The Peacemaker Program on Hangzhou West Lake Pearl Channel - Distorting the Facts and Where is the Righteousness
On November 2, 2011, the Peacemaker Program on Hangzhou West Lake Pearl Channel broadcast "The Dilemma of the Fang Family's 6 Children" As the third youngest member of the Fang family involved in the program "Raise a Mother", I couldn't understand at all whether I had offended the peacemaker - Zhu Xuejun in some way. That day, when I was working at Ruiji Company in Taixing, Jiangsu, I received a call from Zhu Xuejun. He asked me for money and a card. I said, "Why should I give you the money and card." He said, "I want your mother's salary." card and your mother's money." I said: "On the one hand, according to the agreement, my mother's money and salary card are kept by my eldest sister. On the other hand, you have no right to ask for it from me." He said, "I am the peacemaker. If you don’t have rights, who has rights?” I said, “Does the law give you such rights?” For this reason, Zhu Xuejun and I had a dispute on the phone. On the other hand, whether it was during the so-called mediation the next day, I pointed out his illegal behavior to Zhu Xuejun. I believe that safeguarding the legitimate rights and interests of the elderly is the responsibility of a legal practitioner. As a peacemaker, Zhu Xuejun not only did not use Article 15 of the "Law on the Protection of Rights and Interests of the Elderly" to teach the second and fourth children who had left their mother to fulfill their obligations, but he also collaborated with them to ask for 1,650 yuan/month of living expenses from my mother. My mother's monthly retirement salary is only over 1,500 yuan. She gives 500 yuan to the children she takes care of each month, more than 300 yuan for water, electricity, and gas bills, and more than 100 yuan for medical expenses. After excluding miscellaneous expenses and favors, there is not much left. After being reminded by my eldest sister, Zhu Xuejun changed his mind and said he wanted 1,000 yuan per month for my mother's living expenses. Zhu Xuejun's remarks objectively supported his children's failure to fulfill their obligations. Otherwise, why would the peacemaker, Zhu Xuejun, ignore facts, take quotes out of context, and fabricate facts? Could it be that the purpose is to confuse right and wrong and put the blame on me for the second and fourth children's failure to perform their obligations? Or is there some other ulterior reason? From the time the second child left my mother alone on June 23, I have been taking care of my mother. On October 23, when the fourth child did not come to take over, I continued to take care of my mother. They ignored her and insisted that I deprive them of it. The right to support the elderly. I am wronged! Where is the law of heaven!
Since I have been taking care of my mother for almost five months and cannot go to work in the company, the company needs me to solve a lot of work. In order to support my filial piety, the company sent employees to replace me for a short period of time on October 24, 2011. Take care of my mother and wait until I finish what I'm doing. On October 26, 2011, the peacemaker Zhu Xuejun went to my mother's house to cause trouble with the second, fourth, and fifth sons of the Fang family. At that time, the employees of my company were still She pointed to the company trademark on her work clothes and said that she was sent by the company, not a nanny. During the mediation the next day, I repeatedly stated that the person taking care of my mother was an employee of my company, not a nanny, but he still deliberately called her a nanny. The purpose was to create the lie that "it is difficult for six children to support one mother". He insulted the sixth, eldest, third and fifth children of the Fang family who had fulfilled their obligations and had not yet had their turn to take care of my mother. They were making trouble at my mother's house for more than an hour. My mother was very excited. To prevent any accident, our company's employees had to give her four Suxiaojiuxin pills. My mother cried for a long time. With the persuasion of the next door neighbor, Then he slowly calmed down.
Mencius once said, "I am old and I am old." People in ancient my country taught us to respect the elderly, not to mention that in today's civilized society, we support our parents. As the saying goes: "Family scandals should not be made public." I was reluctant to make my family affairs public, but the Peacemaker program forced me to appeal. I am the third eldest child in the Fang family, and I have no children, so I can better understand the saying of raising children to protect them from old age. I have nothing else to ask for now, I just hope that my mother will be happy and happy.
My mother suffered a stroke in 2005, and the six children took turns to take care of her. However, in 2006, some children made excuses to shirk their care obligations, so we had no choice but to seek help from the community. With the help of the Qiuzhi Community, we arranged for six children to be taken care of. I take turns taking care of my mother for two months every year.
In 2009, another child made an excuse to shirk the responsibility of taking care of her. I once again asked the community for help. With the help of the community, we signed another agreement. Article 4 of the agreement clarified that the mother entrusted the eldest son to manage the mother's retirement salary. card and deposit, so that no more children will cause trouble to their mother for their salary card and deposit.
On June 23, 2011, the second child asked her to take care of her salary card before fulfilling her obligations. On October 23, the fourth child also used the same excuse to refuse to fulfill her obligations due to salary card issues. Have they forgotten that time? Didn't you sign an agreement to let the eldest sister take care of it because the salary card caused trouble to your mother? Please help me find a way to protect the legitimate rights and interests of mothers and allow them to consciously fulfill their obligations. Thank you everyone!