Unexpectedly, he came over and wiped out the dimple on my tie.

He thought I didn’t tie it well.

Besides, you Another very important detail to see if a gay man can wear a tie is whether he uses a tie clip. Fashionable people generally don’t use tie clips because no one teaches them. He mistakenly believes that you must use a tie clip when wearing a tie. In fact, there are only two types of people who use tie clips when wearing a suit: who are the people in uniforms? People in business, taxation, police, military, and aviation. Sir, have you noticed? Their tie clips are all made uniformly, with logos, national emblems, police emblems, military emblems, and airline logos. They are matching and belong to CIS, that is, the corporate image identification system. Once we know what they do, who are the second kind of people? The big shots, the big bosses. They socialize a lot. I am having dinner with foreign businessmen now. To be honest, there are no foreign businessmen present. When I drink soup, I can drink it however I want. I can pick up the bowl and drink it upside down. But when there are foreign businessmen present, don’t I have to be careful about my behavior in public? I have to use a spoon to drink it. Think about it. , when I scoop out the spoon, do I need to clip my tie? Otherwise, my tie will go around. I'm drinking soup. I don't clip my tie. So, who do you think will drink the soup first? , tie clips are for big shots, for people wearing uniforms, and there is no need for ordinary people to use them. I want to use this simple example to talk about an important feature of dress etiquette, that is, standardization.

Clothing and clothing are just as the name suggests. It is divided into two parts: clothing and accessories. Let me explain the key points below. First, I will talk about the etiquette of clothing. We have said that clothing has three functions: the first function is practical, and the second function is important. , indicating status and identity. The third function is to express your taste and artistic attainments. Generally speaking, there are four key points in the etiquette of clothing:

The first point is to conform to your identity. . As the saying goes, men should be like men, women should be like women, children should be like children, and grandma should be like grandma. We often see such comrades, their clothes are not like the old ones, and the young ones are not like the young ones. It's superfluous.

Assuming that I am a 60-year-old man and a gay man, then I have to pay attention to how I dress. I cannot wear children's clothes. If I wear children's clothes, I will look like Crayon Shin-chan. It is inappropriate. . In the same way, as a lesbian, it is not appropriate if you are over 60 years old and dress like an over-age sweetie, so your dress must be consistent with your identity. For example, here is the best example. An old-fashioned example, skirts are generally worn by women. Of course, there are exceptions. In Scotland and England, men wear skirts. Prince Charles has worn skirts. But generally speaking in mainland China, it is impossible for men to wear skirts unless they have Some shopping mall waiters are in special circumstances, soliciting customers. Otherwise, if Professor Jin wears a skirt and goes out on the street, should others suspect that I am a man? I must dress appropriately for my identity. We generally emphasize the differences between men and women, the differences between seniority and youth, the differences between occupations, and the differences between status. Of these four distinctions, in international exchanges we also add a distinction between nationalities. There must be a distinction.

The second key point is to exploit strengths and avoid weaknesses. When dressing up, one thing you should pay attention to under normal circumstances is to maximize your strengths and avoid weaknesses. Each of us has advantages and disadvantages in our body shape. Some are fat, some are thin, some are dark, and some are white. So should you pay attention to using your strengths and avoiding your weaknesses? To give the simplest example, I wear a suit. Under normal circumstances, I usually wear blue or gray at work. It is a classic work attire. Usually, if I want to emphasize some of my personality, I like to wear a brown suit.

I was wearing military trousers and an old man's shirt. It was hot, so he took a fancy to my military trousers and said I wanted this. I was very happy and said, "Then I'll give you a new one. Do you want a military jacket as a gift? We don't dare to have clothes like those of active duty soldiers. The old-fashioned military uniforms from the past are obsolete." I have it. Do you want it?"

He said, "Yes."

I said, "Where is the belt?"

