I think this kind of thing is what you want. There is nothing reasonable and unreasonable. It depends on whether you want it or not. However, marriage is no joke. As a person who has been married for eight years, your boyfriend didn't tell you about the debt until he got married. I don't think your boyfriend really loves you. Your relationship contains elements of infidelity, and your boyfriend doesn't really realize his problems. I've been saying recently that you put a lot of pressure on him. I can only say that your boyfriend is not ready to marry you. If you really love your boyfriend, you can't marry in a hurry. When the economic pressure is less, let's get together more and talk about marriage. Some things, outsiders always know better than people in the bureau. Give yourself and your boyfriend more time and don't make a decision in a hurry.