Go to the supermarket alone at the first level

Go to the restaurant alone at the second level

Drink coffee alone at the third level

Watch movies alone at the fourth level

Eat hot pot alone at the fifth level

Go to KTV alone at the sixth level

Go to the seaside alone at the seventh level

Go to the amusement park alone at the eighth level <

One-person surgery in the tenth grade

I have already had one-person surgery twice, and the doctor asked me to ask my family to sign it. I said that I only have one person, so I can give you a credit card if I am in danger. The password tells you that 4, yuan is enough for rescue. The doctors looked at me with a puzzled face.

I once read an article that is still fresh in my memory. This article is called "Man is a Fish". This article compares man to a fish, which I think is very appropriate. Man is a fish. He can live in a fish tank, in a pond and in the sea.

Everyone longs for a happy life, a warm and happy home, and a beloved partner who can love each other and join hands for life. However, life will not develop according to our own wishes. Some people lose their partners in middle age, some people lose their spouses in old age, and some people will choose to die alone.

Life makes us have to face loneliness. When we get used to living alone, we learn to tolerate loneliness. A person earns money and spends it alone. No one cares, no one cares, and no one accompanies him when he is injured, so he learns to be strong. Learned to face everything alone and bear everything.

Full of grievances and worries, no one tells, so a person comes to the park, walks aimlessly, looks at flowers and grass, and sits quietly in a corner of the park. It seems that people who are in a hurry will relax a lot.

A person goes to the seaside to watch the sea, strolls along the beach to watch the ebb and flow of the tide, watches the rows of waves on the horizon, watches the waves in the sea stir up one after another, and lets the sea breeze blow his hair, so that his mood suddenly becomes clear and his worries are left behind.

travel alone, go to the food street, go to the restaurant and taste all kinds of delicious food. Go to the coffee shop alone, and drink wine alone. A person goes to the movies, a person reads books and newspapers, a person goes to see a doctor, queues up to register, and waits quietly for the results of the examination. During the Spring Festival alone, one speaks to the mirror, one moves and one leaves silently ... < P > One can also live a wonderful life.

level 1: go shopping alone.

level 2: go to the fast food restaurant alone.

level 3: go to the coffee shop alone.

level 4: go to the movies alone.

level 5: eating hot pot alone.

level 6: go to KTV alone.

level 7: go to see the sea alone.

level 8: go to the amusement park alone.

level 9: move by yourself.

Level 1: Go for surgery alone.

More than ten levels can bear it, and it often does.

When you understand that life is inherently lonely and loneliness is the norm, you will take it for granted.

however, people are not alone.

People live in this world, which is actually the relationship between people and the world.

everyone else belongs to this world.

that is, you are dealing with your relationship with the world.

upgrade again, you are the world.

if you are gone, your world will be gone.

So, live happily, live interestingly, love yourself, improve yourself, and make your world better, instead of caring about loneliness.

what you should care about and cherish is yourself, not relying on anyone.

Although many times you need to hold a group to keep warm, you should be able to be independent of this world and get along with it happily and contentedly.

Level 1, I guess I'm more than Level 1. When I grew up with my children, I moved back and forth four times, and every time I was like an ant, from a small bicycle to a battery car, to a car, from living in a nest for more than 2 months, to renting a house for 5 to 6 yuan a month, to buying a house and moving. Now I'm afraid of buying a house, sorting out and moving. The last time I moved, for half a month, I moved a little! In 28, in order not to worry my parents and lie on a business trip, I was lying on a cold operating table with my head empty. Then a person goes home with a big bottle of salt water, goes to the health center every day to let the nurse hang it up, takes it home to continue, and pulls out the needle himself after hanging it up! I buy food, cook and wash clothes, but I can't go to work. Now that I think about it, it's all pediatrics. Life is impermanent, and you are destined to bear more cruelty than these. So what? Still have to bite your teeth and walk alone! I just hope that all the single mothers in the world are healthy and happy, because only when they are healthy can they not expect anything when they have no dependence! Are you lonely?

