in p>2xx, my son graduated from college. Fortunately, he found a good work unit before graduation, which is a research institute of a national Ministry in Shaoguan, Guangdong. Our son is very happy, and so are we. Another reason why we are happy is that our son fell in love with a Sichuan girl at school. This little guy, a few years ago, we have been encouraging him to find a classmate to fall in love in college. He always opposes it, saying that it is troublesome to talk about what to do so early, and we will consider this issue after we are 35 years old, which makes us very anxious and worried. No, I talked about it at the age of 23, and she is a Sichuan girl we like. Sichuan girls are hardworking, kind, honest, provocative, considerate and considerate, which is famous all over the country.
My son said that he took the girl to Shaoguan after signing a contract with the company. She was very satisfied and gave up her plan to find a job in Chengdu and decided to go to Shaoguan with him.
they really went together. During the summer vacation, my son went home for only five days and left, taking his girlfriend to Shaoguan. At that time, Shaoguan was being flooded, the bridge collapsed and the railway collapsed. Originally, my son was sent to the construction site as soon as he got to work, but they were trapped in the city. Being trapped in the city is good, so they run around looking for jobs for their girlfriends. Before I found a good job, one night, the floods trapped in the city slipped away quietly. My son has to go to the construction site, leaving his girlfriend alone in the city, a stranger and no care for his life. What should I do? The son wants his sister to come to Shaoguan to accompany her. His sister is working in Guangzhou, but she can't come, so he called her future husband, mother and mother.
my son went to the construction site. The construction site is near a county town, more than 2 kilometers away from the unit. At the foot of a mountain, there is a middle school nearby, and the school has a basketball court. Go to work in the building rented by the unit, go up the mountain once a week to do some surveys and tests, and then analyze and study and draw drawings when you come back. The unit sends them delicious food and drinks every day, and every meal has wine and meat. My son called and said the job was excellent.
My son's girlfriend and her mother stayed in Shaoguan for some time and then they couldn't stay. There are no friends there, the language is unreasonable, and the price is high, so they can't adapt. Just one morning when their son was still complacent at the construction site, they bought a train ticket and went back to their hometown.
When I returned to my hometown, my girlfriend called my son all day to persuade him to quit his job and go to Chengdu with her to find another job. When her son didn't listen, she came to me. Send messages to my QQ, send short messages to my mobile phone and complain. I called my son for advice. My son was very determined and didn't want to resign. He said that with such a good job and such a high salary (the annual salary is about 5, yuan, and food and shelter are included), where to find it after quitting. I told him that work is very important and marriage is also very important. A person can do many jobs in his life, but he can only get a wife once, so he can choose for himself. He said he didn't want to quit his job and wouldn't leave his girlfriend. He said that his girlfriend is a good girl that is hard to find in the real society, and he should try to persuade her to come back to Shaoguan to find a job. He said that he only works in the construction site for half a year every year, and his girlfriend works in the city. With one year's savings, he can buy a car and go back to the city to look after her every day after work ...
After a while, he called me and said that he was going to resign. He said that the working environment there was too bad. Fortunately, he only worked for half a year. If he wanted to work for one year, he would go crazy. It is said that the work is too monotonous, basically manual labor, and junior high school graduates can do it, and there is no promise in long-term work; They say that their boss is too picky, and the treatment given to them is too low. Their classmates do the same job with him elsewhere, and the salary is much higher than his ... I said, stop it, I know you want to resign, so quit. In fact, I know that he is not telling the truth, but he can't beat his girlfriend.
My son's girlfriend keeps telling me that she doesn't want to go to Shaoguan. My son runs outside for half a year, so they can't live together. I advised her that it is not easy to find a job now, and it is not easy to find a job like that. Don't let him resign easily. She said that what should they do in their future lives? I said that it is actually good for two people to be separated for a while. She asked me, I can make do now, but what if I have a child in the future? I said, then you two discuss and decide, and I will respect your choice.
Girlfriends have also found jobs in their cities, which are very relaxed and comfortable. She asked her son to resign and went to Chengdu with her to find another job. The son listened to her. In the Spring Festival of 26, my son went to his girlfriend's house first. My girlfriend quit her job first and came back to my house with her son. After the Spring Festival, they went to Shaoguan together to quit their son's job. Then I went to Chengdu.
