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There are four things in the countryside that will make the owner angry if they are returned voluntarily after being lent out. Which four are they?

As the saying goes, "If you borrow something, you must return it. It's not difficult to borrow again." However, there are some things in rural areas that cannot be returned if they are borrowed, otherwise they will be regarded as unlucky. Here comes the little fish. What are the items in your memory that you cannot return?

1. Crutches or wheelchairs

My father used to sprain his ankle while mowing the grass, so my mother sent me to borrow a crutch from my neighbor’s house (my neighbor had broken his leg before). It was custom-made), and it didn’t take long for my father’s foot to heal. I saw the crutches collecting dust in the corner every day, and I thought about returning them to the neighbors. At this time, my mother told me that I had borrowed this thing but not returned it, otherwise it would be unlucky because crutches would only be used if you can't walk. If you send it back to someone else, it doesn't mean that someone else's legs and feet are broken. Is there a problem?

Therefore, the crutch can never be returned. It can only be given to him when others come to ask for it.

2. Medicine pot or medicine

A few decades ago, before Western medicine became popular, rural people often used medicine pots to boil traditional Chinese medicine when they got sick. The medicine mentioned here The can cannot be returned. After all, who can use this thing without any illness or disaster? Including the popularity of Western medicine now, Western medicine is easy to carry and has obvious effects. Many people choose to take Western medicine. If someone catches a cold and buys medicine but does not finish it, then another person happens to have a cold as well, and both of them take the same medicine. If they are cured before taking the medicine, the medicine must not be returned. Because this is not returning medicine, this is returning illness...

3. The rope used to carry the coffin

In Xiaoyu’s hometown, there is a red and white council like this in the village The villagers are voluntary organizations. They participate in all weddings and funerals in the village, and they also exchange money to buy some kitchen utensils and funeral necessities. The rope that carries the coffin is one of them. Because burials are still popular in many places in our country, the entire coffin is not easy to lift. A thick rope needs to be tied around the coffin so that people can have a focus when lifting it. This rope is indeed important, but it will be of little use after the deceased is buried. However, this rope cannot be returned to the previous family. If it is really returned to someone else, it will be a minor quarrel, but it may lead to a big fight. After all, who can use this kind of rope if no one is waiting for burial at home? Therefore, this rope can only be kept at home, waiting for someone to borrow it the next time someone is buried in the village, instead of returning it!

In Xiaoyu’s hometown, only these three kinds of things can be borrowed and never returned, otherwise they will be considered unlucky. There is feudal superstition in them, but more of them are from the older generation. A yearning for peace and health, the old rules inherited from ancient times must have its own truth.

Rural people have to farm, and it is impossible to have all the farm tools at home. If there are any farm tools missing, it is common to go to a neighbor's house to borrow them for temporary use. No matter what the item is, sometimes no one can afford it. It is normal for everyone to help each other, borrow it, use it and then return it. We rural people here have a saying, it is easy to borrow and return, and it is not difficult to borrow again. That is to say, after you have used something you borrowed from someone else, you must return it in time. Otherwise, it may be difficult to borrow it next time.

But some things can only be borrowed but not returned. Especially the medicine jars in rural areas are not commonly used at home. Occasionally, you can borrow them from neighbors to boil medicine, but you must not return them after you have used them. I made this mistake once when I was a child. At that time, I didn't know that I couldn't return the jar later. My mother often takes medicine, so she often borrows the medicine jar from the opposite house. Every time she waits for someone to come to our house to pick up medicine when she needs it.

One time when I was helping my mother clean up, I saw that the medicine jar was still at our house. Knowing that my mother’s medicine had been cooked, I kindly picked up the medicine jar and gave it to the opposite door. I was still young at the time and didn't know how to read people's words. I didn't know that our neighbor across the street was angry and unhappy. Later, when my mother found out about this, she scolded me and told me that the medicine jar could only be borrowed but not given away. Sending it back to others would be equivalent to giving away a sick person.

The second thing is that the shroud can only be borrowed but not returned. I only learned about the fact that shrouds can only be borrowed and not returned in recent years. A few years ago, I attended the funeral of a relative who died of a sudden heart attack. At that time, the family did not have time to prepare a shroud for him, and his brother was always sick and could have an emergency at any time. His sister-in-law I have already prepared a shroud for my brother. Because the relative had a heart attack and had no time to prepare anything, his sister-in-law had no choice but to go home and bring him the shroud prepared for her brother to wear. My relatives told me that the shroud cannot be returned, and the favor can only be repaid in other ways.

