It is said that people should be kind, but what is the definition of kindness? Andy Lau has a classic line in Infernal Affairs, "Now I want to be a good person." This shot has been made into an emoticon package and circulated in various groups. When you can't make a choice or something embarrasses you, you will use this emoticon to express your inner conflicts. The definition of a good person is very broad, and so is kindness.
Can you tell the difference between a kind mother-in-law and a kind daughter-in-law? We have talked about many conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, either because of money or ideas. Most of the time, the two people are just emotionally opposed and quarreling until the end, unable to tell the winner or loser, so that the result is divorce. Otherwise, the family is separated and the young couple lives alone. It doesn't really matter who loses or wins, it's just a quick talk.
Why is there such deep resentment in the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law? They are so sensitive that even when they see this word, they feel disgust in their hearts. For the mother-in-law, the daughter-in-law should be the one who gives birth to children and continues the descendants. For a daughter-in-law, her mother-in-law is her husband's mother and her child's grandmother. Although she is not directly related by blood to her, her closest relatives are still close relatives of the same origin.
In ancient times, four generations living under one roof were always lively, harmonious and beautiful. The mother-in-law was kind and loving, and the daughter-in-law was virtuous and filial. Why is it that now that the population is small, such model families are rarely known? I think it's probably because each has selfish motives and desires, and wants to possess more things, and the conflicts between family members will become prominent.
"Why bother women?" In the eyes of many mothers-in-law, if their daughter-in-law gives birth to a child, asking the mother-in-law to take care of the child will be considered as imposing on others, which affects the lives of the elderly. If the daughter-in-law does not have children, she will feel that the daughter-in-law does not care about the family and traditions. If the daughter-in-law goes out to earn money, she will feel that she does not have time to take care of the family. If the daughter-in-law does not go out to earn money, she will feel that her son is under too much pressure to support the family. It seems like nothing is right no matter what you do, and there are flaws no matter what you do.
Both mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are women. As a person who has experienced this, mother-in-law should understand how much pressure and responsibility a woman will bear during marriage and childbirth. And you cannot want your daughter-in-law to make the same mistake just because you have been wronged. As for a daughter-in-law, as someone else's wife, although husband and wife should put their own family first after marriage, you can't feel angry when you see your husband being filial to his mother-in-law. After all, she is your husband's mother.
We are all women and should support each other instead of hurting each other. Both parties should be kinder, more tolerant, and more generous to each other, so that the relationship can last. The protagonist of our story today is a kind-hearted girl, but because of her kindness, she embarked on the road of divorce.
When Xia Xia fell in love with her husband, her husband would always praise him about how kind a person her mother was. When she got married in the future, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law would definitely be harmonious and not like other families. It's been a wild ride all day long.
Xia Xia's mother has instilled in her the idea that women should be virtuous, take care of the family after marriage, and honor their parents-in-law, and she really does this. After getting married, her husband proposed to live with her parents-in-law, and Xia Xia agreed without even thinking about it. Moreover, after living together, she had never been embarrassed by her parents-in-law, nor would she complain about her parents-in-law in front of her husband.
Because of Xia Xia's generosity and kindness, the family lives in harmony. However, after moving here, her mother-in-law often suffered from headaches, and most of the meals at home were cooked by Xia Xia after she got off work. As for other housework, as long as Xia Xia was at home, she basically took care of it.
Until Xia Xia became pregnant, the family had always maintained this state. However, after becoming pregnant, Xia Xia had to take care of the pregnancy for the first few months due to abnormal indicators, and was unable to participate too much in housework. This burden fell on her mother-in-law again. Although her mother-in-law did not show any displeasure on the surface, she was often heard telling Xia Xia's husband that her headache had gotten worse.
One day after get off work, Xia Xia saw her mother-in-law sitting on the balcony and sighing. She quickly went up to ask. Her mother-in-law said that she had a headache, so she couldn't take out the quilts on the cabinet to dry them. She thought it was rare to have a good one. The weather is wasted. Xia Xia saw her mother-in-law in trouble, so she took a stool and stood up to reach the things on the cabinet, "Xia Xia, you are pregnant, don't do it, I can't afford it if something happens.
"Mom, it's okay. I'm much better now. It's been more than 4 months. What can happen?" "But while talking, Xia Xia fell off the stool because she couldn't stand firmly.
The child was gone, and Xia Xia had to face this reality when she woke up. Looking at the disappointed expressions of her husband and mother-in-law , Xia Xia felt that all this was her fault. If she had been careful, she would not have fallen off the stool. The operation went smoothly. She rested in the hospital for a day and then went home. Her husband supported her sadly along the way. Mother-in-law followed silently. Although Xia Xia's eyes were filled with tears, she couldn't cry. She was afraid that if she cried, her husband and mother-in-law would be even more uncomfortable.
"Xia Xia, My mother is not feeling well. Please take care of her more these days. You should also take a good rest yourself and don't be too tired. "After my husband said these words, he went back to the study to do his work, leaving Xia Xia alone to face the "pain of losing a child" she had just experienced. But before she could feel sad for a while, her mother-in-law came in the room and shouted for a drink. Xia Xia had to endure the discomfort to pour water for her mother-in-law.
