In life, successful and happy people have one thing in common: it is always more difficult to do something and love it. Those losers, however, are doing one thing and complaining about another, thinking that unlucky things always make themselves stand, complaining about bad fate and social injustice. When encountering setbacks and failures in life, most people are complaining about social injustice and their poor fate. They think that there is something wrong with society and unit leaders, and attribute their failures to external factors such as classmates, friends, teachers and children. Find a high-sounding excuse for my failure and nothing: if I have money … if I am young … if I am earlier … if I am now 30 years old … if … as we all know, losers in life are always used to finding reasons from others or society. And the result? At his side, successful people and happy people are born all the time, but he turns a blind eye. Throughout the ages, successful people are looking for ways to successfully transform themselves. The United States surveyed 465,438+00000 millionaires. More than 98% of millionaires are over 50 years old, and their wealth was gained by working hard seven days a week for twenty or thirty years. Working seven days a week means working hard every day and never relaxing or indulging yourself. Let's look at those who have accomplished nothing, and which one is not complaining about others to find an excuse for failure? Reform and opening up have made us see the world. It also introduced the world's advanced human civilization into China, and KFC, the second largest restaurant chain, also settled in many large and medium-sized cities. Perhaps the birth of KFC can give us some inspiration in life. The founder of KFC fried chicken chain is Colonel Sanders. He was neither from a rich family, nor did he devote himself to this cause when he was young, nor did he go to Harvard University. At the age of 65, he was penniless and alone. He was extremely depressed when he got the first relief 105. At this moment, he didn't complain about society, nor did he abuse Congress. Instead, he suddenly remembered the words of American President Kennedy: "Ask not what the government has given you, but what the country and society have done." Yes, he asked himself calmly, "What contribution have I made to mankind? Do I have anything to report to the country and society, Colonel Sanders? " On second thought, he didn't. So, what can he complain about receiving 105 (equivalent to the minimum living allowance in China)? He thought, from now on, what can Colonel Sanders do for mankind? The answer is that he has a unique secret recipe for fried chicken. So he knocked on the door from door to door and told the restaurant what he thought, hoping that the restaurant would cooperate and he would take it out of the turnover. Many people laughed at him, an old man begging on the dole. What secret recipe can he have for fried chicken? Nevertheless, he made unremitting efforts, hoping to find a better way to do it next time, and never worried about the rejection of a restaurant. Instead, seriously revise the story and convince the next restaurant in a more effective way. In this way, it took him two years and three months and was rejected 1009 times. Finally, he realized his wish and ideal, and unexpectedly "exploded" into the second largest food enterprise in the world. A veteran, when receiving the subsistence allowance, did not complain about the society or abuse the incompetence of the government, but looked for reasons from himself and persistently promoted his secret recipe of fried chicken. Old people in their 60s sleep in their cars with clothes on every day. For more than three years, they have accepted thousands of rejections, which contains a broad philosophy of survival and wisdom. Usually, we always talk about what we do persistently. As a result, most people encounter setbacks and failures. After being rejected once or twice, they give up and change their ways. People who "scratch two folds" say that they are indomitable. Please remember that KFC fast food is the product of "perseverance". With this spirit and perseverance, you will be able to engage in a job and build a career. Today, China is establishing a market economy system. In real life, everyone will inevitably encounter adversity and setbacks such as unemployment, bedridden, exam failure and marriage failure. At this time, don't complain about the injustice of the government, society and fate, but reflect deeply on yourself, transform yourself, re-recognize yourself and adjust the focus of attention. Finding the right way to improve yourself, doing what you can do for the society with a positive and constructive thinking mode, improving your quality of life in social work, making yourself like yourself, and making others and society accept you are the standards of successful people. When a person complains about opportunities, opportunities are slipping away from him. Successful and happy people in life have one characteristic: doing one thing and loving another. Because they firmly believe that the solution is always more difficult than reality. A loser in life is doing one thing and complaining about another, thinking that unlucky things always make him stand, complaining about bad fate and social injustice. Complain less about others and society, and check and reform yourself more. This is the true meaning of life. The story of Wang, a laid-off female worker, further confirmed this principle. Wang Yuan was a car stopper in the weaving workshop of Beijing Ribbon Trademark Factory, and was laid off on 1992. After being laid off, she didn't complain about her fate, but actually did what she could-working as a cleaner in the bathroom of Beijing VIP Hotel, because the only job she could do at this time was cleaning. Cleaners are very strict about hygiene and need to keep trying to clean within 8 hours. At the end of the day, I am exhausted and don't want to eat, just want to rest. Not long after, the starling sisters who came with her couldn't stand the fatigue of cleaning and resigned. Her family advised her not to do so. She thought: As a laid-off woman worker, she has no other skills and has few opportunities to choose a job. When she does a job, she must love it. When she does a job, she must do it well. Because of her hard work, she was praised by the leaders and guests, and she transferred from a cleaner to a salesman in the commodity department. In order to adapt to the new job, she studies commodity knowledge, sales skills and business English hard, treats every customer warmly, and her sales increase month by month. I have been rewarded by leaders many times. 