The third item should be a wheelchair and crutches. One year, my brother's leg was severely burned by boiling water. There were no wheelchairs like today. When it was severe at the beginning, I couldn't move while lying on the bed. Later, when my legs got better and I could move a little, my mother went to borrow a pair of crutches from her. Until my brother's legs healed, the crutches seemed to have been there all the time. I kept it at home and no one came to pick it up again.

The fourth thing should be the Hades Coin. Normally, no one would borrow this thing. Maybe when they can't buy it temporarily, they would borrow it from a neighbor's house for urgent needs. However, if you borrow Mingbi, you don't have to pay it back. You can't just take the Ming coins and give them to others when you have nothing to do. That's really a deliberate attempt to cause trouble for others.

In our case, crutches, medicine jars, hemp ropes, and children’s clothes do not need to be returned.

After my husband had a car accident, a neighbor who had been in a car accident before asked someone to bring a used crutch to my husband. I was very grateful at the time. I heard that the crutches cost a lot of money, and I felt I felt a little sorry. After my husband recovered, I said, how about we return the crutches to him? My husband said you are a fool. If you return the crutch, the person will definitely break up with you. Let’s wait and give it to the next unlucky person!

My mother-in-law’s medicine jar is a purple clay jar, which cost me a lot of money. When I am not simmering medicine, I use it to stew some mother-in-law beans, chicken soup, etc. I borrow it from my neighbor’s aunt to stew Chinese medicine. In winter, I was about to ask for it back, but my mother-in-law scolded me, telling her that she had no intention of taking it back after I lent it out. My mother-in-law thought I bought just an ordinary earthen pot, but she didn’t stop me when I lent it out. After she knew it cost several hundred yuan, , lamenting and sighing for several days. Later, when she fell ill and needed to prepare traditional Chinese medicine, she directly asked her son to buy a medicine jar, saying that I was a short-sighted person. Look at me, she felt worried for her son and did not dare to close her eyes.

After her mother-in-law passed away, Dai Xiao had to be tied on his head with a hemp rope. Mr. Yin and Yang forgot to bring it, and it was too far to go back to get it. An aunt in the village said that she had saved some and she could use it up when she went home. The rest was taken to my mother-in-law's grave and burned. This thing cannot be returned.

Children’s clothes are useless even if they are returned to the owner. Children are so smart that they don’t think about taking back what they gave you.

In the vast rural areas, there is an old saying that goes well: distant relatives are not as good as close neighbors. People living in rural areas are in a circle of acquaintances, and they see each other every day. If someone has something at home, they will lend a helping hand to each other. Today you help me plant rice, and tomorrow I will help you cut rice. In rural areas, people The friendship between them is very harmonious, and helping each other is free. As long as you call, the villagers will come to help. In rural areas, because transportation is inconvenient, some things will be borrowed from fellow villagers when they are used up, and they can be returned later. However, there is also a rural custom in rural areas, and some things cannot be returned. Let me briefly explain four things to you!

1 Many people know what incense is used for. When they need to use incense in rural areas, the distance is long, the transportation is inconvenient, and there is no incense at home, they will borrow incense from the villagers. If If you return it voluntarily in the future, the owner will be angry, because incense is used for mourning. It is very unlucky to return voluntarily.

2 Medicine jars. In rural areas, many farmers have the custom of prescribing folk prescriptions when sick. If you encounter any physical discomfort, you need to boil medicine and eat it. If you don’t have time to sell it, you can only borrow other people’s medicine jars. If you return it after use, the owner will be angry. Because the medicine jar is considered an ominous object, it cannot be returned voluntarily.

3 Crutches. In our lives, we will inevitably encounter leg injuries. If we encounter such a leg injury and urgently need crutches to support walking, we borrow crutches from the villagers. After recovery, If you return it voluntarily, the owner will be angry, because crutches are said to have symptoms in rural areas. Therefore, it cannot be returned voluntarily.

4 Brooms are very common in rural areas. Basically, rural families have a stock of brooms, which are made by farmers themselves. Of course, it does not mean that every family will have a stock. If they run out, they will not have time to make them. If you borrow a broom from a villager and return it voluntarily after use, the owner will be angry. Because the broom has the beautiful saying of broom star, the villagers think it is an unlucky thing, so they cannot return it voluntarily.

