Now let me explain to you, in your hometown, is there a lot of preference for boys over girls? If you are interested, come and take a look! A couple in Maoming came from a poor family and already had two girls and one boy. Their third child was a girl, so the husband secretly put the child in a snakeskin bag and took it to the wild and threw it away. Is there a lot of preference for boys over girls around you? What do you think of this behavior of abandoning children because they are unable to raise them? 01

I am from Chaoshan, Guangdong. I was abandoned by my biological parents as soon as I was born. At first, he was sent to my third aunt's house to be raised, but the third aunt's family had six children and couldn't take care of them. Later, my current grandma saw me and thought I was very pitiful, so she took me to my adoptive parents' home. The adoptive parents themselves had two sons. After all, I am an adopted daughter. It is impossible to treat them like my own daughters, but I must also thank them. Without them, I may not be alive now. So I still have to thank them.

When I was 22 years old, I married a Chaoshan man and gave birth to a son. After we got married, I was the one making money by opening a Taobao store. I paid for all household expenses, including my ex-mother-in-law’s medical expenses. In the four years of marriage, he only went out to work for more than half a year, and spent the rest of the time at home. I was also polite to my ex-mother-in-law. In the four years, I only talked back to her before the divorce. But he was not satisfied. He and his ex-mother-in-law kept scolding me for not doing much housework and not having another child! It’s not that I don’t do housework. I am responsible for taking care of the entire Taobao store. I also work as a customer service and deliver goods. There are many things to do every day and I am very busy. If I use this time to do housework, the whole family may be drunk! Moreover, my ex-husband is always at home, so I can let him do the housework. He is not short of arms and legs! He is a completely normal person, but he spends all day doing nothing at home, and his ex-mother-in-law blames me! My ex-mother-in-law didn’t have any serious illness, she just had high blood pressure. She took medicine every day just like a normal person. She only took care of the children and did nothing else! And once I have a little time, I will cook for the children. I am the one who bathes the children every day, and they still treat me like this! One time at around 11 o'clock in the morning, several customers wanted to buy clothes, and another customer wanted to exchange goods. I was very busy in front of the computer. My mother-in-law was still talking to me with her child in her arms, asking me to cook for the child. Eat, chirp, chirp, chirp, chirp and chat non-stop! But her ex-husband had been sleeping for more than ten hours, but she didn't ask him to get up and cook! I was really angry that time. I said he was not dead! It’s not like he’s disabled! Why don't you go and ask him to get up and cook? She was not happy after hearing this and started scolding me! How can a man do housework? He also said that other people’s daughters-in-law have given birth to three or four children in four years, and I will give birth to this one! Other people's wives do housework all day, and I just stare at the computer all day!

At that moment, I was completely disheartened... She completely negated all my contributions to this family. Everything I did was in vain, and I still have to be accused like this by her. I decided to give up and never want to suffer such injustice again! Maybe, I am not suitable to stay in Chaoshan. It was destined from the moment I was born... Women in Chaoshan will always be inferior to men no matter how hard they work...

I decided to divorce and never want to live in Chaoshan again. Stay in that so-called home for just one minute! Because the child was a boy, they refused to give it to me. At that time, I had no choice but to give up custody of the child and get a divorce.

After the divorce, I left Chaoshan and came to Guilin. Although the economy here is not developed, there is no such serious patriarchal mentality and the scenery is beautiful. I am much happier than I was in my marriage. In the past two years, I have been negotiating with him to give me custody of our son, but he has refused. Last month I made a special trip back to Chaoshan to negotiate with my ex-husband’s brothers. I said that the child is now more than five years old and is not very good at talking. If he continues to be brought up by his ex-husband, it will ruin the child's life! His brothers thought it made sense and finally agreed to give me custody of the child.

I am very happy. I can finally be with my son, and I can also leave a place that does not belong to me in the first place...

But my son’s expressive ability is still much better than that of his peers. There is a big difference. After I taught him this month, he has improved.

I hope that my son’s expressive ability will soon catch up with his peers. I also hope that I can earn more money so that my children can live a better life. I will try to buy a house in Guilin next year. At that time, the child's household registration can be transferred, and he can study in a public school here, giving him a better learning environment... 02

I was abandoned by my biological parents when I was a child. In Liyang, Jiangsu, they favor sons over daughters. I don’t want a girl and haven’t visited me for decades. Now that I have grown up and can make money, the so-called mother appears and hopes that I can visit her during the holidays and honor her. I just wanted to ask her why. No one cared about me when I needed maternal love, and no one cared about me when I needed money to go to college. After all, my adoptive parents were not biological to me, that was it. They don’t want to spend money to train me, but I still have to thank them when I grow up. But those beastly parents who abandon their biological daughters don’t want any more contact. Because they are not human. Sooner or later there will be retribution. 03

The coordinates are Yangjiang, Guangdong.

