Once upon a time, I hated hearing the word maturity. Because every time I hear someone say: "Yu, you need to be more mature." I immediately understand that it is time for self-sacrifice again. Gradually, I discovered that the "maturity" that others asked me to say was not really mature. What they call "maturity" is tied up in their requirements for me.

But since I became an online writer, I began to like the word mature. I discovered true maturity in the place my elders considered most immature: the Internet. On the Internet, there are both rebellious personalities and rational and objective thinking. It seems that everyone on the Internet is engaged in an important activity, which is to constantly update themselves. I think this is true maturity.

The so-called true maturity is a process of constantly feeling that the past self is a ***. Those who say "Think about those days" and like to defend their past will have their lives getting worse and worse. people.

A book says: True maturity is the transparency after experiencing the hardships of the world, the refinement after the vicissitudes of life; rather than the complacency after experiencing setbacks. Many people who appear to be mature are like fruits that fall to the ground before they are ripe. They appear to be ripe, but in fact they are bitten by insects and rotten.

I suddenly realized that I have summarized several truly mature standards.

1. When you finally become silent, maturity has just begun.

Going to work early in the morning, the grade director began to convey the principal's message again, that the school should be first in the junior high school and third in the high school in three years. All the teachers in the room complimented the director like a chicken blood, patting their chests and saying that following the leader would have a bright future. I couldn't be happy because I thought that crazy overtime work was coming again, but my salary would not be increased. I fell silent, and the grade director rolled his eyes at me. When the meeting ended, he said to me: "Teacher Xiaoyu, please support the school work!" I smiled at the director and said nothing.

After a week of overtime work, teachers continued to petition the Education Bureau to ask the school to improve their treatment. In the office, curse words were poured out to greet the grade director and his family. Several teachers asked me to resign together and stop working in this poor middle school. I smiled and rejected them, and concentrated on writing my materials and preparing for my class the next day.

A year later, I became a university teacher, with only a dozen classes a week, half of my original workload. There is no need to stay up late writing materials, doing self-study or pressing the elevator door for the leader. I opened the circle of friends and saw that the friends who invited me to resign were still suffering. Some of them were full of resentment in the circle of friends, cursing the school for closing down early. Someone was commenting on how hard they were working, and posted a photo of themselves rushing for materials in the middle of the night on their WeChat Moments, praying that the leader would see it.

I am not an introvert. The reason why I am silent is because I don’t want to disgust myself by catering to others. Real strength is silence. If you want to know more about this world, then you must continue to be silent. In this era where hope and disappointment have become integrated, silence is the best contempt for life.

2. Live affectionately in this utilitarian world.

One day, a training institution invited me and Brother Yang to give lectures. The remuneration was very generous, and the person in charge of the institution even drove to pick us up. The person in charge was very polite and answered the phone while driving us to class. The content of the call seemed to be that a courier had arrived. The person in charge said that he was outside and asked the courier to deliver it tomorrow, but the courier seemed to be inconvenient.

?"I'm picking up the teacher to go to class. If you have anything to say later!?" The person in charge hung up the phone rudely.

I feel honored that the person in charge attaches great importance to us, but I also advise him to go back and get things first, and we can go there ourselves.

However, Senior Brother Yang asked to get off the bus and cancel the class on the spot. The person in charge and I were shocked. No matter how much I tried to persuade him, he would not listen and he would not explain the reason. Senior Brother Yang persuaded me to go together, but I couldn't let go of the expensive courses.

Facts have proved that Brother Yang was right. After I taught the class for five days with all my heart, the person in charge did not pay me, and I could not get through the phone after that. The most shameless thing is that he did not run away. His institution is still recruiting students vigorously. I asked for tuition remuneration many times to no avail, and the person in charge even threatened me with the underworld.

After this big loss, I admired Senior Brother Yang’s foresight. I asked Senior Brother Yang why he could tell in advance that the person in charge was a liar.

"Junior Brother Yu, you have lost your eyesight after a little profit. Fortunately, you studied psychology." Senior Brother Yang scolded me severely, "A man with a bad attitude towards waiters. A person must be a selfish person. I didn't realize that he was a liar, but I am sure that there are disadvantages and no advantages in associating with such a ruthless person?"

I suddenly understood, even though. No matter how *** the exchange of interests is, there is actually human feelings behind it. Naive people often regard this kind of interest relationship as a prostitution-style transaction of "paying money with one hand and taking off pants with the other." Due to their lack of experience, they are often too straightforward and lack of clarity when expressing their interests. Necessary emotional judgment, and finally encountered a liar.

From then on, I will always smile to the courier guy and say thank you to the waiter. Maybe it's my imagination, but it feels like more and more people are coming to me for cooperation. Some universities often ask me to give lectures. A friend told me that their principal likes me very much because I take a taxi myself every time I come to give lectures.

3. Don’t ask for an answer from others

Many girls like to go to their mistress and boyfriend to ask for an explanation after discovering that their boyfriend has cheated. I think this is a very unwise move. matter. When you accuse your boyfriend aggressively and your mistress hides pitifully behind her boyfriend, you push a wavering man to the opposite side completely.

In fact, the answer to this question does not lie in your boyfriend's mouth. Even if he promises ten thousand times, "He loves you?", it will not help. The answer actually lies in your heart. If you are willing to tolerate him once, you can choose to give him a chance to get him back on track. If you can't accept it, you can make a clean break on the spot.

There is no so-called right option in this world, only the word "choice". Making choices is a great wisdom. This matter can only be done by ourselves. If we ask for answers from others, we will only pick up sesame seeds and lose the watermelons. What is truly important to you is hidden deep in your heart.

4. Mature people are more accepting of themselves

Mature people are always consistent internally and externally. Don't blame your softness and fragility. Just as the brighter the light, the darker the shadow. Strength and vulnerability always go together. A person does not need to live like a team. A mature person only needs to live like a person, with sweat and tears. In other words, if you cannot accept your weakness, you will naturally not be able to regain your strength.

Don't envy the success of some people. I "can't do it" have nothing to be ashamed of. There must be something you can do in this world, and you need to find it instead of burdening your life with other people's achievements. A truly mature person will not act childishly and cause trouble to others! If you like this article, please give it a like and share it!