1995, the commodity department of Beijing VIP building was closed for renovation for half a year, and Wang was laid off again. When she was unemployed, she saw an advertisement for a waiter in a tea shop. But the recruitment requirements are very high. Age requirement 18-25 years old. You should know English and have a good knowledge of China tea culture. Wang went to look for a job and tried his best to explain the advantages and benefits of being old. Finally, the boss accepted her with doubts. In order to learn how to make tea, she repeated the operation and scalded a big bubble on her hand. In order to distinguish the characteristics, quality and taste of different teas, she repeatedly tried to soak them, and sometimes she was too drunk to sleep. In order to learn marketing skills, some guests came once, but when they didn't come the second time, she reflected on what she had done badly. Soon, she mastered the basic knowledge of tea and tea art. Learned sales skills. After working for two months, he was promoted to manager by his boss. During her two years in the tea shop, she constantly started to improve herself. Efforts have also yielded fruitful results. From 65438 to 0996, Wang participated in the 4th Tea Culture Exhibition and the 6th International West Lake Tea Party. The eight immortals tea she tried to brew won the first prize in the tea ceremony. 1998 65438+1On October 8th, Wang started Jufulong Tea House in partnership with others. She is a laid-off woman worker who has been confused for nearly 30 years. Based on the philosophy of "complaining less about others and society and remoulding more", she finally became the boss of the enterprise that recruited laid-off women workers. Success comes from hard work, and success comes from transforming yourself and positioning yourself. There are so many industries in the market economy. If you find the right position and locate it accurately, there will always be a job that suits you and a living method that suits you. Instead of losing opportunities in complaining, it is better to practice your skills in reforming yourself. As we all know, everyone is a member of the social system. On the one hand, they constantly obtain the material wealth needed for survival from society. In the wealth cycle of the whole system, when a person gives more to society than society can give him, he can become a qualified social citizen. In this way, we say that society will be prosperous and human beings will be better and better. In other words, in social life and interpersonal communication, everyone should follow the 60-40 survival law, and the society will be full of care, happiness and happiness. So what is the 60-40 rule? If a person lives in society, the score of "qualified person" should be 100. How can he get his qualified grades? Only when you contribute more than 60% to others and society, even if others and society don't give you any feedback, your survival thesis is a "passing" score-60 points. At the same time, the feedback you can beg from the society and others should not exceed 40%, otherwise your life paper will exceed 100 and become an unqualified paper. However, in life, most people have a kind of abnormal psychology of paying less and getting more. Therefore, when this abnormal expectation cannot be realized, they will complain about fate, family, others, government and society. Throughout history, successful people never complain about others and fate, but look for the reasons for failure from themselves. I don't waste my life for trivial grievances, and I worry about trivial things. Because they firmly believe that the thoughts of big people can't be influenced by the emotions of small people, so in life, whether men or women, petty people are ultimately distressed by themselves. In fact, in the real society, no one can control others and society, only oneself. No one can be absolutely sure whether others love him or not, but you can be absolutely sure whether you love others or not. Please try to master your own survival test paper and always give 60% to the society and others, but don't expect more than 40% in return. This is the only rule of happiness and success. Sun Yat-sen said: "The purpose of life is to pay". When your mentality is "the world is public", you will have a sense of inner happiness worthy of the world or yourself, a balanced and successful life, and you will become a happy person who controls your own survival score. You are a successful person. "I swear when I encounter obstacles, and then I move a ladder to climb over." This is an aphorism of American black billionaire Johnson. Yes, there can be no setbacks and obstacles in life. The key is how you treat setbacks and obstacles. "Climb over with a ladder" may succeed. If you complain and curse endlessly, you can only be kept out of the successful group. Complaining about others, and finally losing the opportunity is your responsibility. How big a mind a person has, how big a career he has. Being open-minded, tolerant and generous is a sign of kindness. The Bible says: Treat others as you want them to treat you. Don't do to others what you don't want them to do to you. Before transforming society, the most realistic thing is to change yourself, and before changing yourself, the most urgent thing is to change your mentality. Because everyone can't choose his own destiny and master his own living environment, but he can master his own mentality and choose his own lifestyle, that is, control his own life.