Of course there is. There is also a cup. For example, buying a cup of milk tea is a cup of happiness. Happiness sometimes lies not in how much you have, but in whether you know how to cherish it.
I don't remember whether San Mao or Xi Murong said that there are optimistic and pessimistic views on life, both of which are biased and most philosophical.
Simple people are easy to be happy, credulous and easy to let go. Optimists are prone to blindness. When they are blind, they are like blindfolded donkeys. Too pessimistic, thinking about everything in a bad place will make people feel depressed, and some people are worried about it.
Some people really want to realize their dreams, but many times we can only think about it. I once met a Christian in Hong Kong. He is like a visionary, talking to me about life dreams and what will happen after death.
I say these questions are too profound. We ordinary people generally don't think deeply and think it's useless to think, so we just have to live every day and be happy.
I didn't expect him to discuss with me in an instant whether there is eternal happiness in the world and other issues that stunned me.
I just remembered that I was hungry and ran away in a hurry.
Sometimes I hear people complain that life is monotonous, and I say that sometimes I am eager for adventure, and I am afraid that I am trapped by monsters. Man is a contradiction. Sometimes there is nowhere to run in reality. Everyone has unconsciously formed their own attitude towards life.
We need to maintain a relatively balanced peace and comfort in our life.
People who are good at comforting themselves can live happily.
I have stayed in one place for too long, so I might as well go somewhere else. Maybe it will be more novel. It's just that this novelty has existed for a long time and will gradually become unremarkable.
The benevolent Leshan, the wise happy water. Everyone's eyes see a different world! Some people regard mountains as mountains and water as water, while others regard mountains as mountains and water as water. Attitude to life also matters. Mountains and rivers all start from the heart. The cultivation of the mind needs a permanent process.
You can be materially poor, but you can also be spiritually rich.
You can regard every sadness as the starting point of happiness, every setback as a precious life experience and life as a process of constant happiness.
People have different views on life under different circumstances.
For thirsty people, drinking water is the best thing in the world.
Eating is the best thing in the world for hungry people.
Many times we are bored and bored because life is too comfortable. It never occurred to us that there are other things that need our attention in the world, and there are many people who are hungrier or more lonely than us, doing monotonous work in unknown corners.
People tend to only care about themselves.
It is easy for people to get themselves into such a dilemma. Actually, you have many choices. If you change your attitude towards life, the problem may become simple.
Or we have to lose a lot because we want a lot. Because we always think only of ourselves, we walk into a narrow space and can't fly.
Or the world is not without beauty and sincerity, but your own heart is not beautiful and sincere enough, and you always have to look at it with pessimistic eyes, so that life is stained with a gloomy tone.
Or those who complain that there are no opportunities should think about why others are creating opportunities for others without waiting when you are eager for opportunities. While creating opportunities for others, I also saved myself.
There is a story called "Touchstone of Life" that there is no real touchstone in the world, but your attitude towards life is the touchstone. When you always complain that there is no opportunity, maybe you can't grasp it when it really comes to you.
We should pay attention to the word "maybe" in this sentence. Maybe this means that we still have no chance, but we don't have to complain. This sentence can only be regarded as the end of a fable. It tells us not to wait for opportunities, but to live actively from now on.
Mark Twain and Carnegie are two celebrities with completely different ideas. They are teaching others, or they are living and thinking about everything with two different attitudes.
I remember a story like this: a child with nothing came to the door of a bank and saw a needle on the ground. Then he saw a banker coming out of the bank. He gave the needle to the banker. The banker said happily, "You are an honest boy, and I will help you." So the child got the help of bankers, received higher education and inherited his industry, and achieved success.
The tone and style of this story are very suitable for Carnegie.
But Mark Twain will tell you again in another way: a child who also has nothing saw the story. So he came to the door of the bank and saw the needle. He picked it up, prepared it and gave it to the banker to accept his help.
The banker did come out, but he snatched the child's needle and shouted, "This needle is ours. Go away! Don't stand at the door in the future! "
Reality and dreams are two different things. Perhaps Carnegie and Mark Twain's attitude towards life is not wrong, because the reality is bizarre. There will be different answers to questions from different angles, so how can things not have completely different endings?
In the west and even all societies, we need a cheese-like idea, like Carnegie's book, to comfort people with few opportunities, to maintain social stability and to comfort people, and we also need some people, such as Mark. Twain told people to look at reality calmly, think and solve social problems, and know that sometimes reality is not as beautiful as we think, or reality is just the opposite of our dreams. At this time, we will accept or try our best to change with a correct attitude towards life.
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Life attitude is a personal psychological tendency to treat life stability. Life attitude includes three parts: life cognition, life emotion and life intention. Life cognition is the knowledge and understanding of life. Life emotion is the inner experience and evaluation of life. Life intention is the behavioral trend of life. Life cognition is the important foundation of life attitude, life emotion is the core component of life attitude, and life intention is the highest component of life attitude. How a person understands life will lead to different feelings about life and how to treat life.
The attitude towards life is the general attitude towards people's life, not the specific attitude towards something in the process of life. There is a clear difference between the attitude towards life and the attitude towards life.
