The so-called useful people are actually people who are valuable.

That is, others can benefit from you, so that others will be willing to associate with you and cooperate with you, and you can also get what you need in the process of interacting and cooperating with others.

This is reciprocity and win.

Therefore, to achieve self-improvement is actually to strive to make yourself a valuable person.

From the age of 23 to 35, how can we achieve self-improvement instead of falling into the abyss of getting married, having children, buying a house and becoming a house slave?

My suggestions are as follows: ①Read more and read good books.

Some people get headaches when they see others advising them to study, but this is not necessary.

Young people still need to read more books, so that they can be full of poetry and calligraphy.

Reading is not only the ladder of human progress, but also the lowest-cost and most effective way to achieve self-improvement.

When reading, you must first learn to choose books, and don’t stupidly immerse yourself in reading. Books such as "Chicken Soup for the Soul", "Think and Grow Rich", "Chen Anzhi's Success Study", "Sharpening Your Personality" and so on are actually all dross and rubbish. After reading,

Not to mention the futility of efforts, people may also become stupid.

When I was a teenager, I was a voracious reader of books and read many of the above books. I almost drowned in chicken soup for the soul and died young.

Fortunately, I have read a lot of books on other aspects, and I have integrated all kinds of ideas, principles, and knowledge in my mind, so that I will not be led astray by these shallow books. Otherwise, I will easily become a person who is arrogant, has high ambitions, but has low abilities, and is cynical.

If you are determined to be a politician and stabilize the country, then read more history books, such as "Historical Records" and "Zi Zhi Tong Jian", etc. You can use history as a mirror to know the rise and fall.

If you are determined to be a wealthy businessman, then read more books on business, finance, and economics, such as "The Power of Corporations", "Currency Wars", "The Story of Pipelines", "Rich Dad Poor Dad" and so on.

In addition, it is also helpful to read more biographies of some great entrepreneurs, such as Jack Ma, Shi Yuzhu, Pan Shiyi, Li Ka-shing, Lei Jun and other entrepreneurs' thinking on business management, strategic layout, and optimal allocation of resources.

I would like to highlight Lei Jun, who relied on the seven-character Internet formula he developed: "focus, extreme, word-of-mouth, and fast" to lead Xiaomi Group from zero to one, making rapid progress and becoming one of the top five mobile phone brands in the world in just 4 years.

Such an exciting business story is definitely worth learning! ② Cultivate the ability to think independently.

When I go online on a daily basis, no matter if I look at the comment sections of the economy, sports, entertainment, or society, I can always find that many netizens are very violent and abuse each other.

Celebrities are just trading for power and sex. When it comes to the second generation of rich people, they rely on their fathers to make a living. When they are poor, they blame social injustice. They rarely look for reasons from themselves.

It is difficult to reason with them because they lack the ability to think independently.

When looking at things, we only see the surface, not the essence, nor the development trend.

The comments are only based on emotion and there is no trace of rational thinking.

These people may vent their dissatisfaction in real life online, but if things continue like this, people will inevitably become narrow-minded, extreme and resentful, which is harmful to themselves.

Therefore, you should cultivate your independent thinking ability and be good at seeing through the essence of things and the laws of operation. This will make it easier to seize opportunities and soar into the sky.

How well Confucius said, learning without thinking will lead to failure, thinking without learning will lead to peril. As I said above, if you read more and think more, you will be able to better realize yourself between the ages of 23 and 35.

Add value and make a career.

20 suggestions for self-improvement, the last one is the foundation of self-improvement!

1. Walk with your head held high, don’t lower your head.

Modern young people look at their mobile phones while walking, and they are hunched over when walking and have no self-confidence.

People who walk with their heads down are completely different from those who walk with their heads held high, both in terms of momentum and self-confidence.

This is the most direct way to add value to a person. If you don’t believe it, you can see the difference between walking with your head down in front of the mirror and walking with your head held high. What is the psychological difference?

When going out, walking with your head held high is a direct sign of confidence.

2. Spend a year alone and let your soul belong to yourself.

When a person works in 996 or even high-intensity work for a long time, he will be confused about the future and work.

There is no goal, just keep doing it, but lack of deep thinking.

The process of being alone is the process of revisiting the past and thinking deeply about the future.

3. When you encounter unavoidable pain, go to these places: hospitals, stations, banks, and roadside stalls.

You will find that some pain is not worth mentioning at all. After all, what they have experienced may be beyond your level of pain, and people's frustration tolerance becomes stronger as a result.