The reason why Jiangnan Yilin wrote this article is purely emotional. Recently, a client friend who has known him for many years found Jiangnan Yilin to talk about some of his experiences in recent years. He met Jiangnan Yilin in Tianya community more than ten years ago.
This friend lives in Fujian, and there is a small-scale processing factory at home. His father is in charge, and he works as a helper. Before that, his business has been very good and his family is well-off. But in the last year or two, it can be described as bad luck again and again. First, the factory at home was cheated of a large sum of money, and the director also ran away. Then, as the father of the pillar of the family, he was detained for trial because of insolvency and other reasons. Himself, the factory collapsed, and he himself lost his job. Last year, the P2P project he invested in suffered a thunderstorm, and he owed a debt. As a result, he had to sell a house to pay off his debts, and his wife is now divorcing ... In short, it never rains but it pours, and this buddy suddenly fell from middle class to extreme poverty.
This friend regrets that when the business of the factory was good, people visited us every day. Now the family is in trouble, and everyone wants to ask for help. This friend has no recourse, as if he had become a unlucky plague god.
The feeling of Yilin in the south of the Yangtze River also came from this. As the ancients said, "Living in a busy city is poor, no one asks, and being rich has distant relatives in the mountains", which can really be described as a cold world. The key word that Jiangnan Yilin wants to talk about in this article is the word "unlucky" said by this friend. 1. Is there really "unlucky" in the world?
Is there really such a thing as "bad luck" in the world? Is "unlucky" really contagious? Otherwise, why should everyone avoid it?
In China people's vocabulary, the word unlucky has multiple meanings. For example, when buying a second-hand house, if someone dies in the house before, people will say that the house is unlucky. People who play cards or gamble will say "bad luck" even if they lose several games in a row. For those who are unlucky in succession, some people call it "unlucky" before. Jiangnan Yilin this article discusses the unlucky meaning of repeated bad luck.
Jiangnan Yilin first concluded: In fact, there is no such thing as "bad luck" as many people understand, but there is indeed such intangible thing as "bad luck" or "fortune". For the convenience of narration, the word "unlucky" is still used to mean unlucky.
A person encounters unlucky things one after another, such as poor health of elders, lawsuits, financial ruin, etc., mostly because of bad luck and bad luck. In particular, if you encounter a big rush of luck or a bad year when the old and new luck change, if you can't be cautious, it is often unpredictable. 2. Do you need to avoid unlucky people?
So, as bystanders, do we need to avoid the so-called "unlucky" people? This depends on the situation, because a person's misfortune is also divided into many situations.
the first type: some people are unlucky simply because of their bad personal morality and conduct. For example, they are irritable and impulsive, ready to fight, or their hands and feet are always dirty, they like stealing, stealing chickens and dogs, or men and women are not honest, attracting butterflies, gambling, taking drugs, etc. The so-called "gambling near stealing, raping near killing" is perfectly normal. These people are typical bad friends, so we'd better stay at a respectful distance from sb, otherwise it will be very difficult for them to get involved and be contaminated.
the second kind: this kind of situation is not as serious as the first kind, but it is more common and more common for ordinary people. Some people have been unable to get out of the shadows because of poor living conditions, such as bankruptcy, being wronged, being cheated, divorce, etc., and they are full of negative energy, all kinds of complaints and all kinds of pessimism. If you want to fall in love, this kind of person will tell you: "There are no good things for men in the world!" " If you want to do business, this kind of person will tell you: "The world is full of liars!" In short, there is nothing good in Ta's eyes. If you have more contact with this kind of person, you will be unconsciously influenced by negative emotions and views of Ta, your originally bright sky will become dark, your originally cheerful mood will become heavy, your personality, words and deeds will also be affected, and you may also be unlucky.
When you watch TV, you can often see the divorced single woman with a child, complaining and accusing her ex-husband all day, complaining that men in the world have no good things. This kind of woman spares no effort to instill negative energy into her children year after year, and nine times out of ten her children will be unhappy when they grow up. This situation is too common in real life. This kind of talent is a veritable unlucky person and should be kept at a respectful distance from others. If Ta happens to be your relative, be sure to enlighten you more and even consult a psychologist.
the third type: unlucky people are good in character and quality, reasonable and positive. He was unlucky only because of temporary bad fortune, which was not caused by his own subjective reasons. This kind of person is unlucky, so you don't have to avoid it. If someone helps such a person when he is in trouble, he is bound to be grateful, and it is also good for you to help him. The so-called icing on the cake is easy, but it is difficult to send charcoal in the snow.
Of course, there are some practical reasons why many people avoid such unlucky people. For example, they are afraid of provoking trouble and asking for money. The so-called emergency does not save the poor. It is really difficult to meet such people among relatives and friends. 3. What should people who are unlucky pay attention to?
Jiangnan Yilin said in previous articles, such as "Kangua" and "No [pǐ] Gua" of Zhouyi, that when a person is unlucky, he must be upright and not act rashly. For example, if someone loses money due to the P2P storm or fails to pay the credit card, you should be honest with your family, solve the practical problems realistically, find friends and relatives to turn around or try to make money, instead of borrowing usury, micro-loans or even taking risks to steal, embezzle, gamble, etc., all of which will quench your thirst and will only sink into the abyss.
If you fail repeatedly in starting a business or investing, or are deceived repeatedly, or are deceived repeatedly in feelings, it may be because you have a bad time, or you have the wrong method and don't know anyone. At this time, you should stop and stop in time, and then reflect and sum up, instead of being unconvinced like a gambler, you have to take a chance and try again, resulting in a vicious circle!
There is a very good saying, "Bodhisattva is afraid of cause, while all beings are afraid of fruit". The meaning of this sentence is that ordinary people only know that they are afraid of bad consequences and bad luck. They don't cry until they see the coffin. They only know that they are happy for a while, regardless of possible bad consequences. Bodhisattva, on the other hand, has excellent wisdom, and is always extra cautious in every move, guarding his heart like a city, preventing the slow progress, and putting an end to the generation of evil causes. Without evil causes, how can it have bad consequences?
Take the credit card maxed out. It's windy and rainy. You don't know how much money you have and how much repayment ability you have. It's understandable if you use your credit card to withdraw cash for investment or short-term turnover. And after you swipe your credit card to withdraw cash, you spend it on eating, drinking and having fun. The amount of cash withdrawn is beyond your tolerance. Who can blame? There is a client friend in Yilin, Jiangnan, who actually spent more than one million on a pile of credit cards to buy a car and shop. In the end, he had to sell his house for repayment, then rent a house, and his wife was getting divorced. This is really bizarre.