Someone on the Internet once compared men and women to goods on the shelves according to their age. Compare a 20-year-old man to a futures, a 30-year-old man to a spot and a 40-year-old man to a hot commodity!

But the description of a woman's age is the opposite. A 20-year-old woman is a * * * version, a 30-year-old woman is an explosion, and a 40-year-old woman has become a slow-moving tail.

Time is a value-added medicine for men, but it has become a "killing knife" for women. Not only did it lose its beauty, but it also depreciated over time.

For a woman who is nearly 40, the passage of time is cruel.

Unfortunately, there is no harbor to park. When a woman realizes that she needs a warm family at this time, it is difficult to find love again, and it is easy to fall into a very confused state.

My friend Wen Na is in this state now. Wen Na is 38 years old, and now she can't wait to get married.

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Wen Na was not a girl who hated marriage before, but now she suddenly changed her mind.

Wen Na is beautiful. She has a stable job and her own savings. According to such conditions, it should be easy for Wen Na to find a partner in recent years. However, Wen Na only kissed each other a few times, and everything seemed to be destiny takes a hand, but there was no follow-up afterwards.

Before, we asked Wen Na, don't those blind date people agree?

Wen Na just said indifferently, "Those blind date people asked me how much my salary was from the beginning? Do you have a house? What is the situation of the old people at home?

After two people simply exchanged each other's information, they both felt that it was not appropriate, so they didn't follow up. Everyone is an adult, and everyone's goals are clear. "

Indeed, in adult love, there will be some purposefulness or materiality, not because adults no longer pursue love, but because they have more important tasks than pursuing love.

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A few days ago, Wen Na, who has always been indifferent to her feelings. Suddenly, I asked my friend to introduce her to someone, and I spoke frankly about my requirements. It's simple, just a little. The man has his own house and will write her name.

My friends were surprised by Wen Na's change of attitude towards marriage, but I wasn't surprised.

Wen Na is 38 years old. Although he has some savings, he has never owned his own house. He worked hard in a strange city, which made Wen Na feel no sense of belonging. The older he gets, the stronger his loneliness becomes.

Besides, Wen Na's parents are also very anxious. They called Wen Na all day, and all the relatives and friends around them were fanning the flames. The gossip around them also put a lot of pressure on Wen Na, even he couldn't work well for a while.

Marriage is originally just a person's choice, and it is an optional state of love. However, under some pressure from relatives and friends around, marriage has changed from multiple-choice questions to compulsory questions.

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In fact, age can not limit the arrival of love, nor can it deprive everyone of the right to happiness. Even at the age of 40, you can expect a beautiful love.

Wen Na, on the other hand, turned himself into a commodity on the shelves of shopping malls and wanted to "sell" himself at a low price.

This is a kind of helplessness and a compromise to reality.

It is difficult to find a suitable marriage partner under this "passable" mentality, because in this case, both parties only want to complete their own "tasks", which will ignore the contradictions between them and lead to low marriage quality.

Many leftover women hate marriage, which is mostly caused by the comments of friends around them and well-meaning advice. In fact, everyone has their own way of life. Don't force yourself, let alone others.

No relationship can be maintained by one person, and no marriage can be maintained by one person.

Only when two people are willing to spend time together to maintain a marriage, can they appreciate the fun and happiness in marriage and find their own happiness in a messy life.

Today's topic:

If it were you, would you marry a 42-year-old woman

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