Many people's marriages have become tasteless after a long period of time. But why are so many people struggling to maintain such a marriage? What are the factors behind it? If you still choose to maintain such a thin marriage, how can you adjust your attitude towards your husband during pregnancy to better adapt to marriage?

First, use silence as a weapon.

Couples should understand each other. If you can't do it, you will be a worm in my stomach, but at least you should be able to observe the face and observe the color.

I'm not happy today. You said to me, "What's the matter?" I don't need to say that you are my husband, and even I can't see that I'm unhappy? !

I suddenly want to go shopping and eat mala Tang, but I won't say anything. "What the hell do you want?" "Guess!" After so many years of marriage, why can't you understand what I think with one eye?

You didn't give me a present when you went home. You dragged me back to your mother's house, and you were too tired to take care of the children by yourself. Are you indifferent? I think so much of you, why can't you see it?

We quarreled and had conflicts. You befriended and apologized many times. I played dumb. Since silence is golden, silence means that I am angry. Can't you see that when I am angry, the adverse effects will be very serious?

If Xiao Lang is a passer-by after this, then _, silence is really taboo in marriage.

you are upset, OK! You can keep quiet, but at least use short messages and letters to express your anger and your confusion to your lover.

otherwise, in the end, the silence will either break out on the other side or "break out" on your own.

Second, I'm worried about saying "no"

Originally, I was very tired and wanted to have a rest, but you should respond to my lover's rules such as "help me cook" and "take your baby to an interest training class". I really want to refuse, but I am unwilling and afraid, because I don't want my lover to be unhappy.

he doesn't want to accompany his children, he is addicted to games all the time, he is not diligent in his work and he is not filial to his parents? He has many areas that annoy you, but it is not easy for you to say "you shouldn't?" Communicate with the other party in classical Chinese.

You are depressed, but don't say "I'm not well"; A lover or a child clearly puts forward unreasonable troubles. You originally wanted to say "no" but casually said "ok"; The rules of parents-in-law are beyond your scope of commitment, but you think, "No problem, I can"?

I'm afraid to say "no", so I'm naturally very tired.

third, you feel that in order to be happier, you have to humble yourself.

However, what can I do for a very tired married life? I feel that everything he has done for you is taken for granted. "If you say that you love me, you should cut through thorns for me." There is nothing wrong with this sentence, but there is something wrong with it.

Since marriage is a matter of two people, it is not easy to finish the marriage well if you know how to be grateful and everything has its vanquisher.

When Lin Xiaohui chased Su Yan, the gift was refurbished at any cost. She had a slight headache, toothache or depressed mood. He said hello to all kinds of concerns, and he was always ready to go at the drop of a hat, obedient to Sophie Su.

After marriage, Lin Xiaohui is still like this to Sophie Su, and Sophie Su is even more indulgent. He is bossed around in his daily life, and even his own good friends are handed over to him with no boundaries. He also euphemistically said, "He says he loves me, so he should do everything I like very much!"

On that occasion, when a good friend came to Chongqing for a trip, Sophie Su asked Lin Xiaohui to be a driver, a scenic spot interpreter and a dinner party, which was a five-star salary. When my good friend left, he said he wanted to give a gift to Lin Xiaohui. Sophie Su immediately stopped him: "Everything he did is proper. Just give me a gift."

seeing off his good friend, Lin Xiaohui swore, "What is proper? I should cut through the thorns for you. Should you also say' thank you' moderately and do something for me sometimes? ！”

There's so much taken for granted in this world, and there's so much love that doesn't count as income. I'm really sorry, everyone is born to be praised and valued. There is no doubt that the husband wants his wife's gratitude, and the wife wants her husband's gratitude. When I got home from work, my wife and children heard knocking at the door and rushed to welcome me with joy.

but I was scolded by the leading cadres in the enterprise, and I had a bad time with my colleagues, met a strange customer, and even had a bad lunch? So I don't have a good complexion!

You put on a bad face, don't reply, and swear at your lover and children, but the person you should smile most should pay for your bad attitude. Why?

naturally, it is certainly not possible to hold resentment in your heart. Well, you can tell the truth like that: I'm really sorry, I'm a little unhappy in the company today, so now I'm upset; Yes, I met with inconvenience at work today. I'll talk about it. Please help me analyze it. What should I do?