My mother-in-law's headache seemed to show no signs of getting better. She could go out for a walk in two or three days before, but this time she stayed in bed for a week. She still looked listless. Fortunately, Xia Xia had almost recovered, otherwise she might have been exhausted this day if she had to do housework, cook, and take care of her mother-in-law.
She worked overtime at the company, but after finishing her work in advance, she hurried home from work, thinking that she could cook some fresh food for her mother-in-law to make it more comfortable. But as soon as she entered the gate of the community, she saw her mother-in-law sitting with several aunts next door. Chatting in the garden corridor, there was laughter from time to time.
“You don’t know, my daughter-in-law is so stupid. I just said I had a headache, and she willingly did the housework. Take them all." After hearing this, the other aunts gave the mother-in-law a thumbs up, "You still have a way to manage your daughter-in-law obediently. "Miscarriage is not a birth, so I deliberately didn't serve her!" She has no ability at all and can’t even save a child. If I don’t correct her, I really can’t bear to say this. If my son didn’t like her, he would have divorced this wife long ago.”
Xia Xia never expected that she would have this image in her mother-in-law's mind, and she had a miscarriage some time ago, so her mother-in-law didn't have any pity for her, and even pretended to be sick so that she could serve her.
" "Mom, let's go home." "Hey, Xia Xia is back, let's go, it's time to go home and cook." When everyone saw this, they all avoided it, but they looked back from time to time as they walked, presumably because they were waiting for a mother-in-law and daughter-in-law fight. "Mom, why are you pretending to be sick when you're not sick? Seeing Xia Xia asking herself this question, the mother-in-law suddenly panicked, "Why are you pretending to be sick? My grandson is gone. Why am I just pretending to have a headache?" "After saying that, she walked home without looking back. She was walking so fast that Xia Xia almost couldn't catch up. It seemed that her mother-in-law was really pretending to be sick. Xia Xia just felt chilled. She was waiting on her day and night, and she almost couldn't catch her. The meal was delivered to her mouth, but her mother-in-law didn't remember her own good at all.
During dinner in the evening, Xia Xia told her husband that her mother-in-law had been pretending to be sick during this period, so she would not eat from tomorrow. It was time to buy vegetables and cook. But my mother-in-law suddenly threw away her rice bowl and said, "Who said I was pretending to be sick? When I thought about my lovely grandson, I couldn't sleep all night, and I had a headache. Like it exploded. Why are you so worried? If you don't want to take care of me, just tell me. Why do you think I'm pretending to be sick? Do I need that? "
When my husband saw his mother-in-law crying, he began to blame Xia Xia, "My mother has a headache not because of you. If you had been more careful during pregnancy, would you have miscarried?" If you don’t have an abortion, will my mother have a headache? You also said that my mother was pretending to be sick." Xia Xia saw that her husband had no intention of defending herself, so she told her husband what she saw in the afternoon, but her husband said that it was her mother-in-law and mother chatting and bragging together, and it was gossip about the parents. Whether it's true or not, her mother must have said that just for the sake of face.
Xia Xia really didn't expect that her husband would be so foolish and filial. When her mother-in-law saw her son facing her, she wiped her hands. Tears continued to say, "It's not that you are useless. It is a woman's instinct to have children. If you can't even give birth to a child, what use are you!" "But her husband, listening to her mother-in-law at this time, nodded from time to time, as if all the faults were because of Xia Xia.
Xia Xia went up and poured a bowl of soup in her hand. On the mother-in-law's face, "My good mother-in-law, I advise you to be kind and be kind, or you will be repaid.
This is the last meal I will cook for you, please eat slowly! "After that, he packed up his things and left the house. With this kind of family, this kind of husband, and such a mother-in-law, nothing is worthy of his nostalgia.
Fortunately, later, when Xia Xia remarried, she found An equally gentle and honest family. And my ex-husband, thanks to her mother-in-law preaching how she "rectified" her daughter-in-law, is still a bachelor. I don't know if this result is what the mother-in-law expected. Daughter-in-law, I don’t know what she uses as bragging rights when chatting with others now. Retribution comes so quickly.
Being a person should be kind, whether you are someone else’s mother-in-law or a wife. Someone else's daughter-in-law. Xia Xia already had a miscarriage. What mother wouldn't be sad to lose her child, but her mother-in-law is adding insult to injury and torturing her daughter-in-law. Anyone with a kind heart can see the pity of her daughter-in-law. , and would not end up like that later.
If the mother-in-law makes trouble with her daughter-in-law at home, it will make her son's family have a hard time, and how can she live well if her son does not have a good life. Well done. Everything depends on cause and effect. Only when you treat your daughter-in-law kindly and plant good karma in your daughter-in-law can you make your son's family harmonious. Only when your son's small family is harmonious can you be filial to the elderly and your big family can be harmonious. Only in harmony can your mother-in-law reap good results.
No one is born evil. The fact that you can fall in love with your husband proves that he has qualities that attract you, and this quality is what your mother-in-law has taught you since childhood. Come on, why does it start to change after entering the role of "mother-in-law and daughter-in-law"? Mother-in-law no longer looks like mother, and daughter-in-law no longer looks like wife.
Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law should help each other. We support each other and work hard for the family together. You can't forget your original kindness just because you become someone else's daughter-in-law or mother-in-law.