? It is true that the phrase "you are responsible for making money to support the family, and I am responsible for opening beautiful flowers" has filled the heads of many little girls. I don't know why, this sentence is clearly to teach girls not to work hard, but to live hard, but it is regarded as a treasure by many girls. Why? As a girl, you must wait for a man to support you? What, can't you make an effort yourself? Share a story with you.
? More than ten years ago, there was a little girl from the countryside who didn't even know a few words and didn't earn much money. At this time, she met a person who was also from the countryside. The man is several years older than her, but he has some savings because he came out early. Through the introduction of others, they fell in love, but this girl is not a docile woman in the traditional sense. She has ambition and strong desire. Although she loves this honest man, she also despises his lack of progress and stagnation. She keeps learning and improving herself. She knows more people, and there are more people who can bring her opportunities. In more than ten years of marriage, she gave birth to a pair of children for him. She keeps changing jobs and gets a better chance to buy a car and a house. In everyone's eyes, the life of the young couple is getting better and better. It was supposed to be a warm story, but at this time, the little girl filed for divorce from a simple and honest man. The man thought about it and agreed, which surprised everyone. Why? What caused their marriage to finally break up? Is the man cheating and the woman disheartened? Or is the woman having an affair and can't go on? Is it the man's domestic violence? Neither.
? The reason is that the woman's vision and vision are constantly expanding. In her eyes, it is not the world where only husbands and children were hot at the beginning. She knows what opportunities are, what challenges are, what futures investment is, and what interest rates and risks are. The man who looks simple and honest, but still sticks to his own little world, can't catch up with her. When I first met her, she was a working girl from the countryside, not deeply involved in the world; He is a down-to-earth peasant boy, with a little savings and vision. Ten years later, she had enough money in her hand, met many important people and gradually moved to a higher level in the world; And he, with decades of hard work in the factory, got a small leadership position, in charge of more than a dozen workers. However, a person who goes in and out of high-end office buildings every day and wears a glamorous suit can have a common topic with a person who sits in the workshop drinking tea and talking about mountains every day? How can a person who orders thousands of high-end skin care products understand a person who has to bargain for two kilograms of vegetables? Never know how to argue. At the end of their marriage, the only topic between them is how many points their children got in this exam and whose daughter will get a red envelope when she gets married. Perhaps, men also realize that between them, it is no longer like a little woman hiding behind a man. The passive little woman in Nuo Nuo has grown into a mature woman. She has her own world outlook and her own circle of friends. She can control her life without relying on men, especially a man who made no progress more than ten years ago, which is why he can let go happily. Although I can't live together anymore, I hope she can live happily and laugh like a flower.
? In this story, some people may think that this is all a woman's problem. How can they abandon this whole family just because they have made progress and succeeded? How can she ignore the silent contribution made by this man in these decades? This is not in line with the traditional values of China at all. We believe that women should teach each other. Seeing this, don't worry, let me tell you another story.
? Have you heard the story of Xu Zhimo and Lu Xiaoman? Two young people who were madly in love regardless of worldly ignorance at that time. Their family model is typical: "You are responsible for beauty, and I am responsible for making money to support my family." Do you know how Xu Zhimo died? Yes, the plane crashed into a mountain and died. What a pity! Such a talented young man. Do you know why he took that plane? That's a cargo plane. After Xu Zhimo and Lu Xiaoman got married, they had a very happy time. Lu Xiaoman's little woman character greatly satisfies Xu Zhimo's male chauvinism. As long as it's something my wife likes, buy it! Wife likes it, buy it! Lu Xiaoman was used to a spoiled life since he was a child, and his fingers were never touched by the sun. Xu Zhimo arranged all the housework at home, and he spent a lot of money. At this time, their marriage was cracked. No amount of water can fill a bottle with holes. Whether as a teenager or when she married her first husband, Lu Xiaoman never had to think about expenses. Anyway, her husband and her family are rich, so what are you afraid of? However, who is Xu Zhimo, a poet and scholar, even if he has some money at home, he can't bear the extravagance and waste of Lu Xiaoman. In order to satisfy his wife's consumption desire, he went to various places to give lectures and attend seminars in exchange for money. In one year, he is away from home for half a year, and the only communication with his wife may be stacks of bills of exchange. After Xu Zhimo's accident, his ex-wife, the third wife of the Xu family, has been taking care of the strange girl in his family, recalling a detail: "This is what I have been worried about. There has always been a hole in his pants, but his family (referring to Lu Xiaoman) seems to have never noticed this, and even a pair of pants has not been mended for him. " Even a stranger can see the hole in his trousers. Lu Xiaoman in bed can't see it? Of course not, it's just that in Miss Ruda's eyes, this kind of thing is naturally done by servants such as nannies. However, she seems to forget that this is no longer the resplendent palace where she grew up. This is just an ordinary street apartment. It is this extremely unequal marriage mode that not only pushed Xu Zhimo to the grave-because he was in a hurry to give a lecture and took a cheap cargo plane, the plane crashed and people died, and Lu Xiaoman also lost Xu Zhimo's asylum. After Xu Zhimo's death, Lu Xiaoman, who was unable to take care of herself and support herself, lived on the support of others all day and finally died of opium. It is said that when she died, she lost her reputation as one of the four beauties of the Republic of China.
? Seeing this, I want to say that although you want to be beautiful and let your man support his family alone, not every man has the capital to let his woman just eat, drink and sleep at home all day without "showing up" to work. If you really love this man, and this man doesn't have enough capital to support his family, is it wrong for two people to work together to create a new life and create a life that satisfies you? It is a man's responsibility to support his family, but it doesn't mean that women don't have to work or stay at home as housewives.
? Wake up, girls, whether men or women, you have to support your small family, not your responsibility to each other.