My son told me at that time that Chengdu is a big city, with many employment positions and employment opportunities, and it is easy to find a job. Listening to him, it's as convenient as taking something from a bag. I didn't live in a big city, so I believed him. But when they arrived in Chengdu, difficulties came. Looking online all day, wandering in the street, running in the talent market, running at job fairs, half a year passed, but I didn't find a suitable unit. Although there are so many families who want them, they are all engaged in marketing, which is far from their major and their salary is very low, so they are unwilling to do it. There, you have to rent a house, eat and shop, and your salary for half a year will soon be spent. They met with difficulties in survival.
In the meantime, my son participated in the recruitment of civil servants in institutions of Sichuan Provincial Personnel Department, and applied for a position in the Environmental Protection Bureau that matched his major, but his grades were delayed. According to his own estimation, there was not much hope. He submitted his resume to Zhongshan Environmental Protection Bureau, also a related major, and that unit summoned him for an interview. As soon as the interview was over, he called me back and said there was little hope. He submitted his resume to a private company in Hangzhou, but he couldn't wait for someone to summon him for an interview. Finally, one day, the boss from Hangzhou came to Chengdu for a meeting, called him and asked him to meet. They met. It is conceivable that the boss took a fancy to my son and asked him to work there soon. My son called me and looked very happy, but my heart was very cold. Private enterprises only give their children more than 1,3 yuan a month. How can two people live in such a big city? But they went. I know it's a last resort.
before I left, I deposited another 3, yuan into their bank account.
On the third day in Hangzhou, my son's girlfriend kept sending me short messages and complaining. Said that the house price there was too expensive, and the first night they went, because it was too late, they went to stay in a hotel, which cost 3 yuan a night; The next night, because I didn't find a rental house and stayed in a hotel, I had to pay 2 yuan. On the third day, I finally found a rented house, a very small room. My son is tall and has long legs. When he sleeps, his head is against the wall and his feet are stretched out of the door. Said that there was no air conditioning in the room, no bathroom, and it was sultry. It is said that there are so many mosquitoes in Hangzhou that they are so big that she stayed up all night and cried all night. Said she didn't want to stay in Hangzhou, she wanted to go back to her hometown or our home ... I was very upset and anxious, so I quickly called my son to ask about the situation, but he said everything was fine. I hurried to the bank, gave them another 2, yuan, let my son buy an air conditioner, and advised him to hurry up and find a better' rental'. He said yes. A few days later, my son called back and said that the new house was rented, which was more spacious than before, but the house price was very expensive, 5 yuan per month. I said, it's not expensive.
good news falls from the sky. That night, my son called back and said that he found out on the Internet that the results of the exam he took in Chengdu had been announced and informed him to go for an interview tomorrow. I said, then go quickly. He said it was too late. I asked him to fly, and he said there was not enough money. I said I would go to the bank as soon as I started work tomorrow morning. He immediately called and booked two air tickets. The next day, he took his girlfriend to Chengdu by plane. After the interview, they waited in Chengdu for several days until the results came out and returned to Hangzhou with disappointment.
My son works all day, travels in all directions, leaving his girlfriend at home. My girlfriend went online all day to apply for a job, throwing her resume all over the world, and went to some companies for interviews every three days. As a result, either she despises others or they despises her, and several months have passed without a landing. She was in a hurry. Send me a text message and complain when you are in a hurry. Said that she couldn't stay there, and that the city was not suitable for her; Said she was a girl and didn't want to run around like this with my son; Said that he spent all day in Lacrimosa, and his heart was particularly painful; Said he was homesick and wanted to go back to his parents ... I tried to persuade him in vain. Finally, one day, I was bored, too. I said in a short message to her, suit yourself and leave me alone! Since then, she has never sent me a short message. Finally one day, my son told me that when he came back from a business trip that day, his girlfriend bought a ticket behind his back and went back to his hometown. I'm surprised how this child can do this. But listen to what your son said. He said that his girlfriend did it because she was afraid of leaving when he was around, especially because he couldn't accept it emotionally. She thought of him and did it for him. I knew that my son was badly hurt emotionally, so I tried my best to comfort him. A month later, I chose a business trip to Hangzhou to visit him. I happened to meet him on a business trip. I stayed in Hangzhou for three days and didn't see his shadow. On the third night, he called me and said that he had come back, secretly behind the head of the unit. We met near my residence. He has lost a lot of weight, and his beard has grown so long that he looks very tired and haggard, and his face is full of vicissitudes in his youth. Seeing him made me feel bad. I asked for some dishes in a nearby restaurant, and he ate a lot. A large plate of chicken, I only took a few bites and let him eat it all. I feel very uncomfortable in my heart. I wonder if the child can fill his stomach by running outside all day. Ask him, and he says they eat well every meal every day. I don't believe it. I asked him about his relationship with his girlfriend, and he said it was very good. They talked on the phone every day. I said get married, he said. If she is your daughter, will you marry her to a tramp who wanders around? I asked him about his plans for the future, and he said that he kept looking for a job every day, and once he found a better one, he would leave. I'm sweating for him again.
