Having dinner with a friend, the friend said something about her friend. Let's just call that friend Sister Meng.

When Sister Meng was young, she married her husband, Lao Zhang, who had nothing. Meng Jie has paid a lot for Lao Zhang. At the beginning, her parents didn't agree with their marriage, but Meng Jie insisted on marrying Lao Zhang despite her parents' opposition. Parents put down their malicious words. If you marry him, don't try to take a penny from home to marry him.

Sister Meng has backbone. If she doesn't take it, she won't take it, so she married Lao Zhang naked. Lao Zhang, who was poor at that time, could not give the bride price money at all. After getting married, the two rented a house of less than 2 square meters and lived a hard life. Sister Meng was asked what she wanted, and she said that Lao Zhang treated her well and didn't care if she had money.

Later, Sister Meng gave birth to a child, quit her job and went home to look after the child. It looked like three years, and then a second child was born. She spent six or seven years in caring for the child, paying her own youth and sweat.

Lao Zhang, on the other hand, has always been a shopkeeper when he comes home, doing nothing. In his words, it is only natural that men work hard outside and women take care of their children at home.

in the following years, Lao Zhang cooperated with others to start a company and made a fortune. It's not unreasonable that a man's heart changes and he becomes bad when he has money.

Lao Zhang gives his family a certain amount of living expenses every month, and the rest are ignored. Sister Meng even has very little pocket money, so she can only save it from the food money.

Lao Zhang, who made a fortune, began to dislike Meng Jie. He was always plain and yellow-faced, and it was embarrassing to take him out. Lao Zhang has a new love outside, so he doesn't want Meng Jie and wants to divorce Meng Jie.

Meng Jie suddenly lost her mind. For many years, in order to take care of her family, she had no income, so she divorced and how to support her family. But Lao Zhang is possessed by ghosts and doesn't care about these at all.

Sister Meng has no choice but to divorce if she doesn't agree. Since you are divorced, let's settle the property and divide the property.

Lao Zhang was shocked. Sister Meng said, "This family, you didn't earn a penny, you didn't pay at all, and you want to share the property with me. Are you kidding?"

Sister Meng didn't think that this man was so heartless that he didn't give anything. She gave birth to two children, brought up two older children and took care of the family day and night. If it weren't for taking care of the children, how could I have no income?

Sister Meng, through the relationship of sisters, found a lawyer and took Lao Zhang to court. They quarreled over the divorce property. They fought to the end, even how much Meng Jie spent on Lao Zhang's clothes, and they had to be clear.

In the end, no one can escape the word "money", so it is necessary and important to talk about money in marriage.

one: Before getting married, talk about money well, so that the other person can cherish it

Why is there a heated discussion about whether to get married or not? Because, more and more girls realize that they didn't talk about money well before marriage, and the man's family simply didn't know how to cherish it. They will think that women who don't want bride price and don't talk about money are very cheap, and even no one wants them. If they don't take them in kindly, they probably won't get married.

that's how women learn to ask for a bride price.

In fact, many women don't really care about the bride price, but want the bride price process to let men know that they are not cheap and it is not that easy to marry them home.

2. Marriage without money is irrational.

Love can be full of water, but marriage can't be maintained without money. Marriage without talking about money is irrational.

Recently, I read Zhang Ailing's Half-Life Destiny. Man Lu married Zhu Hongcai for the sake of his lower body, hoping to marry him and lead a good life.

I didn't expect that before I had a good life with Zhu Hongcai, Man Lu turned over his old capital first.

It's not that Man Lu doesn't know how to marry a man and talk about money, but that she has no choice but to like Zhu Hongcai. After Zhu Hongcai got a knife for her, Man Lu was moved and willing to take out all her savings to help Zhu Hongcai pay off his debts and give him the capital to turn over.

Man Lu knew it was risky, but she did it anyway, and always told Zhu Hongcai to make a fortune in the future and return it to her with interest.

Man Lu knows very well that the marriage with Zhu Hongcai, although emotional, is more of a cooperative relationship. Unfortunately, Zhu Hongcai later became rich and changed his mind, and the life of Man Lu was even more bitter.

Has it ever occurred to you that if Man Lu doesn't talk to Zhu Hongcai about money, her marriage life will be even more miserable, not to mention helping her mother's family or raising herself?

No matter what age, when you get married, you must talk about money and talk clearly.

3. Only by talking about money can you guarantee your own interests.

Teacher Xue Zhaofeng once said in the "Qipa Shuo": "Marriage means running a family business, signing a life-long wholesale futures contract, and both parties take up their own resources to run a business together. At this time, the resource packages given by men and women are different, with health, fertility, appearance, family relationship and their own future growth potential.

Just like Sister Meng at the beginning of the article, she contributed her body, fertility, time and energy to the family, but in exchange for a change of heart and accusations from men: "What have you done for this family? Didn't earn a penny? "

if women don't sacrifice their time and energy to take care of their children, how can men have time to work hard and how can they have the opportunity to become rich and expensive?

A bad wife can't leave home. As a man, you can't abandon a wife who shares joys and sorrows.

If a woman can make it clear to a man before marriage, if she can't go to work in order to take care of her family in the future, and if a man betrays his marriage, he will leave home clean, divide his property to her, or even sign a pledge, will the man dare to mess around?

When you get married, you must have a good talk about money to ensure your own interests. People's hearts alone can't guarantee it.

when times get worse, people's hearts are not old.

A man who dares to cheat is not afraid of hurting you or losing you, but he is afraid of hurting and losing money. Women in marriage must learn to talk about money with men.

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