The warmth and warmth of human relationships are not for me.

An ancient saying goes: "It is not polite to come and not to go back." Human relationships are a traditional virtue in China, which promotes communication and deepens social cohesion. means.

The biggest debt in life is debt of favor, debt of favor, disaster of favor, favor no longer!

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Family love, a lifelong debt of gratitude, cannot be touched, cannot be touched, and dare not touch

Too fragile, too naive, too selfless, Too deep, too heavy, too emotional

When Xiao An said this, I was particularly impressed, because her attitude was ten thousand times more serious than usual

Coming from a single parent, and later In the reorganized family, as an unlovable girl, there is no doubt that she lacks a sense of security

In fact, she has not lacked love since she was a child, but she alone makes herself look like she has been abandoned by the whole world. Same

When she was five years old, her mother took her from their village to marry a 35-year-old uncle in the suburbs.

On the day of the wedding, her mother asked her to change her name to dad, but she ran away. The mother was stunned

Later she heard that her mother apologized to her uncle’s mother in tears and promised to discipline her strictly in the future

After that, she called her uncle daddy at home. When you are not at home, you call me uncle. This method was also taught by my uncle

In fact, the life of a family of three is enough to satisfy Xiao An’s imagination and pursuit of "home"

Life should be Everything was going smoothly, life was supposed to get better and better, and Xiao An was supposed to grow up in a happy family.

However, the last thing that happened was that he was caught off guard

Just as Xiao An was about to graduate from senior year. At that time, the uncle's lumbar spondylosis worsened seriously, resulting in direct paralysis

Since graduation was approaching, the uncle did not let Xiao An's mother tell Xiao An that it would affect the child until Xiao An returned home at the end of the year

At the end of everything, Xiao An’s mother said: The only thing you can’t repay in this life is your father’s debt

At first, because her husband died when she was young, she was considered to be a mother and daughter of the husband

When no one wanted them, it was the uncle who accepted them

Xiao An’s mother said: He will be paralyzed for the rest of his life, and I will guard him for the rest of his life

Xiao An said: This is my mother’s debt of gratitude, and it will be ruined. For the rest of her life

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Colleague Xu Yu often said, when will this debt of gratitude be repaid?

I said: I'm sorry, this should be unclear

Her cousin took her in. When she got divorced and had no place to live

When her cousin Where her aunt helped to take care of the children, her cousin helped with her work and relationship matters

She was allowed to raise a child and work during the year when she was separated from her husband, and her life was smooth

Living together, eating and drinking, for a short time is fine, but for a long time, it is really not possible if you are not your parents

Especially since she has a child, she has something to talk about.

Needless to say, my colleagues have to pay for the children’s expenses themselves, but what about the public expenses of this house? what to do?

The house is rented, food needs to be eaten three times a day, daily necessities and daily expenses have to be paid

How much or how little is allocated will depend on each person’s wishes at first, and then it will be I looked at the balance at the end of the month

In the end, I didn’t even look at the balance at the end of the month. My cousin felt that if you live here just to see my face

It makes trouble Everyone has bad tempers and harsh words. These are okay. When the frequency is small, my colleagues don't care.

I also think that I have nowhere to go with my children. It's okay. I just tolerate it~

Just because I was unhappy, I kept making insinuations and yelling, even if I was a fool, my colleagues also took notice of me, which made me even more sad

I was relying on others, and I was holding back my grievances. When you are desperate, if someone helps you, you should remember the kindness

My cousin also responded domineeringly: No one wants you anymore, what else do you want

These are relatives~ (It’s the same as having no filial son before a long-term illness)

My colleague has moved out now, and her own nest is comfortable.

It’s just that her cousin comes to visit every three days. Spend a small amount of money and say a few sarcastic words: We are all your relatives

Xu Yu said: The height of the debt of gratitude is actually accumulated by herself. She just stayed in other people's homes for too long~

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p>I had a video chat with my mother a few days ago. My mother said that this month she only gave out gift money, and she paid almost 10,000.

I was shocked at the time. My family still lives in the suburbs. , it is considered to be half a rural area. The cost for one month is a bit much, right?

I asked my mother: Who is getting married again? My cousin? My cousin? Or do you mean that my immediate family doesn’t know any relatives?

My mother said, no, it’s just so-and-so from the back streets, and so-and-so from your dad’s friends, and finally there’s so-and-so from the front street (where do we divide front street and back street) and that one Who and what, every stroke, some of which I have never seen in my whole life, some that I can’t hit with eight sticks... My mother said that she has seen them all, and sometimes she helped them to some extent when doing things. Appropriate...

Look, today's "favor consumption" is not only reflected in the rapid growth of the share of gifts, but also the number of favor expenditures can be said to be all kinds of dazzling, including feasts in various names, marriages, children, etc. Years of birth, college entrance exams, building a house, moving to a new house, starting a business, joining the army, birthdays, illness, death of a relative, promotion, etc., can all be reasons for receiving gift money, and the list is overwhelming. If things go on like this, the flavor of "favor" becomes weaker and weaker, and the flavor of transaction becomes stronger and stronger, falling into a vicious cycle of more and more favor consumption items.

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"Human love" is an intangible, priceless, abstract, stimulating word that carries many meanings and makes people sleepless throughout their lives. ….

”Traditional “human relations” have gradually turned into “luxury goods” that are forced to be consumed. It has gradually become the fourth necessity for Chinese people in addition to housing, medical care, and education. This huge mountain has become a major burden that cannot be ignored and is difficult to get rid of in people's lives. What's more serious is that the harm of excessive consumption of favors is not only a drain on the wallet and a waste of time.

The word "favor" expresses it. What is supposed to be the warmth between people; however, interests and greed have made it more and more monetized and less sentimental. Human communication is a necessity of life. It is difficult for us to live without it, but we often appreciate it. I feel disgusted, even hateful.

People are burdened by the burden of human debt, and the debt of human debt becomes a debt that can never be repaid! p>I am noble, and people worship me with this crown and belt; I am humble, and people regret me with my common clothes and grass shoes. But why should I be happy if I am not worshiped? Why should I be angry if I am not insulted? -- "Cai Gen Tan"