In rural areas, it is very common to borrow things, such as hoes, money, stools, etc. Generally, things are borrowed and returned, but in rural areas, there are four things that will make the owner angry if they are returned voluntarily after being loaned out. What are these four things?

The first one is paper money, which is what we call ghost money. Generally speaking, few people will borrow it. But sometimes I need something urgently at home, but coincidentally I don’t have it at home, and it’s too late to buy it on the street, so I have to borrow it. Generally, if you borrow paper money, you don’t need to pay it back. If you take it and return it, people will be unhappy. Because paper money itself is a ghost currency, if you take the paper money and return it, it means bringing bad things to them.

The second one is the coffin. In the past, almost every home had a coffin. There is a coffin at home, which they prepared for themselves in advance. But some family members have passed away, and they don’t have any at home, and they can’t buy one for a while, so they have to go to those who have coffins to get them. Generally, if you give the coffin to you, you don’t need to return it, but it will be converted into money and given to you. If you just return a coffin, people will be very angry.

The third one is the crutch. When you go out, it is not ruled out that some accidents may occur, such as falling or injuring your legs. If you borrowed someone else's crutch at this time, it is best not to return the crutch. Usually you treat others to a meal or give them some money as a thank you.

The fourth one is the wooden stick that carries the coffin. When holding funerals in rural areas, wooden sticks are needed to carry the coffin. In my house, whoever has it can take it, and they don’t care about the stick.

Just throw it away after you use it. There is no need to return it. If you do, you will be scolded. If you feel that it cannot be used in vain, then just give others some money.

Some things should be taboo, otherwise it would be bad if they cause conflicts.

It is said that it is good to borrow things from others and return them in time; in rural areas, when people need something urgently and do not have it at home, they usually borrow it from neighbors or relatives. Later, I will take the initiative to return it in time without being rushed or gossiping. Some things are dispensable. They are not big items and are not worth much. If you give them to others for free, you will not lose anything. After being lent out, , there is no need to return it. If you return it voluntarily, the owner will be angry. What kind of things are they?

1. If there is no food at home, “borrow” vegetables for a meal

In rural areas, people usually grow vegetables for food, so they don’t have to worry about running out of food. However, sometimes because of the lack of food at home, There are few vegetables grown, so you can’t pick them to eat. If someone in the village grows them, you can pick them and eat them. If others want to eat but don’t want to spend money to buy them at the market, they can ask others and then pick them and eat them.

Although the man who went to pick vegetables said that I will pick mine and return it to you when it grows, but in fact there is no need to return it, because there are many vegetables and people will not be short of food. People are too embarrassed to pay back that small bundle of vegetables. If someone sees it, they will be mistaken for being stingy, which will make them lose face. Of course they will be angry; and because there is no need to return it, such things are relatively rare, and no one I would always "borrow" vegetables to eat, and it was normal once in a while. Besides vegetables, if I borrowed some oil, salt or sauce to cook a meal, I didn't have to return the oil, salt and sauce.

2. Borrow needles and threads to sew clothes

Needles and threads are very small, but they are still very useful in life, especially in the early days when there were no sewing machines at home. Mending requires more; and the price of needle and thread is also very cheap. There are usually several needles of that kind at home, and there are also threads, usually a bundle of white thread and a bundle of black thread; some people borrow needle and thread to sew clothes or There is no need to return the needle and thread when changing zippers and the like. The needle and thread can be saved for later use.

For example, my aunt used to have no needle and thread to sew buttons for clothes, so she came to borrow it from my mother. My mother directly gave her a needle and a long length of thread for her to take home without having to return it; People count these little things.

3. Borrow medicine jars to brew medicine

Speaking of medicine jars, I believe there is a saying in many places that it is best not to lend medicine jars to others, and if you borrow them, don’t let others give them away. return! In fact, it is understandable that people are taboo about medicine jars, because everyone wants their family to be healthy, and only those who are seriously ill will use medicine jars to boil medicine, eat and treat themselves. Therefore, there were relatively few families with medicine jars in the past. Not often used either.

If someone borrows a medicine jar to boil medicine and then returns it, it will give the impression that the person is seriously ill and needs to boil medicine to survive, which is unlucky.

I once saw medicine jars at a relative’s house. They were placed in the corner and were covered with thick dust. However, they did not wash them clean and left them like dishes and chopsticks. I didn’t understand at that time. I also asked my relatives why they didn’t clean it and put it away, instead of just throwing it away. Then my relatives said that it was borrowed from others for use before, and no one came to ask for it back, and we couldn’t return it, so it would be best to just throw it away there. It's no longer needed.