I read an International Loneliness Rating Scale in Weibo.

From going to the supermarket alone at the lowest level, to watching the sea alone, and then to having surgery alone at the highest level, everyone in the comments said that they were a few levels.

I guess the author of this form is probably a single young man, because many situations in the hierarchy are too childish for people who have been married for many years, and they are not lonely at all.

Except for surgery and moving, it's basically a very common thing in daily life.

Of course, once the word "one person" is added, the mood will change immediately, and it will mean sadness and self-pity.

is it that life can't take care of itself, or that emotional intelligence quotient is not enough to cope with the world?

I'm afraid neither.

I think this is not loneliness, but loneliness with no one to lean on and no heart to belong to.

2

Many masters, including the elders I admire, have interpreted the difference between loneliness and loneliness.

I don't have their high theoretical level, so I can't say much about it, but according to my understanding and experience, the difference between them lies in my mood.

It's like watching a movie alone in a traffic jam at night, and I secretly hate myself for not going out earlier.

A girl in a circle of friends who hates to marry is: "I thought it was bleak enough to go to a movie that was about to be released, but I was caught in a traffic jam and missed the opening of the movie. what a pity!”

you see, if you don't have a firm mind, you can do anything, even if the whole world is in front of you, you will still be in a state of anxiety.

A friend once heard that I often eat and watch movies alone. He was surprised and asked,

"Watching movies alone? Aren't you lonely? "

I was equally surprised to answer, "Why are you lonely?"

come to think of it, I really wasn't like this before.

Three

When I first started working, whether it was shopping or going out to see a movie, it was always a large group of people in calling friends, and at worst, three or two friends together. Almost every week, I had to eat, drink and visit buy buy and have fun.

I clearly remember that my cousin, as a mother, said that she was a lone ranger, which was my surprise when she went shopping by herself. She said casually, "you will do the same in the future."

at that time, I didn't think so. I thought it was as incredible as a fable.

However, after a few years, everyone fell in love and got married one after another, and the time together was much less unconsciously.

when they have children, there will be fewer opportunities to meet each other.

once, I made an appointment for dinner with two friends, but it didn't work out for three or four months in a row. Either this child was ill or that child was uncomfortable, and finally both children were not sick, and something happened at home.

don't even mention the days when the children go to school and have children at home.

Four

If I was forced to go shopping and watch movies alone at that time, now I choose more actively.

Time mismatch is only one aspect, mainly because I pay more attention to the quality of leisure time.

I will never force myself to participate in activities I don't like for the sake of so-called gregarious.

I am willing to accept not everyone's company.

shopping and eating together must be like-minded friends to relax and enjoy, otherwise, the social mode will be fully open during the break, which will kill you.

it is better to enjoy the relaxation of being alone than to be exhausted by the hustle and bustle. You think I'm lonely, empty and cold, but I'm a free Ren Woxing.

The loneliness at this time is that people do subtraction in middle age.

On the other hand, this subtraction is not to retreat into the mountains, passively avoid the world, and retract into the shell like a snail.

On the contrary, I feel the precious time, feel my inner voice, abandon those who confuse my sight and delay my trip, and concentrate my time and energy on pursuing my "true love" and doing what I want to do.

I'm not lonely, are you?

(I just wrote an article about this before, and posted it for everyone to see. )

Ten levels of loneliness, I have experienced nine levels at present, and I hope you and I will never have to experience the tenth level.

going to the supermarket alone is not a matter. It should be something that every independent person can do well, especially for a female man like me who has been stocked since childhood, just like Guan Gong eating bean sprouts, which is a piece of cake.

going to a fast-food restaurant alone is also a necessary survival skill when going out. I learned it when I was 13. When I was 13 years old, I went to junior high school in the city alone. At that time, the food in the school cafeteria was really tasteless, so every Sunday afternoon, I would go to the fast-food restaurant to start a meatless diet and improve the food.

going to the coffee shop alone is a habit I got into after college, and I don't think going to the coffee shop alone is a lonely thing. On the contrary, I like being alone. I like reading quietly alone. At that time, I stayed in the coffee shop all afternoon when I was free on weekends, and I didn't even notice it at night. When I noticed it, the waiter in the coffee shop came to remind me to close.

