01

Last week, my friend Er Ding wanted me to help him match up and cooperate with an English interpreter.

I knew that this great master had to continue studying and working every day, and often accompanied the leaders of large companies to fly around the world. It was really difficult to make an appointment, so I didn’t dare to make a deal with Er Ding, so I just said he would give it a try.

Er Ding asked me again and again, saying that he had urgent work and that he had to contact me as soon as possible.

So, last weekend, I learned that the master was going to fly back from abroad, and I quickly made an appointment with him when he got off the plane to have dinner.

I calculated the time, arrived at the airport early to wait, and then decided to have dinner at a hotel near the airport.

It’s been half an hour since I sat down with the great master, but Erding hasn’t arrived yet. I was a little anxious and hurriedly called him.

I said, didn’t I ask you to arrive early? I've picked up the plane and gone to the hotel, but you haven't come yet?

Er Ding said, Ouch, I saw a notice saying that his flight was delayed, and it would take a long time to wait to pick up the luggage after the plane landed. I had chosen the time, but who knew the road would be so congested right now? , I can’t even get a taxi!

When I heard this, I almost fainted. Are you kidding me? Don't tell me you haven't set off yet?

Er Ding said, how could it be, I will be there in fifteen minutes.

The great master had to go to class in the evening. I was afraid of delaying him, so I hurriedly ordered food to eat first.

We ate for more than half an hour, and the master said, sorry, the flight is delayed today, and I have classes, so we can only make an appointment here. We can talk next time when we have a chance.

I hurriedly gave him Er Ding’s contact information and then sent the master away.

I sat down and ate another dessert, but Er Ding was late.

As soon as Er Ding saw that the master was gone, his face was full of frustration and he kept complaining, let me tell you, I memorized too much today!

Originally I could get there in fifteen minutes, but I didn’t know that I couldn’t get a taxi when I went out, and there were traffic jams everywhere.

After finally getting a taxi, I told the master that if we were in a hurry, we should take a small road. The result, you know? There was a traffic accident ahead and I couldn't move for a long time!

I said, Erding, didn’t you know there would be traffic jams during the five or six o’clock rush hour? Why not book a ride in advance? Why don't you go out earlier? It's not you who are unlucky, it's me who is unlucky.

Er Ding is still arguing, no, let me tell you, I usually can be there in fifteen minutes...

I am too lazy to pay attention to him, so I tell you The great god expressed his apology, and then decided not to worry about Er Ding anymore.

The large-scale event that Er Ding was responsible for had many foreign friends participating. In the end, Er Ding was unable to find a suitable interpreter. The quality of the service at the conference was marked down by his superiors.

In the end-of-year evaluation, his competitor became the project leader for the coming year.

Some people blame themselves for their bad luck when they are frustrated. And some misfortunes are ultimately caused by him.

02

A friend said that Er Ding was just an accident. They are all friends and asked me to be considerate.

But I am noncommittal. If Er Ding can slip up in my situation, he must have the same attitude and way of thinking when dealing with problems. If he does not do things well, it is no wonder that he will be "unlucky".

Successful people can blame themselves on good luck, but failed people really cannot blame bad luck.

Er Ding’s incident reminds me of another incident related to “unlucky”.

The company has a new graduate, Liu Lin, who is in a different department from me. But since we are similar in age and live nearby, we usually commute to get off work together and eat together, so we have a good relationship.

I often listen to her complain about her immediate boss, why he has early menopause, how he has a bad temper, how he is picky and has too many things to do, how he makes a fuss and bosses her around, etc.

I kindly reminded her that you have your say and don’t shout everywhere. It’s your superior after all, and it’s not good for her to hear you.

Liu Lin didn’t take it seriously. She said that complaining about leaders is the most effective way to get closer to employees.

Once, Liu Lin pulled me to the bathroom door with a look of displeasure on her face and said, that old woman asked me to book a hotel for her again. It was too expensive, too cheap, and not in a remote place. , it doesn’t matter if the hotel environment is not good, it’s not like I’m going on a business trip, it’s just fine, there are so many requirements.

