1. Closed-mindedness
People with low emotional intelligence generally have closed-minded thinking. In vernacular, they are a bit eccentric, accept death, and have a stubborn mind. Whatever you tell her is a matter of fact. , if it goes against her familiar cognition, she will refuse to accept it. No matter how you persuade her, she will not change it. If you want to change their mind, you should save your efforts and would rather give up your own point of view.
2. Cannot listen to criticism
People with low emotional intelligence cannot listen to criticism from others. Your criticism is your dissatisfaction with him. It is not that he is really bad, but you If you have an opinion against him, you deliberately find fault with him, but if you praise them, they will feel that what you said is right, because he is as good as you said, he can only accept your praise, but cannot listen to other people's criticism. It is a manifestation of low emotional intelligence.
3. Poor emotional control ability
I have such a bad temper, I just can’t control myself. If you are unable to control your emotions, it is also a sign of low emotional intelligence. If everyone is like you and you cannot control your emotions, then the world will be in chaos, and often when your temper comes up, you will be ignored. 1. Whatever you say please feel free to say it yourself!
4. Silly mouth
People with low emotional intelligence are not very good at talking. They obviously want to comfort others, but they can’t hold it in for a long time. In fact, they themselves are also very anxious. It's just that I haven't noticed that when chatting with others, it is often the end of the chat. The last sentence when chatting with them is "Can we still have fun together!"
5. Learn not to refuse
People with low emotional intelligence cannot learn how to refuse others. Maybe you are soft-hearted, or maybe it is just because there is no proper reason, so he does not know How to refuse other people's requests, or you obviously want to say "no", but in the end you are fooled by others and turn into blurting out "ok".
6. Betrayal of friends’ trust
Friends often tell little secrets. If you trust a person, you will tell him the friend’s secret, but if you If your friend is unreliable and turns around and tells your privacy to a third person, you will feel your heart bleed. While you feel that you have made a careless friend, you also wonder in your heart whether this friend is careless. ! There is no way, who let you have a friend with low emotional intelligence!
7. Echo other people's self-deprecation
People with low emotional intelligence cannot tell whether others are joking or serious. When the other person says, "Oh, there is no one like me." "Obviously they wanted to be comforted by you, for example, "No, you are not fat at all." But you said honestly, "Yes, you are a little fat." What else can you say? I can no longer have fun playing!
8. You always talk too much
If you are 90% sure you can do something, normal people will only say, I may only be 50% sure. If you can’t do it, , you can’t blame me. But a person with low emotional intelligence will not leave himself any room. He will say, yes, I can do it at 120%. As a result, the plan can never keep up with the changes. The 120 you promised has not been fulfilled. People's expectations have been raised high by you. How are you going to end it?
9. Always misunderstood
The reason why people with low emotional intelligence are easily misunderstood is because the way they convey information cannot be understood by others. People with high emotional intelligence can accurately express their intentions to others through repeated practice. They can understand the difficulty others have in understanding their intentions, adjust their wording, and re-express them in a more communicative way.
10. Self-pity
After people with high emotional intelligence make mistakes, they never immerse themselves in them, but actively learn from them and never fall in the same place twice. Doing so will help them adapt to their environment and be successful in the future. On the contrary, people with low emotional intelligence always think about the mistakes they have made, wandering back and forth on the tightrope of thinking and memory.