When I go to the movies alone, I have a shallow eye socket. When I see a movie, I tend to cry easily, so I am often laughed at by my peers. Therefore, once a literary film is released, I basically go to see it silently alone. Watching a movie alone quietly, smile happily, it's wonderful to cry if you want.

a person blowing hot pot often does it when he rents a house. I like eating more, especially in winter, so steaming hot pot is the first choice. The place where I practiced was in the hospital. When I got off work, I happened to pass by the vegetable market. It was especially convenient to buy hot pot ingredients, so I didn't feel much lonely during the internship year, but I gained a lot of weight.

going to KTV alone is an unforgettable experience. On the night of the first breakup, I went to KTV alone. I spent a night in the box, and I was basically exhausted. I went back to sleep for a day and a night, and then the lovelorn thing was basically turned over.

I went to see the sea alone, and I went to Beihai. Actually, I didn't want to go alone, but I happened to go to Beihai to study, so I took the opportunity to visit Yintan. Looking at people coming and going on the beach, I am alone, saying that I am not lonely is to be brave, but in front of the endless sea, people's little emotions are really not worth mentioning.

going to the amusement park alone is a revenge game after the senior high school entrance examination. As you can imagine, a middle school student squeezed by a mountain of textbooks, such as exercises in the sea, can't play anything but study at ordinary times. Once such a person is freed, he must not be completely drunk like a runaway wild horse, where he will feel lonely.

moving alone is a common thing for us children who live alone in the city. From the day of internship, I was doomed to move frequently. I moved back and forth two or three times by myself. Now there is a moving company, that is, when packing, I am tired and have no time to feel lonely.

If you go to surgery alone, why should you go to surgery? May you and I never have to experience this loneliness!

When I saw this problem, I went to collect it on purpose and found that I have done many things by myself, but in fact I am a person who is very afraid of loneliness.

First, go to the supermarket alone

I often go to the supermarket alone, and I don't think this is a lonely performance at all. It is actually a good place for you to pass the time alone, pushing a shopping cart, choosing goods and watching people coming and going. There is no need to be embarrassed. I like going to the supermarket alone, and I feel that the environment is very relaxed.

Second, going to a restaurant alone

is not often done, but I don't reject it, and I don't think it's anything. I am a person who is very afraid of bothering others. Before making an appointment with someone, I will do a lot of construction in my mind, and I will think what should I do if people don't agree to come out? What if she promised to come out, but only because she was embarrassed? Maybe my personality is a problem, so I always make an appointment in advance when I ask someone to eat, but when I suddenly want to eat something, I will choose to go by myself. Although I will be lost when I see people around me in groups of three or five, I will be happy and satisfied as soon as the food comes up.

Third, watching movies alone

This is really a common occurrence for me, because I am a very fond of watching movies, and I also like watching movies alone, because I can watch whatever I want, and I can also concentrate on watching movies without discussing distractions. On Valentine's Day, the cinema was full that day, and then I found a scalper and bought a vacant seat in the middle. I was surrounded by lovers, so I watched the movie intently. I've also seen a movie made by one person. Maybe I didn't turn on the air conditioner because I was the only one watching it. The movie was very hot.

Fourth, I went to KTV alone.

I remember that when I took the accounting certificate at that time, it was just the first year that I took the computer exam. For the first time, almost no one had passed it, so everyone redoubled their efforts to review. When I took the second exam, I was the first one. I clearly remembered the happy mood when I passed that day, and I called my classmates happily. I told them the good news, asked them out and asked them to sing K, but they were all rejected. To be honest, I felt quite lonely at that time, so I walked into ktv myself. After the waiter repeatedly confirmed that I was alone, I sang songs for three hours. At that time, I felt very embarrassed and admired the courage to walk in.