I said there is no way, who made you an assistant!

Liu Lin said, I am here to learn professional knowledge, not to serve her! If there were no better opportunities for the time being, I wouldn't stay here!

After saying that, she went out. I washed my hands by the way and heard the sound of a toilet flushing in the cubicle, and then Liu Lin's superiors walked out of it...

Sure enough, the TV series did not deceive me and said bad things in the bathroom. It will definitely be heard.

Less than two months later, the leader announced that Liu Lin had failed the probation period and would not be promoted to a regular employee.

At that time, Liu Lin had just paid a large amount of rent, was carrying credit card debt, and had not yet found a new home. She suddenly lost her job, lost her income, and was instantly in trouble.

Liu Lin said, I was really unlucky. Who knew she would happen to be in the bathroom that day?

I silently watched her pack her things and leave. To be honest, she had said bad things about the leader behind his back so many times, and she was only heard once, so she was lucky.

In the workplace, gossiping behind someone’s back is a big taboo, especially if you don’t do your job well and make trouble at the same time.

In the workplace, everything you say and do must reflect professionalism, especially when dealing with superiors and colleagues. If you can't tell this, you will be in trouble sooner or later.

03

There is another type of bad luck called "unkindness". When girls meet a scumbag, they call themselves bad luck.

I can understand that we misjudged and believed in the wrong person. After all, we didn’t understand each other well at the beginning. There is indeed a factor of fate in who we can get to know each other.

But what I can’t understand is that after getting along day and night, I find that the other person is a scumbag beyond imagination, but I still have illusions, as if I can change the other person as long as we continue to be together.

When your fantasy is shattered, you will say that you are unlucky and cannot meet a good man.

My cousin went out to play in the mountains and rivers when she was young, and met her cousin who was ten years older than her. At that time, my cousin, who was in his early thirties, not only had no house or car, but he also couldn't do a good job as a truck driver. He often drank and missed work.

My uncle coaxed my cousin and said, you like to travel, I am a sports car driver, and I can take you to all corners of the world in the future. The simple cousin followed him, even if her family disagreed, she would not look back.

After the marriage, my cousin discovered that her cousin was divorced and had been married before. However, she was afraid that her cousin would mind, so she deliberately said that she was single.

My cousin felt that she had been greatly cheated, but she was already married and could only live a good life. Who would have known that in the past two years, my cousin had been in trouble several times due to drunken brawls. Each time, my cousin was frightened out of his wits. He raised money everywhere, compensated the victims, and apologized to the victims. He was often too embarrassed to go out. Forget about traveling.

After that, my cousin threw away all the wine at home and called her cousin's "buddies" to tell them to cut off contact. When my cousin found out, he scolded his cousin for embarrassing him in front of his brothers. He pulled her hair and banged her against the wall.

My cousin was frightened, and gradually learned that my cousin’s last marriage was divorced because of domestic violence.

My cousin also filed for divorce, but at this time, a friend of my cousin made a small fortune and gave my cousin a share. He took his cousin out for a trip, saying it was compensation. My aunt was so moved that she burst into tears and was reluctant to divorce.

In the days that followed, it was common for my cousin to do things, but traveling was never a thing. Every time my cousin took action, my cousin would cry to us. My whole life was ruined just because I chose the wrong man. I was really unlucky.

But even so, she refused to leave her cousin. No matter how excessive the other party is, as long as they pretend to apologize and swear, the matter will be over.

There is a saying: "It's your fault if you cheat on me once, but it's my fault if you cheat on me twice."

If you cheat on me once, it's your fault; If you are deceived twice, you are not cautious enough; but if you are deceived three times, it is your consistent behavior pattern and has nothing to do with luck.

Fate is the loser’s excuse, luck is the winner’s modesty.

When you feel that you are particularly burdened, don’t bother to think about whether you can make more preparations before something happens. Perhaps today’s bad luck can be completely avoided.

Only when you have made full preparations, tried your best, and had everything ready, and the east wind does not come, can you be qualified to say that you are unlucky.