He wants it. Gone. The next day, their classmates reported to me that he went to Tiananmen to take pictures wearing the outfit I gave him. He thinks that looks cool, but what he actually pursues is personality.

When I deal with foreign friends, I like to give them national costumes as gifts. Send a tie-dye outfit or a silk shirt, both of which are unique.

I have a friend who is a county magistrate in a place in other places. A foreign businessman came that day to discuss business with an entrepreneur there. He insisted on meeting the county magistrate. The state supports private enterprises, and the county magistrate listened. It's okay to say that the company makes this request. Originally, the county magistrate was at a construction site, a farmland capital construction site, and he was dressed more casually, wearing a jacket. As a result, I went there temporarily. When I got in the car, I suddenly remembered that I didn't have time to change into my suit. Time is limited and foreign businessmen have to catch a flight. The county magistrate set his sights on the driver and took a fancy to the cardigan tunic the driver was wearing. He asked the other party: "How tall are you?"

The driver said: "1.74 meters."

"What's your waist circumference?"

"Two feet five ."

"Okay, let's park the car aside and let's change."

He put on the driver's tunic in the car. The interior of the car is relatively narrow and the buttons are not fastened properly. Probably the first button is fastened to the second eye, and there are pocket flaps one on the inside and one on the outside. It’s just a little awkward anyway.

After he arrived, he talked with the foreign guest for more than an hour. The button was always wrong, and one pocket was on the inside and the other on the outside, but no one noticed.

When he left, the foreigner said to him: "Oh! Leader, thank you: first, it shows that you, the leader, support this company. Second, you also learned how to wear a Chinese tunic suit."

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This leader only discovered his problem at this time. Why did the other party say that? Because this is our own clothing, Chinese clothing, national clothing, I can wear it however I want, and only then can we understand its personality and characteristics.

Why do many of us Chinese people look uncomfortable wearing suits and skirts? They don’t know how to wear them. You are actually the most accurate when it comes to wearing your own clothes. You have the knowledge and experience, so wearing dresses, fashionable clothes, and ethnic costumes in social situations is the best choice. Of course, the last thing you should wear in social situations is your uniform.

Third, casual occasions. What is leisure? Leisure occasions refer to time for personal activities after work. It probably refers to the following situations: First, sleeping at home. Second, fitness exercises. Third, sightseeing. Fourth, go shopping. We call such occasions casual occasions. What are the basic requirements for dressing up for this occasion? Four words: comfortable and natural. In my words, as long as it does not violate the law, as long as it does not violate ethics and morals, and as long as it does not affect stability and unity, you can wear whatever you want. This is the place where you shouldn't be particular about how you dress. You can wear pants, a vest, jeans, a jacket, slippers, sandals, or bare feet, whatever you want. However, we often still have comrades who make fools of themselves. I once went to the United States for a meeting, and an American friend told me, "The people we see wearing suits and ties here are all from mainland China." I was really angry. Of course, this kind of person It's just an individual, but when you go to international exchanges, you are seen by others and it affects your image. So dress according to the occasion! In official situations, be solemn and conservative. In social situations, pay attention to fashion and personality. For casual occasions, it is comfortable and natural.

The fourth important point is to follow the rules. There are conventional rules about dress that you must consciously abide by. Let me tell you the rules for wearing suits and skirts respectively.

I have already mentioned it once, but the key points must be mentioned. There are some rules that you should pay attention to when wearing a suit. For example, the two pockets under the suit jacket. Experienced people know that you cannot put things in these two pockets. Smart After buying a suit, don't dismantle the pocket threads. Who can put things in it if you don't disassemble it? Some of our guys look rather old-fashioned at first glance, with a box of cigarettes here and a bunch of keys there, just like opening a grocery store, which affects the overall look of the suit.

The most important rule of the game when wearing a suit, we call it three threes. Why is it called three three? There are three questions that need attention. Each question has a three character in it, so it is called three three. Which three three?

