Nowadays, with the development of the times, people's happy life index is rising, material life is satisfied, but the divorce rate is also rising. There are many reasons for two people's divorce, which can be the principle problems such as marital disharmony, serious contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, extramarital affairs, lover betrayal, etc.
In any case, these problems will challenge your marriage and hurt your feelings.
If two people divorced because the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law was difficult to reconcile, and the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law was serious, the lover would wake up in time and be willing to make efforts in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Even if two people are separated, the emotional foundation is still there. If the other party wishes, they can remarry, but the principle is not easy to forgive.
There are many reasons for extramarital affairs, many of which are marital emotional crisis and flowers and plants outside marriage. Either way, from the perspective of demand, cheating is only to fill the missing part of their lives, because they can't get it, because they are not satisfied enough.
Bai zai said, "in the past, when we were hungry, we all understood happiness in this way, and then we ran all the way to full." Finally, one day most people are full, or not so hungry, only to find that your desire is stronger and you want more things. So if you are not hungry, you will be in trouble. "
The essence of extramarital affairs is to take what you don't have from others and win people's hearts in the name of true love. In fact, in the end, you find yourself with nothing.
If there is no divorce, Miao Ying has a very happy family. She and her husband have been married for more than ten years, and their relationship is not bad. But just six months ago, she had an affair. In this relationship, the problem is not her husband, but herself.
When she was with her husband, he couldn't give her anything. When they got married, they only hosted banquets for relatives, let alone rented wedding dresses. Even the ring was bought at the stall. But even so, Miao Ying did not abandon Founder. After they got married, they still lived happily. The time in the rental house was Miao Ying's happiest and her most unforgettable.
At that time, she was doing several jobs to give her a better life. One thing Miao Ying does when she goes home every day is to cook, and then wait for Founder to go home. The dishes are simple but delicious. Later, they had children. Although the three are poor, they are also very happy because they are together.
Seeing Miao Ying suffering with herself, Founder couldn't bear to work hard. After eight years of struggle, they finally have their own house and car, and their family conditions are much better than before.
Miao Ying wanted a second child at the age of 35, because she had been working hard before and had a younger son after giving birth. After the second child, Miao Ying became a mother for physical reasons, so Founder was responsible for making money to support his family, and Miao Ying was in charge of the family to reassure Founder.
Since Founder put the focus of his life on his work, the contradiction between Miao Ying and Founder came. Founder was busy with his work and didn't consider Miao Ying's mind. Every holiday, Founder will transfer money to her, but will not buy her flowers or gifts. Miao Ying hopes that Founder will put his mind on himself. In the long run, two people will always quarrel over a little thing.
Miao Ying has been a mother for two years, and Founder has never abandoned her. Every month, she transfers more money to Miao Ying. As long as Miao Ying wants something, Founder will buy it for her immediately, but Miao Ying is still not satisfied. His carefully selected clothes were sent away by Founder. Because of this, Miao Ying just met Huang Hao and fell into the whirlpool of love. She and Huang Hao met while shopping at the mall.
When she was struggling to buy that dress, Huang Hao gave her constructive advice. At Huang Hao's suggestion, she changed into another suit and was praised a lot when she sent her children to school. So whenever Miao Ying has something to dress up, she will ask Huang Hao on WeChat, and they will tell him everything from dressing to daily life. Miao Ying later told him that she and Huang Hao really got together after quarreling with Founder.
That day, it was the wedding anniversary of two people. Miao Ying sent the children to grandma's house early in the morning. The founder is on a business trip. Originally, she said that he would get home in time, but because of the work delay, it was early morning when Founder got home, and all the meals she cooked were cold.
Miao Ying felt that Founder didn't pay attention to his performance, so she had a big fight with him and ran out in the middle of the night. Because there was nowhere to go, she called Huang Hao and Huang Hao took her to her apartment. At that time, Miao Ying knew that Huang Hao had a project here and his wife was away on business.
When Miao Ying was very sad, Huang Hao comforted her and made sense to her. That night, Miao Ying didn't go back until midnight. When she got home, she pretended to be calm and pretend that nothing had happened. Founder didn't ask her, so it went away.
Later, it was two people who loved each other. Miao Ying brought freshness to Huang, and Huang Hao could give Miao Ying the care and romance she wanted, so in the past six months, both of them enjoyed their extramarital affairs.
Until this period of time was discovered by Founder, which led to Miao Ying's divorce. Huang Hao, who had promised to divorce her husband and wife, didn't pick up any of them after she divorced her husband, secretly changed the apartment and left. Those responsible words I said before are just passing by, not counting.
Founder still likes Miao Ying. He was even more disappointed. He felt unforgivable, so he filed for divorce. After the divorce, Miao Ying regretted what she had done.
A man who has a family and wants to provoke you is not worthy of love. Even if he has a good impression on you, he will not sacrifice his own interests for you. Sometimes middle-aged men are more realistic than women. Freshness and money are their goals. It's unbelievable for a married man to talk about responsibility.
Moreover, in fact, it also proves that in this bet, the last loser is often a woman. Without youth, they also took their families in, and the happiness of the rest of their lives was gone.
There is a saying in The Kite Runner: "The man who was willing to pick up a kite for me in Qian Qian a thousand times has passed away. If you miss life, you will never get it again. Maybe we will, we will redeem, but it seems too late. Every time we fly a kite, we should ask ourselves whether we really cherish everything we have. "
After marriage, both men and women should be loyal and live their own lives in a down-to-earth manner. Everyone's married life has advantages and disadvantages. There is no absolute happiness and no absolute unhappiness. What matters is not what you lack, but how to cherish what you already have.
If you always covet what others have, you will put yourself in danger. These things in extramarital affairs are doomed to be short-lived. If you don't want to spend the rest of your life, don't sacrifice your comfortable and stable life.
There are not many real things about extramarital affairs, except for some sweet words, nothing belongs to you.
Therefore, it is a necessary principle to stick to the bottom line of marriage. Don't easily sacrifice your original happy marriage and love for people outside marriage. No matter how good the person outside marriage is, it is not as good as the original match. No matter what happens in marriage, you can't escape. You should consider solving them first. Only in this way can you catch the tail of happiness.
No matter men or women, the principled mistakes in marriage are unforgivable, and the woman who cheats is often the worst one. You will have nothing, do what you can, and don't "create" happiness in your hands. People who are loved have nothing to be afraid of, but they should be satisfied when they are born.
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