The significance and way of shaking hands
Shaking hands is the most common greeting when people meet. It is not only a meeting etiquette, but also a way to express congratulations or thanks. There are mainly the following ways:
(1) equation formula. When shaking hands, extend your right hand, put your four fingers together and separate from your thumb. Two people hold hands vertically with the ground, gently shaking, usually lasting 2 ~ 3 seconds. Keep eye contact, smile, lean forward slightly and bow your head slightly. This is a simple and polite way to shake hands and express friendly cooperation.
(2) control type. When shaking hands, palm down to show arrogance, to show your superiority, or to hint that you should take the initiative.
(3) begging. When shaking hands, palms up, which means humility and excessive respect, is often a sign of dominance.
(4) glove type. Holding each other's right hand tightly with both hands and shaking it up and down for a long time often shows warm welcome, thanks, gratitude, or asking for help and affirming the meaning of the contract. In this way, the subordinates are more humble to the superiors, or the younger generation is more humble to the elders. But this is generally not the way to meet for the first time.
(5) dead fish style. Casual handshake, too weak and too short, not only gives people a cold feeling, but also gives people an impression of being lifeless and at the mercy of others.
(6) vise type. Shake hands too hard, too long and too wide, giving people a rude feeling.
(7) Finger grasping type. When shaking hands, gently touching each other's fingertips often gives people a cold feeling. Some women think highly of themselves and often use this method, which also implies keeping a certain distance.
In short, different ways of shaking hands have different meanings and different manners. We should adopt the correct way of shaking hands, that is, the standard way of shaking hands, based on the principle of friendship and goodwill, and give each other a feeling of equality, friendliness and easygoing.
Ordinary handshake etiquette
As a social etiquette, shaking hands is not a casual behavior, but a certain stress. Only in this way can we make a good impression.
The general requirements of handshake mainly include:
(1) shake hands correctly.
When shaking hands, usually one step away from the recipient, stand at attention with your feet, lean forward slightly, extend your right hand, put your fingers together, shake your thumb slightly for 3-4 times, and then let go of your hand with the other person and restore to its original state. People close to you can shake hands with a little strength and shaking times, and even shake hands warmly.
(2) shake hands with your right hand.
If you happen to be doing something with your right hand, you can't get it out at the moment, or your hands are dirty and wet, you should explain to the other person, open your hand and apologize, or wash your hands immediately and shake hands with the other person warmly. If you are wearing gloves, take them off before shaking hands.
(3) Pay attention to the order of shaking hands.
Generally, the old man reaches out to the young man first, the tall one reaches out to the low one, the lady reaches out to the man first, and the teacher reaches out to the student first; If two couples meet, first women greet each other, then men greet each other's wives, and finally men greet each other; When visiting, the host usually extends his hand first to welcome him; When saying goodbye, the guest should first extend his hand to express his thanks and ask the host to stay. If you should not reach out first, don't reach out first. When you meet, you can say hello first, and then shake hands with each other after reaching out, otherwise it is impolite. When many people shake hands at the same time, it is best not to cross their hands. You should wait for someone to shake hands before reaching out.
(4) Warm handshake
Whether the handshake is warm or not, and whether the scale of expressing enthusiasm is appropriate, can be reflected from the expression, way, strength and time when shaking hands. When shaking hands, stare at each other's eyes and smile. When shaking hands, don't look around casually, looking at other people and things, or the other person has reached out and you don't reach out and shake hands. This is a sign of indifference, arrogance and rudeness. The appropriate handshake time is about 3 seconds. Some people hold other people's hands tightly and talk enthusiastically, especially in public places or on the road, which makes them uncomfortable. Under normal circumstances, palm down is an arrogant handshake, palm up is too humble, and the commonly used handshake method is that the palms of both sides are opposite.
(5) Shake hands moderately.
You can't be weak, don't hold it too tightly, or even hurt the other person's hand. If you hold it too lightly, or only touch the other person's fingertips and don't hold the whole hand, the other person will think you are arrogant or insincere. If you hold it too tightly, the other person will think that you are too enthusiastic to conceal your inner joy, or that you are rude, frivolous and not solemn. In addition, be careful not to stand outside the door with one foot and shake hands with the other foot inside the door, not to shake hands while jumping or pat the shoulder and back at the same time, and not to make other frivolous and indecent moves.
Special handshake etiquette
The so-called special requirements of handshake are aimed at the particularity of the identity of the handshake object. Mainly should pay attention to the following aspects:
(1) Precautions when shaking hands with VIPs or the elderly:
When a distinguished guest or old man reaches out his hand, you should step forward quickly, hold each other's hand with both hands and lean forward slightly to show your respect. You can also shake hands while greeting and say something to express warm welcome and warm greetings according to the occasion. Never hold your head high and hold your chest high when shaking hands. Don't be timid. When you meet a familiar and high-ranking old man in social occasions, don't rush forward to interrupt each other's conversation or social activities. You should come forward to greet and shake hands after the other person's conversation or social activities come to an end. If there is more than one person, you should follow the general customary order of VIPs and elderly people.
(2) Matters of shaking hands with superiors or subordinates:
When the superiors and subordinates meet, the superiors should generally reach out first, and the subordinates can hold hands with them. If there is more than one supervisor, the order of shaking hands should be from high position to low position. If the positions are equivalent, you can follow the general customary order, or you can introduce them one by one, and you can shake hands with them one by one. When shaking hands with subordinates, superiors should be warm and sincere, smile and look into each other's eyes. It is inappropriate and impolite to be careless, perfunctory, indifferent and full of airs, or to wipe your hands with a handkerchief after shaking hands with subordinates.
(3) Compared with men, more emphasis is placed on shaking hands with women.
According to the general rules, women are always used to nodding or smiling in general occasions. Whether or not to shake hands depends entirely on their personal habits and happiness. If the woman wants to, she should hold out her hand first, and the man only needs to hold it gently. If the woman doesn't want to shake hands, she can bow slightly, or nod her head and talk kindly instead of shaking hands. It is inappropriate for a man to reach out and shake hands with a woman first, otherwise it will make the other person feel embarrassed. However, if the man has extended his hand, the woman should also respond. In any case, it is impolite to ignore a natural and friendly move. Before shaking hands, men must take off their gloves and hats, and women can wear gloves.
Distinguishing these handshake requirements and mastering and using handshake etiquette flexibly can leave a deep and beautiful impression on people when they meet for the first time in social occasions. In this regard, people who want to learn communication etiquette must know.