Text/Nian Yimu

A dinner party is by no means just a simple meal or gathering. It is completely different from having a barbecue or making skewers among friends. Dinner parties focus more on business, interpersonal relationships, and asking for help.

Some people usually don’t pay much attention to their words and deeds. They make a fool of themselves at this kind of dinner without realizing it. They think this is normal and there is nothing wrong with it. As everyone knows, these details have already labeled you as "incompetent" in the eyes of others.

You think others don’t know your true identity, but you don’t know that others can see through you at a glance and know how capable you are.

I would like to kindly remind you not to ignore the details. If you have the following four behaviors at the dinner party, generally speaking, you are not capable. I hope you don't have any of them.

People who have no skills like to hand out business cards at dinner parties.

We all know that dinner parties are used to discuss business, and there are often a few heavyweights. Many people regard this as a good opportunity to expand their contacts and connect resources.

Some people are more eager for quick success. The first thing they do when attending a dinner party is to hand out a circle of business cards. Everyone attending the dinner party gives one of their own business cards. I think I'm smart by doing this, but it's actually really down-to-earth.

Because you take the initiative to exchange business cards with others, in the eyes of others, you are just a salesperson, and others will look down on you.

In addition, the fact that you exchange business cards reveals your low emotional intelligence.

Real connections rely on equality of status and exchange of interests, rather than forced exchange of business cards. If you are a valuable person, the host of the dinner party will take the initiative to introduce you to others. Is this way of making connections more respectable than handing out business cards?

People who are incompetent often like to steal the limelight at dinner parties and talk non-stop and set the pace.

When attending a dinner party, we must understand in our hearts that we are not here to eat, but to rely on the form of eating to achieve our goals. For example, some people come to seek business cooperation, some come to facilitate a business, and some come to make personal connections.

Therefore, the person who organizes the dinner party often has already formulated the main topics to be discussed at the dinner party at the beginning, and when proceeding step by step according to the steps you imagined, you just go Stealing the limelight, chatting endlessly about irrelevant topics, just looking out for you to have fun, but completely disrupting the rhythm of the entire dinner. The person who is behind this must hate you very much.

Because this is someone else’s meal, and if you do this, you are doing someone else a disservice, and of course they will hate you.

Therefore, if you are not a party member, but you are just invited to attend the dinner, then it is best for you to follow other people's topics of conversation. Others invite you here to "support" them. , instead of going to "destroy" the scene.

People who are incompetent often like to rush to pay for meals.

That’s right, rushing to pay the bill is not honorable, and may also make people look down on you.

You must know that the person who organized the game invited a large group of people to have such a dinner party, and they wanted to achieve his goal. Therefore, he wants to show his sincerity, show his favor, and get closer to his customers by paying the bill.

If you are a stupid person and take the initiative to pay the bill, you will steal the limelight from others and make the person who makes the decision lose face in front of the customer. In the end, it may make it difficult to negotiate business with others. become.

In addition, if you pay the bill instead of playing a role in the game, the customer will look down on you and only regard you as a pony who only pays the bill. This is obviously very shameless. .

I have seen many powerful people make a phone call and ask an entrepreneur to pay for the meal.

So, if you are just a person invited to a dinner party, then you just eat, drink, and cheer for the occasion, and say a few words to the occasion, and give the opportunity to perform to the person who makes the party.

Incompetent people like to take advantage of small things. They often pick up the slack at dinner parties and secretly take unopened cigarettes and alcohol home. Some people even take half-full bottles of drinks, Pack up the uneaten leftovers and take them home to my wife and children.

Some people think that this is an act of thrift, but they are totally wrong.

You have to understand that the leftover things from someone’s dinner are not because they don’t want them anymore, but because they want to send the customers away first and then come back to take them away.

This is not your invitation, and you didn’t pay for it. Don’t take things that don’t belong to you. If you take it secretly and take advantage of it, if others see it, they will look down on you from the bottom of their hearts.

A person who loves to take advantage of small things is unlikely to achieve great success, and he often has no ability.

Don’t think that no one knows if you secretly took a few bags or half a bottle of wine! In fact, every move you make is seen by others, but others see through it without telling you, making you make a fool of yourself without even realizing it.

In fact, there are many unspoken rules at dinner parties, but in schools, teachers and textbooks do not teach these things. This has led to many young people who have just entered society to be at a loss when it comes to dinner parties. Even many young people today are very averse to dinner parties and are unwilling to go to others to treat them to dinner. Doing so will undoubtedly lose many opportunities.

You have to know that the dinner party has actually become an important occasion to judge a person's "ability".

Look, even these business leaders attach so much importance to dinner parties, which shows how important dinner parties are!

Unfortunately, many people nowadays don’t take the dinner party seriously, and they don’t pay much attention to the dinner party.

In fact, this is a typical "weak mentality". You don't pay attention to the meal. When the critical moment comes, others label you "incompetent" and you will regret it.

My article is just an introduction. If you want to know more about the experience of dinner parties, you still need to learn more.