First, the attitude towards life is different from that of the specific object. The object of life attitude is a person's life, and the object of specific attitude is every specific thing in the process of life. The object of life attitude is the whole of life. A certain attitude is a part of life.
Second, the attitude towards life is more stable than the specific attitude. Because a specific attitude is an attitude towards a specific thing, it often changes because of the change of a specific thing. Therefore, specific attitudes are highly variable. Attitude towards life is the overall attitude towards the whole life, which is generally not affected by one thing at a time and has strong stability.
Third, the attitude towards life is more profound than the specific attitude. A specific attitude is the cognition, feeling and intention of a specific thing in a specific situation. Often relatively simple. Attitude towards life is a profound experience and feeling of life formed on the basis of in-depth knowledge and understanding of life in the long-term life process, thus producing a firm behavioral intention. So the attitude towards life is more profound.
Although there are obvious differences between life attitude and concrete attitude, they are not isolated and irrelevant. Attitude towards life is closely related to specific attitude and interacts with each other.
First, the attitude towards life determines and dominates the specific attitude, which is manifested through the specific attitude. Life attitude is the core and hub of specific attitude. Specific attitude is the concrete embodiment of life attitude. As a psychological tendency of stable life, life attitude fundamentally plays a decisive and dominant role in people's specific attitudes. Although the specific attitudes in the process of life are varied and ever-changing, the attitude towards life always runs through the specific attitudes like a red line, just as the central nervous system dominates and regulates the whole body nerves. The concrete attitude towards life is inseparable from the attitude towards life. Without the decision of life attitude, the specific attitude is not fundamental and will be chaotic. Without an attitude towards life, the specific attitude will lose its general direction and will be changeable.
Second, the specific attitude towards life contains and affects the attitude towards life. An attitude towards life cannot be separated from a concrete attitude. Without a concrete attitude, an attitude towards life cannot exist. As a universal attitude towards life, attitude towards life cannot exist in isolation. It must be contained in a specific attitude and expressed through a specific attitude. No matter how the specific attitude in life changes, it contains the general attitude of life, and no matter how it changes, it reflects the general attitude of life. The specific attitude in life is not passively determined and dominated by life attitude, but also affects life attitude to a certain extent. Especially in life, facing insurmountable great difficulties, suffering great setbacks and failures, and being unable to get rid of long-term adversity will often have a greater impact on the overall attitude of life.
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The basic attitude towards life is the most basic thing in the psychological quality of national culture. India and China, two ancient civilizations in East Asia, have very different traditional attitudes towards life. Indian ancestors developed the spiritual level prematurely and thought about the fundamental meaning of life. As Nehru said in the Discovery of India, on earth, if you want to ask where the human mind has developed some of its best talents most abundantly and thought about the most important problems in life, the answer is India.
Long before the birth of the Buddha, the Aryans in India turned from an early happy life to a reflection on the value of life, lamenting how bitter life is and pursuing spiritual liberation to obtain eternal happiness, which is the main feature of Indian life attitude. It is in this cultural and psychological atmosphere that Buddhism was born and Zen developed. It can be said that the strong tendency of Buddhism and Zen Buddhism is deeply influenced by Indian traditional thought, which is basically consistent with the attitude of Indian people towards life. The spread and development of Buddhism and Zen make the traditional attitude towards life in India more surreal. However, the attitudes towards life of Buddhism and Zen Buddhism are still called the doctrine of the mean among Indian factions, opposing the self-torture of asceticism and sensualism, and holding the doctrine of the mean. Mahayana doctrine pays more attention to life and advocates the power of humanistic ethics, which can not only promote India's attitude towards life to the extreme of denying the value of life and blindly pursuing happiness in the afterlife, but also restrain the tendency of lust as a supplement to traditional Indian nativism and asceticism. Most scholars in modern times attributed India's long-term decline to the idea based on yoga, which obviously has its correct side, but it seems that there is no historical basis for attributing India's decline to Buddhism and Zen. As we all know, the decline of India was after the revival of Hinduism and the decline of Buddhism. When Buddhism flourished in India, it was accompanied by a golden age of prosperity in Indian history. As Mr. Xu Su Min said in On the Cultural and Psychological Quality of the Chinese Nation: "In the 7th century, China, Western Europe and India were all in feudal society. ..... India's Buddhist culture is also in its heyday ... Indians are also showing a vigorous atmosphere under the stimulation of Buddhist equality, universal life, courage and diligence. " What needs to be added is that the prosperity of India is also closely related to the prevalence of Mahayana Zen. Mahayana Zen, with the aim of observing bodhicitta, seeking universal life and solemn land, and the spirit of taking the world as one, has injected the masculinity of paying attention to reality into India's traditional attitude towards life. This kind of masculinity is exactly what traditional Brahmanism lacks most. When this masculinity disappeared from the Indian psychology with the decay of Mahayana Buddhism, and with the revival of traditional Brahmanism superstition and nature worship, India's country and nation fell into a state of collapse.