My mother-in-law has been looking forward to me giving her a fat grandson since I married into their family. She also said that she would tell her as soon as she got pregnant that she had a recipe for giving birth to a boy. It is only useful if you drink it when you are 1 month old. I thought it would be fine if I drank it and it was fine. What if there was something wrong with the so-called medicine to give birth to a baby and I gave birth to a bisexual child? So after two years of marriage, I resisted the pressure from all kinds of family and friends and refused to get pregnant. Seeing my firm attitude, my mother-in-law had no choice but to put aside the idea of ??having a son and said that as long as I had a baby, it would be fine for both men and women. So I also started preparing to have a baby. When I was pregnant and had major ovarian cancer, the doctor revealed to me that I was pregnant with a daughter, but I didn’t tell my mother-in-law. My mother-in-law also asked me through relatives and friends, asking me if I knew whether I was pregnant with a boy or a girl. Just say I don’t know, the doctor didn’t tell me. So my mother-in-law had no choice but to give up.

In May of this year, I gave birth to my daughter by caesarean section due to mild eclampsia. My mother-in-law began to have a bad attitude towards me. From the moment she gave birth to the baby, she looked at me coldly and said: It’s not like she is a good person. It was such a big event that a dead person had to have a caesarean section. Even if it was a caesarean section, the baby was still a daughter. Now it would be two or three years before she could have a second child. When could she have a grandson? In fact, when I gave birth to my daughter by caesarean section, the amniotic fluid was very low and contaminated to the third degree. The moment the doctor took my daughter out of my belly, he said that this was really a baby born from fecal water, and he immediately informed me of the emergency. Pediatrician, request for consultation. Fortunately, after the evaluation, my daughter's indicators were good and nothing happened. Later, while the doctor was giving me stitches, he told me that my daughter was very likely to die. If she had done the surgery later and drank the amniotic fluid, she might not have been able to save her life.

But my mother-in-law didn't care and kept making trouble, saying that my daughter was too light, weighing only five pounds, and that the time of birth was not good, and that she was trying to kill my husband. I just felt so tired, but thinking that she was an elder, I didn't say anything.

When I was in confinement, according to custom, my mother-in-law came to visit my relatives. From the moment I walked in, my mother-in-law began to scold me in front of my mother-in-law. Basically, she had to have a caesarean section to give birth to a daughter. That set. My parents were afraid of affecting my mood and didn't dare to tell me too much. They just said that it would be fine if I finished the confinement period. If my mother-in-law couldn't bear it then, they would go back to live with my parents. At the same time, they also regretted that they agreed to introduce my husband to me. , married into the wrong family.

During the entire confinement period, I felt depressed. I even suspected that I was going to suffer from postpartum depression. But I also gave my mother-in-law living expenses. Anyway, she is only responsible for my three meals a day, and she is not responsible for other things, so I feel that I am still very confident. Moreover, I didn’t spend a penny on her from the time I got married to the time I gave birth to my child. My husband and I bought all the wedding jewelry with our own credit cards. The betrothal gift for my wedding was 18,000 yuan, but I bought a motorcycle and a washing machine as my dowry, which also cost me more than 10,000 yuan. So I returned to Guangzhou immediately after my confinement, and I didn’t have to look at her to take care of my children. It's just that I really have to think carefully about this second child. After all, with my mother-in-law's attitude, I really don't want to have another son to inherit her family's "throne." . . 04

When I was born in the Northeast, there were few families that favored sons over daughters. When I was in school, there were more than 50 classmates in a class, and the number of men and women was balanced. There were only two or three families that favored sons over daughters.

People in the past were not highly educated and their conditions were not good. Many people only had primary school education. I think the preference for boys over girls has something to do with this. My grandparents both have high school education. My father has only one son. My grandfather has two granddaughters and two granddaughters, but no grandchildren. My grandparents like me the most because I am their eldest granddaughter, and if I were a boy, or the other one was a boy, I think they would prefer boys. Although she has never had grandchildren, she has never asked my mother to have another child, nor has she ever said she likes grandchildren. So my sister and I have been very happy since we were young, and we have never encountered any big differences in treatment between men and women.

Because the concept of favoring boys over girls is not widespread, the population in the Northeast is also well controlled. Now that the second child is allowed, the third child is also becoming looser. I really don’t understand the concept of favoring sons over daughters. There is no succession to the throne in the family, and we have to fight for a house and a car for the boy in the future, which is more expensive. So in fact, more people in the Northeast want girls. Economics is one aspect, and girls are more considerate than boys on the other. 05

My husband is from Panshui County, Liupanshui, Guizhou. The patriarchal mentality there is quite serious. When I was in the hospital the day after I gave birth to my first child, his eldest sister actually told me to my face that I had to have another son. My husband was poor at that time, so I said it would be fine to have one child, but I couldn’t afford to support two.

Now the conditions are better, and I have just become pregnant with my second child. My husband still wants a son as he did when he was pregnant with the first child, but my daughter always wants to have a sister. I am actually the same as my daughter. I don’t know why I don’t want a son. Last night I dreamed that I gave birth to another daughter. Before getting married, my brother got married first, and the first child was a son. When my sister-in-law was pregnant with the second child, she really wanted to have a daughter, so she dreamed of giving birth to a girl. She was quite happy at that time, but she didn’t know that after the birth, she would have a girl. It was a boy again, and he felt sad.