The first "three", the three-color principle. We have said it once before, and all discerning men know that when wearing a suit, the whole body cannot have more than three colors, including tops, bottoms, shirts, ties, shoes, and socks. The colors of the whole body should be in three. Within this, this is the three-color principle.

The second "three" is the law of Trinity. What is the Law of Trinity? When you wear a suit or suit when going out on important occasions. Shoes, belt, briefcase should be of the same color, preferably black. To be honest, there are differences between men and women. Men actually have less choice in terms of clothing. Unlike lesbians, all the beautiful clothes are yours. What choice do we have? That is, suits, jackets, jeans, one button, two buttons, three buttons, no buttons, black, gray or blue, so men emphasize the details. As you know, what do you think men and women should wear? Women wear fashion and men wear brands. The former pursues fashion, while the latter pays attention. It goes up a notch.

The third "three", three mistakes. We have said it once before, there are three mistakes you should not make when wearing a suit. The first mistake was not removing the trademark on the sleeve. After buying a suit, the trademark must be removed, which means that the suit has been activated. If the trademark is not removed, it feels like superfluous. The second mistake is to wear a jacket, shirt and tie on very important occasions, especially in international exchanges. This is not appropriate. Wearing a jacket, short-sleeved shirt and tie is fine for internal activities, but not formal enough for external communication. The third mistake was a problem with the socks. On important occasions, white socks and nylon stockings are not suitable with suits. So you must pay attention to this, this is the rule of suits.

Let’s talk about the taboos of dressing in professional situations. In professional situations, whether men or women, as long as they are at work, there are six taboos in dressing.

The first taboo is excessive clutter. Dress randomly. For example, when we see a gay person wearing a very high-end suit and skirt, it looks like business attire, but you always feel that she is not tasteful enough. Why? Phoenix head, broom legs. For example, a gay man wears a suit but wears a pair of cloth shoes.

I asked a guy that day, "Why do you wear a suit and a pair of cloth shoes?"

He told me: "It's comfortable."

Me He said, "You are comfortable in what you are wearing, but we feel uncomfortable."

There are also some lesbians who wear very high-end skirts and open-toed sandals on bare feet, which is very inappropriate. On important occasions, you should pay attention to wearing standard leather shoes when wearing suits or skirts. Standard leather shoes, for men, refer to lace-up black leather shoes, and for women, they refer to black high-heeled or semi-heel boat-shaped leather shoes, matching the uniform. This is a very important rule of the game. It’s not okay to be overly cluttered.

The second taboo is too bright colors. Whether it’s a uniform or a suit, you need to abide by the three-color principle. What is the three-color principle? As we just said, there should be no more than three colors for the whole body. Uniforms and suits for men and women must abide by this rule. It should not be too bright, and the patterns should also be noted. Uniforms for important occasions should have no patterns or standard geometric patterns. For example, my tie is striped. What other tie can I wear? Checkered and dotted, but not too fancy. I can't possibly print three words on it: I love you. I love you, do you love me? Some comrades have cats, dogs, panda Panpan, Mickey Mouse, and Donald Duck. At first glance, they are not stable enough. This is not allowed.

The third taboo is excessive exposure.

For another example, I told many of our Shenguo comrades, "If you want to stay at home, it doesn't matter. If you want to go to European and American countries, especially Catholic countries, be careful not to wear cross pendants too often." You want to go to European and American countries, especially Catholic countries. If you understand Christianity and Catholicism, you will know that the cross is an unlucky sign. Christ Jesus was crucified on it, so it's a bit inappropriate for you to wear that thing.

For another example, our ancestors have a habit. This is a folk custom. Our ancestors generally stipulate that rings should be worn on the left hand. Don't wear it on your right hand, because the right hand is prone to collision, loss, and wear when working, and the left hand generally does not work. At present, in most places at home and abroad, when people wear a ring on the ring finger of their left hand, it means that they are married or engaged, and that the famous lady has an owner.

