Modern parents are most concerned about the growth of their children. Besides learning, it is the development of quality. With the progress of society, people's requirements for "emotional intelligence" are getting higher and higher. And parents pay more and more attention to their children's emotional intelligence development. When a child behaves politely, or is cheerful and generous, or is particularly clever and articulate, you can always hear adults praise the description that "this child's emotional intelligence is really high." So what is the definition of emotional intelligence? Emotional intelligence is "emotional intelligence" or "emotional intelligence", also known as emotional intelligence. Mainly refers to people's ability in emotion, willpower and frustration resistance. Emotional intelligence includes five main areas: understanding one's own emotions, managing emotions, self-motivation, recognizing others' emotions, and dealing with interpersonal relationships.

Many parents in modern times are most concerned about some problems in their children's growth. In addition to children's learning, it is the quality development of children. With the progress of society, people's requirements for children's "emotional intelligence" are getting higher and higher, and many parents pay more and more attention to their children's emotional intelligence development. When a child is polite, cheerful and generous, or especially clever and talkative. I can always hear some adults praise the description of "this child's emotional intelligence is really high". Then, what is the definition of emotional intelligence? What is high emotional intelligence? Emotional intelligence or emotional intelligence, also known as emotional intelligence. Mainly refers to people's ability in emotion, willpower and frustration.

Understanding emotions is the core of emotional intelligence. Only by being good at perceiving the appearance and changes of one's emotions and observing and examining the experience of the inner world can one know oneself, understand one's own needs and make oneself the master of oneself. After understanding and perceiving emotions, and accepting their own emotions, we need to learn to release emotions reasonably, so as not to let emotions accumulate in our hearts and dominate our behavior, and to find ways to resolve them. The reason why people with high emotional intelligence are able to resist stress is precisely because they can adjust their emotions in different situations, motivate themselves under pressure and focus on tasks and goals.

People often say that people who are sociable are people with high emotional intelligence. It is precisely because they can sensitively detect other people's emotions and gain insight into other people's needs through details, which is also the basis for people with high emotional intelligence to achieve smooth communication and establish positive social interaction-they often have strong emotional ability and are also good at regulating their emotional reactions with others in communication. Research shows that only 2% of a person's success depends on IQ and 8% on EQ. Daniel, the father of EQ. Gorman said: EQ is the key to success in life. The attitude towards emotions and the ability to deal with emotions determine the level of a person's emotional intelligence.

Therefore, the most important thing to cultivate children with high EQ is to cultivate their emotional management ability. Many parents are used to letting their children control their emotions, but in fact they have committed a "big taboo". When children show their emotions, it is often a sign that they are eager for attention or want help. The suppression of emotions will make them feel "not taken seriously". Parents should let their children understand that it is normal to have emotions. It is not the child's fault to have emotions. They should distinguish the child's emotions from the problems he faces, and do not evaluate the child's emotions and the child himself because of the child's mistakes.

Knowing how to handle the emotions of yourself and others will not be afraid that contradictions will destroy the positive relationship, but make the relationship more intimate by correctly handling contradictions. Good emotional adjustment ability, strong sense of self-efficacy and establishing positive relationships can all be resources for psychological toughness of children with high emotional intelligence.