Children are often the ones who suffer the most after a couple divorces.

After a couple divorces, whether the children follow their father or their mother, the psychological impact on them is huge.

If a couple cannot wait to remarry after divorce, the harm to their children will undoubtedly be even worse.

Most children after remarriage cannot feel the warmth of the family in their new families.

Because parents remarry after divorce, children come to new families and face a lot of unfair treatment while growing up. Some children are even abused by their stepfather or stepmother.

When I was in elementary school, a new neighbor came next door. They were a couple with two daughters and a son.

My husband works in a county 20 kilometers away and comes back once a week.

His son's name is Ashan, who is two years younger than me. He is very lively and cute, and we soon became a good playmate.

But we found that Ah Shan’s mother and two sisters often beat and scolded him, and they hit him very hard every time.

The reasons for beating and scolding Ashan were all trivial matters.

Not only did he beat and scold Ah Shan every now and then, but he also didn’t let Ah Shan eat enough at every meal.

Seeing that Ah Shan was often hungry and bruised, our family sympathized with him very much and often gave Ah Shan steamed buns to eat.

At first we were very puzzled as to why our mother would treat her child so cruelly.

Later I found out that the mother who often beat and scolded Ah Shan was not his biological mother.

It turns out that Ah Shan’s father divorced Ah Shan’s mother when Ah Shan was 6 years old. After the divorce, Ah Shan lived with his father.

Ah Shan’s father married his current stepmother when Ah Shan was 7 years old. The stepmother brought her two daughters, the two sisters who now live with Ah Shan.

Every time he came home on weekends, he would see his son bruised and bruised. Although the cowardly father Ashan was heartbroken, he often dared to get angry and dare not speak out.

Due to long-term abuse by his stepmother and two older sisters, Ah Shan’s young mind was greatly damaged.

Later Ashan ran away from home. Because he made friends with some gangsters, he went astray and embarked on the road of crime.

After the neighbors learned about this incident, they all said that Ashan’s father was the culprit.

It was Ah Shan’s father’s careless remarriage and cowardice that harmed Ah Shan.

Therefore, it can be seen that the divorce of parents is very harmful to children.

You need to be more cautious when remarrying after divorce. You must think twice before fully understanding the other person’s character, personality, and qualities.

Because everyone has a selfish side, after remarrying, it is difficult to maintain an even relationship between one's own children and the children of the other party.

When one party is relatively strong, the children of the other party will be treated more or less unfairly. In the end, the children of the weaker party will inevitably be harmed.

A heinous incident occurred in Shanxi last year: a 12-year-old girl was beaten into a vegetative state by her stepmother.

Her father almost didn't recognize her when he saw her in the hospital. My daughter’s hair was shaved off, her whole body was covered with instruments, her face was black and blue, her eyes were swollen and sealed, her philtrum was pinched and there were blood stains, there were more than 30 bloody scabs on her back, and the roots of her thighs were suppurating. You can imagine the cruelty of her stepmother’s actions at that time. .

Even if a twelve-year-old child made a huge mistake, he should not be killed in such a painful way.

This shows how cruel the stepmother is. If the daughter's father could be more cautious when remarrying with his children, and make a decision after fully understanding the other person's character, perhaps the tragedy would not have happened.

Being able to be so vicious to a 12-year-old child shows how vicious this stepmother is.

The girl’s father definitely did not have a comprehensive understanding of this woman when he remarried, and he must have made a choice based on impulse.

As the saying goes: "Marriage is not a trivial matter." This is true for first marriages, but remarriage requires even more caution, because it is not only related to whether the couple can live in harmony, but it is also related to whether the children can grow up healthily. .