4. Borrowing farmyard manure to fertilize

Perhaps compared to the above three things, farmyard manure is more flavorful, but in rural areas, borrowing farmyard manure to fertilize fields is not It’s rare; especially during the farming season, farmers use a lot of fertilizer, and some households don’t have enough, so it’s normal to borrow it from others.

For example, when corn is planted in my hometown in Xiaocaishan District every spring, manure water must be applied to the hole first, and then a few corn seeds and other farmyard manure must be put in and then covered with soil; If there is plenty of land, it is not surprising that there is not enough manure and water for farming.

My mother used to raise sows and piglets, and the house produced a lot of manure and water, and they gave birth quickly. However, my uncle’s family only raised two pigs. When they were growing corn, their manure and water were not enough. My uncle also told my mother to borrow a few dans to grow corn. When my mother doesn’t have enough manure water for growing vegetables, she can go directly to their family to use it.

Actually, this kind of farmyard fertilizer is the most common in rural areas. Just use it, how can you pay it back? I have a lot of it at home, it’s not that bad, and you can’t pick it out in the field. Helping others fertilize is treated as repayment, so it is usually said politely, but in fact there is no need to return it. If you really want to be serious and pick up farmyard manure and bring it to someone's home, they will be really angry.

Therefore, it makes sense for the owner to be angry if these things are returned after being lent out in rural areas. After all, these things are dispensable and not worth much. If it's a small item, just think of it as a gift and it will be embarrassing to give it back.

As the saying goes: distant relatives are not as good as close neighbors. In rural areas, there is a circle of acquaintances. Especially a few decades ago, villagers helped each other. Today you help me build a house, and tomorrow I will help you cut the wheat. At that time, people got along very harmoniously with each other, and help was free. Just say hello and people would come to help. In life, if something is in short supply, we will borrow it from our neighbors.

Everyone knows the old saying "If you borrow something, you must return it, and it's not difficult to borrow again." However, there is an unwritten rule in rural areas. After borrowing four things, you don't have to take the initiative to return them. What's going on? Let’s find out together!

In the past, when Western medicine was not as popular as it is today, if you encountered some physical diseases, most people would pick some herbal medicine yourself or ask an experienced Chinese doctor to prescribe medicine. At that time, all I ate was only the medicine, and I had to use a medicine jar to cook the medicine myself. However, not every household has this medicine jar. If you don’t have it at home but need to use it, you have to borrow it from someone else’s house. However, the borrowed medicine jar cannot be returned voluntarily, otherwise the owner of the medicine jar will be angry. then what should we do? When the owner needs it, he will take the initiative to get it. Because the medicine jar is only used when there is a sick person at home, and returning it voluntarily seems to be a bit like hoping that someone in the family will get sick. In short, it has a bad connotation. In fact, in the past, farmers would deliberately dump the dregs of medicine after decoction in medicine jars on the road, hoping to take away the disease.

Crutches are only used by people with inconvenient legs and feet. How many people use crutches? Therefore, most people do not have crutches at home. But there is always a misfortune. If you accidentally fall down, you may fall down and get injured in the leg. When you need a cane, you can either buy it yourself or borrow one. In the past, living conditions were average, and people mainly made their own products or borrowed them. If you don’t know how to do it, you can borrow crutches from someone’s home. The crutch cannot be returned voluntarily after being borrowed, for the same reason as the medicine jar.

Some young people today may not be familiar with this old object. In fact, this is a long piece of wood used to carry coffins in rural areas in the past. In some places, it is also called "dragon pole". It is often the collective property of the village, and there is only one pole in the village. There is an unwritten rule in rural areas that the items should be released to whose family they use them. You must not return them, otherwise others will be very angry and even cause disputes. As for the reason, most people can probably guess it without the farmer’s introduction.

The fourth one is the cradle. Nowadays, children buy strollers, but in the past, they used to make cradle at home. In some areas, cradle is usually made by the grandma's family or purchased as a gift to the grandson. And if we don’t have this cradle, we will go to someone else’s house and borrow it. In our case, after a cradle is borrowed, it cannot be returned unless the owner asks for it.

As for why the cradle was not returned voluntarily after it was borrowed, the farmer still doesn’t understand the reason. Do you netizens know?