What is EQ?
Meaning of EQ: EQ, also known as EQ, is a measure of a person's ability to live and work.
EQ includes four aspects: self-cognition, self-management, feeling others' feelings (or empathy) and managing interpersonal relationships.
Evaluation criteria of emotional intelligence: from a scientific point of view: first, emotional part; Second, the logical part;
A person with high emotional intelligence will use all parts of the brain comprehensively, and in most cases will use its cerebral cortex;
A person with low emotional intelligence often suffers from damage to the part of the brain (limbic system) that controls emotions, and can reason and think clearly and logically, but the decisions he makes are very low-level.
Evaluation methods of EQ: performance characteristics, circle of friends, influence on people, etc.
The performance characteristics of people with low emotional intelligence;
1) Don't care about others' feelings, and hurt others unintentionally.
2) Either you are too sensitive to the reaction of the outside world and easily feel hurt by others. You should be very careful when talking to them; Or very insensitive to feedback from others.
3) Spread negative emotions such as shirking responsibility, complaining and despair. With them, your mood will often get worse.
4) In intimate relationships, it is easy to show the characteristics of over-dependence.
5) Lack of understanding of the huge difference between "intention and result", and the intention that feels good should have good feedback.
6) The circle of friends is small, and they are all people with similar sexual behaviors.
7) likes to blame others.
A circle of friends with low IQ:
Usually, people with low emotional intelligence will have a smaller circle of friends and a single type.
In addition to social skills, it is also because it is difficult for people with low emotional intelligence to respect, appreciate and accept the differences of different people.
So the final result often leads to a single circle of friends.
The extent to which low IQ affects others:
People with low emotional intelligence lack the ability to positively influence others' emotions, but often unconsciously bring negative emotions to others.
Also, people with low emotional intelligence are used to throwing cold water on each other.
Performance characteristics of people with high IQ;
1) Be good at taking care of other people's feelings when speaking and doing things.
2) Strong ability to interpret each other's feelings and intentions.
3) Emit positive energy, and with them, you will feel comfortable, relaxed, happy and enthusiastic.
4) Be good at maintaining close relationship, independence and self.
5) Deeply understand the huge difference between "intention and result", and pay attention to and take the initiative to get feedback from the other party and make adjustments.
6) A wide circle of friends can accommodate many types of people.
7) Be good at encouraging others and praising others.
A circle of friends with high IQ:
1) People with high emotional intelligence often have a wider circle of friends.
2) A circle of friends with high emotional intelligence is likely to produce a strong warm, enthusiastic and happy atmosphere.
3) People with high EQ tend to have deeper relationships with friends.
Ways to improve emotional intelligence:
Start by feeling your emotions; Form the habit of praising others; Learn to tolerate others.
What is EQ?
American psychologists believe that emotional intelligence includes the following aspects: First, understanding one's own emotions. Only by knowing yourself can you become the master of your life.
Second, we can manage our emotions properly, that is, we can control ourselves.
Third, it is self-motivation, which can help people get out of the low tide of life and start over.
Fourth, it is to recognize the emotions of others, which is the basis for normal communication with others and smooth communication.
Fifth, it is the management of interpersonal relationship, that is, leadership and management ability.
Peter Salovey of Yale University and Professor john mayer of the University of New Hampshire formally put forward emotional IQ.
1990: Emotional IQ is defined as:
1, the ability to accurately evaluate and express emotions
2, the ability to effectively regulate emotions
3. The ability to apply emotional experience to the process of motivation and will, such as promoting plans and pursuing success.
1993: Emotional IQ is defined as:
1, the ability to distinguish between oneself and others' emotions
2, the ability to adjust their own and others' emotions
3. The ability to use emotional information to guide thinking.
1996: Emotional IQ is defined as:
First, emotional perception, evaluation and expression ability:
1, the ability to identify one's emotions from one's own physiological state, emotional experience and thoughts;
2. The ability to identify emotions from other people's works of art and various designs through language, sound, appearance and behavior;
3. The ability to accurately express emotions and needs related to these emotions.
4. The ability to distinguish between accuracy and authenticity in emotional expression.
Second, the ability to enhance emotions in the process of thinking:
1, the ability to guide emotional thinking;
2. The ability of vivid emotions to have a positive effect on the judgment and memory process related to emotions;
3. The ups and downs of emotions make individuals swing from positive to negative, which promotes the ability of individuals to think from multiple angles;
4. The ability of emotional state to promote specific problem solving.
Third, the ability to understand and analyze emotions and acquire emotional knowledge:
1, the ability to label emotions and understand the relationship between emotions themselves and language expression;
2. The ability to understand the meaning conveyed by emotions;
3. Ability to identify and analyze emotional causes;
4. Ability to understand complex emotions
Fourth, the ability to mature and adjust emotions:
1, the ability to accept various emotions with an open mind;
2. Mature ability to enter or leave an emotion according to information and judgment;
3. Mature monitoring of emotions related to yourself and others.