If the parents themselves have these good habits and do not need to be forced, the children will follow their parents' example. Sometimes they take a little longer, but that's okay. The less coerced a child is when they are young, the more willing they are to accept other rules once they go to school.
The bus was packed with passengers, and four-year-old Katrin sat on her mother’s lap, studying the faces of the other passengers attentively. Mom noticed her gaze and was startled. Katrin was looking at the nose of a man diagonally opposite. There was a big, hairy mole on it. It was too late to speak, but soon enough, I heard Katrin's clear and high-pitched voice: "Mommy! Mommy! What is that big thing on that man's nose over there?" I don't know where someone puffed. She laughed, and a reproachful tone came from another corner: "That child is so uneducated!" The mother forced out an apologetic smile in the direction of the "sufferer", trying to ease the embarrassing situation and divert her daughter's attention: "Come on, don't be like this. Look, there's a horse on the beer label!" This situation may become a wonderful memory for the whole family, but it is very embarrassing in front of me.
Children have no idea about the various rules of etiquette. Why we say "please" and "thank you", why we say hello and why we can't express our feelings directly are all a mystery to them.
People of the previous generation used force and punishment to make children adapt to social etiquette and norms. For example, you must sit up straight at the table and do not move around, otherwise you will be kicked into the kitchen; when greeting people, do not put your hands in your pockets, and take off your hat if you are wearing it; if the adult does not ask you, you are not allowed to do so. Just say whatever you want, or you'll have something good to look at. Especially the elderly still insist on treating others according to the etiquette of the past, and force their children to do so. Like the grandmother of three-year-old Ollie, every time they meet, her grandson must shake hands with her and say hello: "I said, where are the cute little hands?" and insists on using the right hand because this is the "correct" etiquette. But the little guy ignored her. Sometimes Ollie stretched out his right hand, sometimes his left hand, and sometimes he didn't shake hands with her at all, but just smiled at her.