Some people say that when it comes to marriage, men are more realistic than women. Men are naturally more rational, while women tend to be more emotional.
When they face marital problems, they consider more whether the other person is suitable for them, while women think most about whether he loves you and whether you love him.
So when deciding to get married, men often consider whether the woman is suitable for them, while women often consider whether the man loves them. This also causes women to be more vulnerable to harm in marriage.
When a woman falls into feelings, she becomes blind and loses her mind. In a relationship, a woman can give everything she has for love. But it is difficult for men to do this because they have to weigh the pros and cons and hesitate.
So women must be cautious and rational when choosing a marriage partner. Don't make decisions based solely on momentary passion and impulse.
So many times, parents will evaluate their daughter’s marriage partner. After all, parents are older, and they can probably tell what kind of person they are at a glance. Parents actually have a big say in choosing their daughter's marriage partner.
If your parents don’t dislike the poor and love the rich, but prevent you from falling in love with someone because of their character, don’t try your best to love them just to prove them wrong. , you will find that you suffer much more than you imagined. And when the harvest is slightly harvested, the years have left no room for regret. You just proved that that person is a lot worse than they can see.
The reality is so cruel. What you think is love is probably just a game in the eyes of men. What you think of marriage and responsibilities will often be left behind by them. Therefore, I suggest all female friends to listen to their parents’ advice when it comes to seeing men. After all, they will not harm you.
When it comes to the type of men that women cannot marry, Phoenix Man is second to none. The history of blood and tears of many women tells us the correctness of marrying a Phoenix man or not!
Nowadays, the term Phoenix Man has become a derogatory connotation. Specifically refers to those men who want to drain the woman's family property and change the destiny of themselves and their families. Phoenix men are very good at observing words and emotions, and they can also make people happy. They often coax the girl into their hands first, and then their true colors will be revealed after they get married.
After being coaxed by Phoenix men, many girls feel that they have met love, so they want to marry Phoenix men regardless of the opposition of people around them. This also caused the tragedy of her subsequent marriage.
Xiaoqin is a woman who was deceived by Phoenix Man. Now she has been married for two years and has actually lost confidence in married life. Due to various considerations, she still hesitates and wonders whether this marriage should continue.
When Xiaoqin mentioned this marriage, her words were full of regret. She had just graduated from college and found a job. It was in this company that she met her husband Wang Hai.
Wang Hai had been working for two years at that time. He was three years older than Xiaoqin and was considered Xiaoqin’s senior.
Xiaoqin, who was just starting out, had many things she didn’t understand at work. Wang Hai took good care of her and often taught her. Xiaoqin grew up quickly under his care, so I am very grateful to him.
Wang Hai has good abilities and is often appreciated by his boss. Xiaoqin also admires him. Xiaoqin quickly fell in love with a man who took good care of herself, had good abilities, and wasn't bad looking.
Later, other colleagues told her that Wang Hai’s family background was not good, his hometown was in a rural area, and he had no house or car. Ask Xiaoqin to think carefully.
At that time, Xiaoqin had already fallen deeply in love with Wang Hai, and the material conditions mentioned by her colleagues were nothing in her eyes. She feels that as long as two people work together, their lives will definitely change.
As the saying goes, women chase men's veil. Faced with Xiaoqin's pursuit, it didn't take long for Wang Hai to agree, and the two were officially together.
Xiao Qin and Wang Hai had been in love for about a year. By then, they had already reached the age of marriage, so Wang Hai proposed to Xiao Qin. Xiaoqin was moved and agreed to him.
But this marriage was, not surprisingly, opposed by Xiaoqin’s parents. You can all guess the reason: she is not from the right family, and she is afraid that Xiaoqin will suffer after she gets married.
It can be said that Xiaoqin almost had a huge quarrel with her parents because she wanted to marry Wang Hai.
In the end, the parents had no choice but to agree to the marriage of the two.
The marriage was settled, but the two of them had no house or car. Most of the money Wang Hai had earned over the years was given to his parents. He also had a younger brother who was studying and needed to be supported.
In desperation, the two of them had to rent a house. In this way, the two people began their married life.
Not long after the happy days of marriage, problems faced the two people. The money earned by two people, excluding rent and monthly expenses, is simply not enough. Wang Hai earns 6,000 yuan a month, while Xiaoqin earns more than 4,000 yuan a month. But because most of the money Wang Hai earned was given to his parents and younger brother, the remaining money was used to pay for living expenses.
Xiaoqin told Wang Hai many times about this matter, but Wang Hai didn't listen at all. He also said that he was being filial and could not just think about his own happiness and forget about his parents and family.
Xiaoqin was extremely angry with him, but life had to go on. There was no other way, so the two began to borrow credit cards to live.
Anyone will collapse if they live beyond their means for too long. The couple began to have differences. Wang Hai felt that Xiaoqin was too materialistic and always wanted to spend his own money; while Xiaoqin felt that Wang Hai only thought about things. Family members never think about their own feelings.
In the end, Wang Hai came up with a way to make AA with Xiaoqin. From now on, after excluding the expenses required for daily life, no one can control the other person's money.
Xiaoqin was extremely angry. This was no way of living, it was simply a shared apartment! But Wang Hai has already decided and made a list.
In this way, this absurd married life began. Wang Hai clearly listed every expense. This makes Xiaoqin very uncomfortable.
After more than a year of this kind of life, Xiaoqin was tired of this marriage. The relationship between her and Wang Hai also weakened a lot, and she began to regret marrying him.
Until that thing happened, Wang Hai's younger brother was getting married, and he actually borrowed money from everywhere, saying that he wanted to raise a down payment for his younger brother. Xiaoqin was so angry after hearing this that she started to quarrel with him.
Unexpectedly, Wang Hai said: "Since we are husband and wife, you should also contribute half of the money. Give me whatever money you have."
Xiao Qindu Almost going crazy, she quarreled with Wang Hai again and said the next sentence: If you still give money to your parents and family every month, I will divorce you!
Xiaoqin packed her things and returned to her parents' home, but Wang Hai never looked for her during this period. She was wondering whether she should divorce Wang Hai.
In fact, in my opinion, Xiaoqin now does not need to hesitate at all, she can just divorce Wang Hai. In this marriage, Wang Hai's love for Xiaoqin is completely invisible. Instead, Xiaoqin tolerates Wang Hai in every way. And because of material reasons, the couple's relationship has almost been exhausted.
This is the consequence of marrying a Phoenix man. You need to bear the expenses of his family, and in his eyes, this is a matter of course.
Don’t do to others what you don’t want others to do to you. This sentence should actually be given to all Phoenix men in the world.