In most western countries, parents usually don't care about their children as much as people in China, and their expectation for their children is often to let nature take its course. When their children reach the age of 18 or find a job, they generally no longer bear the support or financial responsibility.
To tell the truth, parents in modern China are really tired, some for their own face, some for their own ideals, and some for honoring their ancestors. Every parent is working hard for their children's lives.
Once married, both men and women began to live in the cycle of China's parents, copying their parents' life trajectory. Therefore, newlyweds must make great efforts to adjust their mentality, recuperate their bodies, allocate working hours and actively prepare for the arrival of their babies.
Since the day they knew they were pregnant, the couple have been actively preparing for the birth of Bao Xiaobaodi. All the joys and sorrows of the couple will fluctuate around the first fetal movement of the little life. In this way, the life of husband and wife in this life is completely fixed by the children, and the trajectory of parents' life follows a constant trajectory.
The arrival of the baby brought a new breath to the family and unbearable joy to the parents and the whole family. The family is busy around the baby all the time. As a result of family mobilization, parents of children are of course duty-bound, and even parents will be busy for this. All the focus of the whole family is on the children. Everyone lives for children, and children are the support of the whole family.
Preschool children have tasted the pressure of social competition. In order to prevent their children from losing at the so-called starting line, many parents spend a lot of money to enroll their children in various interest classes and plan how to increase their ability to participate in social competition in the future.
In order to create a good learning environment for children who are about to go to school, many parents will choose to live in a community where their children can go to a first-class school. For this reason, many parents will try their best to make connections and spend all their money to buy a school district in the area where the ideal school is located, in order to create educational conditions for their children to attend the best kindergarten, the best primary school and the best middle school. If you can't buy a school district, some parents will even pay an expensive school choice fee.
Parents are most worried about their children's unsatisfactory grades. They will spend a lot of money to enroll their children in various cram schools, whether they like it or not. Even families with isolated families, even families in poor mountainous areas and rural areas, will try their best to save every penny to pay tuition fees for their children and buy extracurricular counseling materials.
Although "poverty leads to change", in China, such parents with poor scheming abound. They are silently dedicating themselves to their children, with no regrets. For the sake of their children's future, many parents have completely lost themselves unconsciously.
Capable parents will try their best to find shortcuts for their children to get into college. For example, the incident of "going to college under an alias" and the incident of "pretending to be a national identity" all show parents' good wishes for their children's success and their daughters' success, but the evil influence appears and they are fascinated.
Parents scrimp and save and pay all the tuition fees for their children from kindergarten to university. Deep breathing is reasonable, right? But China's parents are still working hard.
Whether you can find an ideal job after graduating from college is also a matter of great anxiety for parents, especially those children from ordinary families who have no background and no back door to go. When parents see their children's dozens or even hundreds of resumes sinking into the sea, when their children can't find an ideal job, and when their children get a job that is difficult to make a living, that kind of anxiety can really make their hair turn white.
At the age when children can get married, parents are worried about whether their children can find their favorite object, whether they can find a marriage object that meets their parents' wishes or their children's ideals, and observe and feel their children's joys and sorrows every day.
At the same time, parents will launch a new round of frugality movement. No matter whether they have enough financial ability or not, they will try their best to help their children buy a wedding room, find someone to decorate it, buy wedding furniture and household appliances, and prepare everything for their marriage and married life.
The birth of the next generation, in addition to bringing happiness and joy to parents, few parents can completely let their children take care of their babies. Most parents will unconsciously and willingly join the strange circle of helping their children take care of their children. From feeding milk powder, washing diapers, putting children to sleep, to helping children cook and do housework, parents will never have their own rest days and have to get busy again.
After completing a reincarnation, I suddenly found myself getting old while copying what my parents had worked hard for a lifetime. Therefore, it is really an exaggeration to say that China's parents live for their children. Many retired parents always retire in their children's homes and are busy worrying about their children all their lives.
Most parents spend their whole lives trying to make money, not how to enjoy a quality life. They always hope that the suffering they have experienced will not be copied to their children. They always hope that they can leave their children as much legacy as possible and create as comfortable a living environment as possible.
Actually, as a parent, you don't have to work so hard. Don't treat children as children forever. Can you try to let them grow up on their own? After all, the world will be borne by them in the future.
Parents should learn to take their eyes off their children, live happily every day, learn to live for themselves and live more brilliantly, brilliantly and richly.