I once went to watch a game, and a foreign reporter came over and asked me: "Jin SLR, what do you think you call that girl?"

I couldn't see clearly, I was a little bit Dazzled, I said: "Isn't that a woman? Just call her miss. Don't call her eldest sister. People in Beijing don't like to be called eldest sister, as eldest sister makes you look older. You should call her miss. Of course, don't call others eldest miss. Hong Kong and Taiwan call her eldest sister." The eldest lady is a rich person. In mainland China, if you call me eldest lady, you should call her young lady."

He said, "I don't dare."

I said. : "Why don't you dare to scream?"

He said: "You didn't see, she wears four rings."

The foreigner also asked me: "What does this mean? "

I want to tell our own people that this is uneducated. Foreigners are there and our family's ugliness cannot be made public. I played football with him and I said: "This still has meaning in our mainland. This is ordinary. It means this..."

I can’t remember what it means, and I can’t even make it up. There was a domestic reporter nearby. The reporter's sharp tongue saved my life. He told foreign reporters: "This has a meaning in our mainland. The general meaning is to express wealth."

I never thought that the other party really believed it. He took out his notebook and wrote down: "No wonder, I have seen it before." There are several such rich people.”

This is not actually rich, but uneducated. Therefore, it is better to wear as little jewelry as possible, of the same quality and color, and in line with customs.

The fourth point is to pay attention to the matching. It should be in harmony with your clothing, and it should be in harmony with your other jewelry. For example, if you wear a high-end diamond ring, if it is a real high-end diamond ring, it is best to match it with fashion. Then at least it will complement each other. If you wear jeans and a beggar's outfit, others will think that the diamond ring you are wearing is glass shards. To put it bluntly, if you wear a high-end diamond ring that costs tens of thousands, you still have to take a car or a taxi, right? If you ride a bicycle and wear a diamond ring, others may think to themselves, is it genuine? Very simple reason. At the same time, it actually has the problem of matching with other accessories. For example, I would like to ask two small questions for the comrades present and the comrades in front of the TV. If you wear gauze gloves, a sleeveless cheongsam dress, gauze gloves with high sleeves, and if you wear a ring, wear the ring inside the glove. Or outside? If you wear a miniskirt, do you wear pantyhose and anklets, are the anklets hidden inside the socks or outside?

Both of them are actually a matter of matching. Specifically, where do you wear your ring when wearing gauze gloves? The standard practice is for the ring to be worn inside the glove. You may say: "Isn't that possible? I often see people wearing outerwear?" Next time you open your eyes and see clearly who that person is, it is the bride. When the bride gets married in public, she declares her commitment and wears it outside her gloves, which is equivalent to swearing that she is married. If you wear a ring, you will be warned about your behavior, as it is suspected of being a restraint. It is not necessary for ordinary people to wear rings outside their gloves. Wearing them outside their gloves is considered ostentatious.

So, when wearing stockings with anklets, should the anklets be worn inside or outside the stockings? Standardized practice, wear it outside. Who wears anklets? A woman with beautiful legs and a nice walk. There are bells and pendants on the anklets. Those of us with experience know that women do not wear anklets when wearing uniforms, suits, or skirts. At work, what is provided is dedication and well-trained service, rather than beautiful looks and graceful thighs. But social situations are another matter. Social situations are all about highlighting one's beauty. That anklet dangling outside the socks is equivalent to telling others: Look, we are so beautiful.

Can you wear it under your stockings? Those are called varicose veins, which are invisible, so the problem of coordinating the matching of jewelry is the same as the problem of coordinating makeup we talked about before, which is very important. This is a matter of upbringing and taste. If a person's clothing is used properly, it will add beauty to the beauty of your dress. Of course, if a person's dress is not appropriate, it will be self-defeating and make people laugh. The purpose of introducing clothing etiquette here today is to hope that everyone can appropriately beautify themselves, beautify life, and beautify society with clothing.