My daughter-in-law, who hasn't gone through the door, is a very realistic girl. She thinks and does things realistically. She always thinks that the two of them can find a stable job and live a stable life. She doesn't want my son to run around the world, and she doesn't want to follow him around the world like a refugee. I quite agree with her. But both of us are helpless to him, and he won't listen anyway. When he was in a hurry, he complained that he was really unlucky, and adolescence met my menopause, which made me speechless.
the other day, he talked about another company in Beijing, saying that the salary was higher than that in Hangzhou, and he was asked to go there for an interview, but he couldn't spare time because he was on a business trip all day. I said you must be careful, don't keep jumping ship. He said it doesn't matter. Now that you are young, you can run more places and units, so you can accumulate more experience and start your own business. I said that you are starting a business, obviously you are running a business. I advised him to think realistically. He said that being too realistic is no good, and there must be fantasy. Without fantasy, there will be no development and no future.
My son is an idealist, so I often reprimand him, saying that he is impetuous and ambitious, but he is always unconvinced. When he was in high school, he was bent on applying for the University of Aeronautics and Astronautics, and he was determined to land on Mars in the future. As a result, his college entrance examination score was only one point short of the key line. He was also very satisfied with his choice of this major at that time, saying that he would conduct advanced research and manufacture nuclear weapons in the future. As a result, he ran into a wall everywhere after graduation. During that time, the price of pork in the market increased. He called me several times and said that he wanted to go back to his hometown in the countryside to run a large pig farm, which was severely reprimanded by me. The other day, he called me and said that he wanted to come back to contract the responsible farmland in the village to engage in large-scale planting and cultivate improved varieties, and I criticized him again. I reprimanded him for his lack of perseverance and perseverance in doing anything, alternating between the sky and the ground. He told me a story, saying that a teacher asked students the difference between frogs and toads in class, and a student replied: frogs are conservatives, sitting in the well watching the sky; Toad is a romantic and wants to eat swan meat. To achieve great things, you have to learn from toads. I asked, did the toad finally eat swan meat? He said it's good to have this idea whether you eat or not. I mean, according to you, I'm the frog sitting at the bottom of the well watching the sky? He said, oh, I'm sorry, dad, I never meant that. I laughed and asked him about his relationship with his girlfriend. He said, maybe she has found a job in Chengdu. I asked them to keep in touch with each other and try to get married during the Spring Festival this year. He said that it was not too late to get married at the age of 35. He also said that getting married now would be tantamount to ruining your future and destroying yourself.
last year, he didn't make any money. Before the Spring Festival, the unit gave him a bonus of 6, yuan, and his usual savings were less than 1, yuan. He took out 8, yuan to buy a fund. He stayed on his computer all day to observe the stock market, only to see that the curve fell day by day. I advised him to run away quickly, but he said he was not afraid, and it would rise one day. The day before yesterday, he called me and said that he had posted more than two thousand. I also advised him to run away, but he still said that he was not afraid. If it was plastered, it would mean that he paid the tuition. Oh, as long as he has such a mentality.
Yesterday, he said that he had gone to Beijing for an interview. The other party was very satisfied and asked him to come to work as soon as possible. He would leave after completing the formalities in Hangzhou. I asked him how his unit in Beijing was, and he said it was just so-so. Anyway, I'll work for a period of time to see the situation. If it's good, I'll stay. If it's not good, I'll find another one.
in the past two years, my relatives, friends, classmates and colleagues met me and said, in the past two years, both of your sons have worked, so life is better and you are relieved. But when I meet such a son, do you think I can worry?
alas, how can this young man be like this now!