall", "You should slow down when passing this section of the road", etc. . This kind of positive hints and guidance is much better than always stressing negative results to yourself.
Use the "car warm-up" method to adjust your mood. Drivers all know that the engine must be warmed up before the car is put on the road, so as to ensure the car is in good driving condition, and the same goes for doing things. Don’t rush into work on Monday morning when you’re still recovering from weekend syndrome. You can communicate with colleagues first, or read last week's work diary first. After you "warm up" your mood, you can enter the work state with a new look. Meet challenges when you are at your best.
Everyone has his or her own "emotional cycle", and sometimes people will inevitably fall into an inexplicable depression phase. At this time, you should do some simple tasks first and don't add too much burden to yourself. We can deal with difficult problems when our emotions are high, because a good mood can inspire full enthusiasm for work, encourage people to increase their confidence, and create a desire to overcome difficulties. When people meet challenges in a good state, they can downplay difficult emotions. Don’t label yourself a failure. Don't always say to yourself, "My abilities are really not good," "I lack the skills to adapt," "Everyone doesn't like me," etc. You know, sometimes the person who can really knock you down is yourself. Therefore, don’t always label yourself a failure “trademark” of “this won’t work, that won’t work.” Instead, you should give yourself more encouragement and confidence. Believe that you are no worse than others, and success will definitely belong to those who are confident!
The influence of psychological suggestions on people
Psychology believes that people have a tendency to consciously or unconsciously maintain their "autonomous" status and are unwilling to be interfered or interfered with by others. control. From this point of view, the effect of suggestion is often greater than that of direct persuasion or instruction or command. Simply telling the child: "Go to bed!" "Close your eyes!" often does not work, and sometimes it makes the child more excited. At this time, you might as well tell a story to your child in bed: "One day, the little duck wanted to go out to play. His mother told him that all the other children were sleeping. The little duck didn't listen. When he walked to the river, he saw that the fish were all sleeping. When I walked to the woods, I saw that the puppies were all asleep. When I walked to the field, the chickens were all sleeping. They were all sleeping, and they all closed their eyes. Mom said it. Yes, I want to sleep too. So, he..." When telling stories, pay attention to using a monotonous and tired voice, while constantly repeating "sleep", "close your eyes", etc. The sound gradually weakened, and finally disappeared. You close your eyes and yawn as you tell the story. Give it a try, it’s very effective!
There is a factory in Tennessee, USA, and many workers are recruited from nearby rural areas. Because these workers are not used to working in the workshop, they always feel that there is too little air in the workshop, so they have many concerns and their work efficiency naturally decreases. Later, the factory tied thin silk scarves on the windows. These silk scarves kept fluttering, suggesting that air was pouring in through the windows. The workers thus got rid of their "heart problems" and their work efficiency improved accordingly.
Suggestions not only affect people's psychology or behavior, but also cause people's physiological changes. In the laboratory, subjects are repeatedly given large amounts of sugar water. After testing, it can be found that physiological changes such as increased blood sugar, glycosuria, and increased urine output are found. Later, when no sugar water was given, the experimenter used language to imply that the above physiological changes would also occur.
This experiment shows that verbal cues can replace physical objects and provide exciting stimulation to the human brain. Although the subject did not drink sugar water, the human brain still participated in the metabolism of sugar in the body. People often say "looking at plum blossoms to quench thirst" is also due to the positive influence of suggestion.
Someone once conducted an experiment on "artificial imprinting". A piece of wet paper the size of a stamp was applied to the subject's skin and told that the skin would become feverish after being applied. After a while, when the paper was removed, the skin turned red. Others put a metal coin on the suggester's arm, suggesting that the coin had just been roasted on a fire and would scald the skin. Not long after, blisters formed on the underside of the coin, showing signs of second-degree burns.
Many energetic people, once they know that they are suffering from a certain disease (especially "incurable diseases" such as cancer, etc.), they immediately become depressed, bedridden, and have no desire to eat, and their condition rapidly deteriorates. Aggravation, or even death in a short period of time, a large part of the reason is due to psychological suggestion. An elderly woman in Sweden suspected she had a terminal illness after a church pastor visited her three times in one day after suffering only a cold. A few days later, she died of a nervous breakdown. Reader, can you visit and care for patients? Please don't put on a pitiful expression on your face!
Implications have both positive and negative meanings. When their children take the college entrance examination, their parents always tell them: "Don't be nervous." When their children do not do well in school, their parents always scold them: "They are so stupid." When their children are picky eaters, their parents tell them in front of their children: "He won't eat cabbage"; when a child wets the bed, parents always defend him: "He can't hold in his urine"; these can encourage certain bad tendencies. Repeated hints can cause the other party to form a corresponding psychological orientation, producing an effect opposite to the parents' wishes.
Looking at Plum Blossoms to Quench Thirst and Psychological Suggestions
During the Three Kingdoms period, Cao Cao led his troops to attack Zhang Xiu. It was between July and August, the sun was blazing and there were no clouds in the sky. The soldiers were unbearably thirsty and their marching speed slowed down significantly. Several weak soldiers fainted by the roadside due to exhaustion. Cao Cao was very anxious when he saw this, thinking that if this situation continued, the troops would not be able to reach their destination as scheduled, and their combat effectiveness would be greatly weakened. So he called the guide and asked if there was any water source nearby. The guide said that the nearest water source was on the other side of the valley, which was quite a distance away. After Cao Cao pondered for a while, he put his horse under his belly and rushed to the front of the team. Then he turned his horse's head happily and said to the soldiers: "Soldiers, there is a large plum forest in front of us. The plums there are red and must be delicious. Let's Speed ??up the pace, we will reach Merlin after passing this hill!" When the soldiers heard this, they couldn't help but feel excited, and their pace quickened a lot.
Psychological analysis: Cao Cao, an outstanding military strategist and politician in history, intentionally or unintentionally used a very important psychological phenomenon in psychology - suggestion. Suggestion is the most common psychological phenomenon. It means that people or the surrounding environment send messages to individuals in verbal or non-verbal ways, and the individuals unconsciously accept this message and make certain psychological or behavioral responses. Russian psychologist Pavlov believed that suggestion is the simplest and most typical conditioned reflex of human beings.
Psychological cues are always widely used by people, intentionally or unintentionally. For example, the famous "Rosenthal effect" is an authoritative suggestion. Teachers have positive expectations for children, and leaders give appropriate praise to subordinates. , can be like the "large plum forest" described by Cao Cao to the soldiers, which can make the person being suggested "so energetic that the pace can't help but speed up a lot."
Not only Cao Cao, but everyone living in society will engage in suggestive activities. A positive and well-intentioned attitude often gives positive hints, giving others the strength to overcome difficulties and keep making progress; conversely, a negative and bad attitude will cause others to be affected by negative hints and become cold, discouraged, withdrawn, and dispirited Depression and so on. As the saying goes, "A kind word warms a person for three winters, but a bad word hurts a person for six months." This is what the saying goes. Therefore, when we find that others may be prompted by us, we must also pay attention to the way and degree of the hint, and try to make others accept positive and moderate hints.