If your lover gives vent to his resentment at work, please understand, accept and tolerate relativity. If you can give suggestions, give them. If you can't, at least make sure you listen attentively and don't want to listen. OK！ Isn't it the most cost-effective gratitude to pat others on the shoulder, hug or kiss them?

6. Be lenient with the law and be strict with the law. Love

When a couple goes out for dinner, each person carries a mobile phone. Men are quick-witted, and people are playing games; The woman frowned and pouted, and she was worried about which photo to post in the WeChat circle of friends. Isn't it very good to immerse ourselves in our own hobbies and get along well with each other? The meal is served.

The boys turned a deaf ear and played the game again. While taking photos, the women complained, "Can you get rid of your mobile phone?" The boy didn't look up and said, "Can you stop taking pictures after dinner?" It's ok if you throw away your mobile phones after complaining, but the story that often starts is that boys play games again, women take photos again and send friends to WeChat. There is also a common storyline that I don't play games, so don't take pictures. Don't finish this meal! What should we do about this kind of most common dilemma in daily life? Actually, it's very broken, you know!

seven, don't discuss with the other party to spend money at random

women are born shopaholics, and when they meet their beloved items, they need to buy them, so their husbands naturally quit. When we live together, how can we pay for it? How can we calculate the flowers and spend what we should spend?

My friend Similu earns 8, yuan a month and over 5, yuan a month, and buys all her favorite things: clothes, pants, designer bags and skin care products.

my husband collects three or four cysts at home every day, and he can't help but prompt, "Don't be a little hard!" She was unhappy: "I spent my own money, can you ignore it?"

ok! Husband doesn't care. The next month, the bank statement came, and the minimum repayment was 12 thousand. She can't afford it. Therefore, selling cute, admitting mistakes, and swearing, my husband helped settle the bank credit card.

Here comes the problem. My mother is seriously ill and asks her for help. It happened that her husband was away on a business trip, and she couldn't even take out 8 yuan. You can only borrow money from others.

After marriage, two people or even a group of people live together. Therefore, the matter of paying money must be discussed and arranged scientifically.

especially when the family's economic development standard is not rich, both husband and wife should have self-control ability, so they don't have to make arbitrary shopping. That sounds corny, but which kind of tea is free of charge? Marriage life should be happy, pay for it, or you don't have to make a statement.

8. Speak freely to each other in front of children

There are naturally many disappointments in married life. After two people have been together for a long time, it is inevitable that the other party will be "a completely changed person after marriage".

Complaints, dissatisfaction, and chills follow one after another. Some people choose to sit down and communicate with others to discuss and express their true thoughts. Some people have been suppressed, and they can't hold it anymore. No matter what the occasion is, they will burst out.

"Look at what you've done? ! It's really bring disgrace to oneself! " Regardless of whether it is right to complain about your lover so much, I just want to ask you where the other person's self-esteem is when the child squeezes out his lover so much in front of him. How big is the child's mental disorder?

"When you grow up, don't choose a boy like your father. It doesn't matter what you want!" The wife points to her husband's face and commissions the daughter. It's very likely that it's not easy for a daughter to know people from now on, but it's nine times out of ten that she doesn't value her father like her mother, and she doesn't value her lover in the future.

"Your mother is nothing but paying money at meetings. If your father and I had no money at that time, she would never be my bride!" If you used to crowd out your wife in front of a child, then _ when the child grows up, you just don't have money. Don't hurt your soft tissue seriously because the child doesn't pay attention to you.

When children crowd out their lovers in front of them, on the one hand, their feelings for each other will gradually crack. On the other hand, children will look down on their parents for this reason, and even make the whole family mentally dissolved.

The above seven taboos for couples to get along with each other are the facts obtained by a British emotional website based on many years of follow-up investigation, and are also the forbidden areas that many couples have stepped on at different levels from intimacy to fate.

That's right. You choose a person and live under the same roof with him every day. You look forward to and have already made preparations in advance to join hands with him for a lifetime. However, there have been so many things in your married life that you are restless, uncomfortable and unhappy.

what should I do?

of course you can complain, but remember that complaining is not silence or swearing;

You can also vent, but venting is not about spending money like water, revealing the shortcomings of the other party without taking into account self-esteem;

Of course, you can say "I'm not very well", but be careful not to pass on your bad feelings to your lover and relatives.

Just because you undertake to earn money to support your family doesn't mean you are an old man; The attitude of pregnancy towards her husband, you are so beautiful, does not mean that his investment is taken for granted!