Completely different from India, the traditional life attitude of the Han nationality, as the main body of the Chinese nation, is characterized by happiness and practical rationalism that values life. The Doctrine of the Mean sums up the basic attitude of the Chinese nation towards life by praising the cultivation of heaven and earth. It fully affirms people's subjective initiative, actively participates in the creation and transformation of the real world, and regards the ethical principles of the way of heaven and earth as an absolute command that people must abide by. China people deeply cherish the counselor's belief in educating people, treat real life with a utilitarian, rational and aesthetic attitude, devote all their care to the acquisition of real interests, be satisfied with the right to survive from nature through production struggle and the right to survive in society because of their own efforts, lack profound reflection on the value of life, and do not pursue happiness and ease in the afterlife. Confucianism's "unknown life, how to know death"; Taoism's "attaching importance to life" embodies the cultural and psychological characteristics of China's traditional secularism. The secular life attitude of the Chinese nation is incompatible with the Buddhist life attitude based on Indian nativism, which has become the biggest obstacle to the spread of Buddhism in China, making Hinayana Buddhism, which only seeks personal liberation and emphasizes birth, unable to take root and sprout in the soil of China. Only by respecting all sentient beings and blindly taking the world as Mahayana can it be widely spread in China, because it is in line with the purpose of helping the world of Confucianism in China. Zen Buddhism, which has become the mainstream of Han Buddhism, is more influenced by China's traditional cultural psychology in life attitude. I only talk about the consciousness and detachment before and after the present, but I don't pay much attention to the basic life value theory of Indian Buddhism, that is, all life is born out of dust, and I don't pin my hope of liberation on his tired practice in his later years, showing a strong Chinese flavor.
Of course, the culture of the Chinese nation is multi-layered. As a supplement to the ultra-secularism thought dominated by Confucianism, there is also a detached naturalistic attitude towards life like Zhuangzi. Influenced by this kind of culture, Chinese cultural elites are often Confucianism outside the Taoist temple, and their inner life has a transcendental pursuit. When they encounter setbacks in real life, they will also have the idea of being born, although this kind of birth is not necessarily to hide in the mountains to pursue the afterlife, but mostly to be born. The so-called "above the temple, the heart is in the mountains." China Zen just adapted to the spiritual needs of China cultural people, and sublimated their spiritual realm from Zhuangzi's "carefree travel" to a more detached, free and easy, unimpeded and uncontested realm. The cultivation of Zen Buddhism has enabled many literati in China to master the art of life that is both active and detached from the secular world, as well as the life skills that are upright and good at preserving our sanity, and cultivated such typical literati as Bai Juyi, Su Shi and Yeluchucai. Despite their remarkable achievements, they have always maintained their inner detachment and tranquility. Zen, as a method to relieve pain, also provides China people with a skill to keep psychological balance when they are frustrated.
On the other hand, as an inevitable supplement to extreme realism, people in China will also have religious needs to pursue the protection of gods and buddhas and look forward to happiness in the afterlife, especially the hard-working people and people in troubled times who are deeply exploited and oppressed and unable to live a happy life. The idea of saving the world and passing away to the pure land of foreign Buddhists and Bodhisattvas has adapted to the needs of China people in this respect. Accordingly, Buddhism and Zen are prevalent among the people and even the upper class. The practice of Hinayana Zen in the Southern and Northern Dynasties should also be regarded as the product of social suffering. The worship of Buddha and Bodhisattva and the pursuit of Le Bang, who died after death, will of course have a negative effect of ignoring the real happiness, but under certain historical conditions, it is also the only way to soothe the hearts of the suffering people and plays an important role in balancing social psychology and diluting social contradictions. What's more, the Pure Land Sect emphasizes abstinence, ten virtues and ethical responsibilities in the world, and has its own way of reconciling entry into the WTO and birth, which can't be said to be blindly pursuing birth. On the other hand, the extreme realism, materialism and happy life attitude of the Chinese nation are prone to two extreme tendencies: corruption, contentment and conservatism. Some foreign scholars have pointed out that this is the fatal weakness of Chinese cultural psychology. As a supplementary thought, Zen Buddhism reflects calmly and profoundly on life and criticizes the cross-flow of human desires from the aspects of epistemology, reincarnation theory and ethics, which not only arouses people's upward pursuit, but also plays a benign role in warning the degenerates to turn back, which makes the national cultural psychology have various connotations and plays an indispensable role in maintaining social psychological balance in the long feudal society.
In Tibet, due to geographical isolation and backward mode of production, the primitive witchcraft tradition makes Buddhism and its Zen view there have much stronger externalism and worship of gods and buddhas than in the Han Dynasty, which has played a great role in forming the strange attitude of the Tibetan people towards life. Korean and Vietnamese, deeply influenced by China culture, are basically close to Han people in their attitudes towards life. Although Japan is deeply influenced by the Han culture and Buddhism spread in the Han Dynasty, its nation takes the realistic spirit of Shinto as its ideological pillar and is determined by geographical conditions, and is good at absorbing and accepting foreign advanced culture. This makes the Japanese nation not only have the characteristics of life education of Han counselors, but also have the spirit of Mahayana Buddhism to keep forging ahead and attach importance to joining the WTO, and its less-born side is less bound by the tradition of sticking to tradition and looking back on the past than the Han nationality.