2. Don't help others in important matters. For example, helping others as matchmakers, helping others buy houses and cars to provide so-called reference, not giving advice to other people's children's college entrance examination volunteers, and not helping others find jobs. If this kind of help is good, then there is no problem. If something goes wrong, it is a great responsibility.
Don't help people who haven't been in touch for a long time. Such people only come to you when they need you, and don't need you to pat your ass and leave without leaving a trace.
4, don't spend worldly money, some people know that there will be no contact in the future, or more cunning people, if you give an electronic invitation, don't call to invite. This worldly wisdom would rather break up than spend the money.
5. Don't spend money on unnecessary people. Relatives and friends who don't usually walk around should not be too hospitable. After your hospitality spread, more and more people will look for you. You don't have to spend this kind of money. People treat you like a passer-by.
6. There are often a lot of crowdfunding in the circle of friends. If it's someone you don't know, or someone you don't know, there's no need to spend this money.
7. Don't brag about how powerful you are, how powerful your family is, and how powerful your friends are. People who brag about these cows don't know themselves and don't recognize themselves, but they are very competitive and have nothing of their own.
8. Don't brag about how rich you are. How much money you have earned and how much money you have saved, even if your closest relatives don't want to tell you and the money is not exposed, you can know that you have money, and others don't need to know. Knowing that there are only disadvantages is not good.
9. Don't brag about your future plans or things you haven't done, but it will be empty, and your mind will be focused on boasting instead of doing practical things seriously.
Helping three people, without spending San Qian or praising three cows, refers to the way of treating people.
In addition, there are
Don't make five friends
be ungrateful
Don't be disloyal and unfilial.
Don't make friends with each other.
Muddle around without paying.
What you didn't say was what you meant.
Say nothing.
Don't brag
Don't talk angrily.
Don't lie.
Never ask four questions.
Want money, officials, longevity and happiness!
Happiness begins with health! Only by having a healthy body can we have a beautiful and happy life! Pay attention to put on more clothes when the weather gets cold!
As the old saying goes: stand at thirty and be confused at forty; But for many years, people often make mistakes in middle age; Many times what is wrong is not motivation, but not seeing the essence of things clearly. When people reach middle age, they should handle well the relationship with friends, relatives and colleagues.
Three things that don't help:
1. Don't help; The so-called separation means that when others entrust you with help, you have to ask others for help. This kind of busy work is easy to spoil things, and it is best not to help.
2. If you are involved in the situation, you won't help; When it comes to two people's feelings, it is sometimes difficult to tell right from wrong, but helping will be counterproductive, especially when both men and women are busy, especially when both sides have their own families.
3. Strangers don't help; In modern society, deceptive means emerge one after another, which makes people hard to prevent; When a stranger asks for help, he must be careful. If something terrible happens, I believe he will call 1 10 for help instead of looking for you. On the other hand, we can think about why people don't go to the corresponding government agencies for such a big thing, but go to you, a stranger. What are your abilities? I must have come to you because it is profitable for you, so I can't help you. It's not as simple as compassion.
No San Qian:
1. Don't spend money of unknown origin; People often have greed, especially money and power can often arouse people's most primitive greed, but we should not spend money of unknown origin. Sometimes people will give you money, so don't take it, even if it is a good relationship. If you have no money, you can borrow it to make money. Don't turn yourself into a slut just because you spend money of unknown origin on a whim.
2. Don't spend money on raising a lover; As mentioned by a netizen last time, I would like to add here that everything can flourish only if the family is harmonious. If you have a lover, how can you be worthy of the person who has accompanied you through the whole youth, ups and downs, and no regrets? As a father or mother, how to set an example for the next generation?
3. Don't spend money that harms your health; Nowadays, many people hope to prolong their life through money. On the contrary, many people don't cherish their health and spend a lot of money on smoking, drinking and staying up late to eat snacks. It's really worthless Just because they are young and don't feel unwell doesn't mean they are fine.
Don't brag about three cows:
1. Don't blow if you can't do it yourself; Bragging may be something that everyone will do, regardless of gender, age, nationality and identity, but if you can't do it, don't brag, except bring trouble to yourself!
2. You can't brag about what you can do; Many times, we have the ability to do many things, but we can't boast. Just because you can do it doesn't mean you can do it well. If others really come to you for help, you may not be able to do it well. If you don't say anything when you are emotional, you will still give yourself trouble!
3. How rich you are, you can't brag; It is an eternal truth that trees attract the wind. If you have money, you should learn to be calm and don't spread it around. At that time; You won't be able to cope with many people who ask you for money and help. Not only will you hurt your feelings, but you will also ruin yourself.
1 thankless help, can't help! Some people are warm-hearted, help everything, and don't evaluate their own strength, nor do they evaluate whether this favor is worthy of their own strength!
Hard work doesn't count, and finally people complain that they can't see the results! It doesn't matter if you don't help, but even friends can't help!
As the saying goes, without Jin Gangzuan, there would be no porcelain!
The history of a migrant worker's struggle touched the leader and helped him achieve his career!
As a result, it leads to bankruptcy liabilities! The cause has been fruitless for many years, not only friends can't do it, but also hatred!
Wang Ying is a self-motivated person, and he is not content with the status quo. He has been outstanding in his work, and finally he couldn't hold back his enthusiasm for his career and walked into the road of entrepreneurship!
His former leader wants to do something good, let Wang Ying invest and help her win this project!
However, because the risk of the project was not evaluated and whether it could be completed on its own, it finally became a unfinished project!
The damage can be imagined!
Don't help those who are worthless, it's meaningless, just a waste of time! When people reach middle age, they are old and young, and they are busy all day for the life at home!
I believe that no one has that much time to do meaningless things.
Aunt Zhang next door asked you to go to her house to fix the lamp today. Tomorrow, the neighbor upstairs said that the water pipe was broken and asked you to help repair it. The day after tomorrow, my, uh, pockmarked asked you to beg!
I want to talk to you about everything. When is your time? So free?
Don't help colleagues at work! Ask yourself first, can't you help me? If I help you wrong, will it be fruitless?
Your colleagues ask you for help. Does anyone know? Work cannot be taken lightly. If it is done in private, who will bear the responsibility if something goes wrong?
Could it be that I want you to collect information after class? Think about whether this favor can help or not, and whether it is worth helping! Think that the relationship is very close, do a good job of crisis warning to help!
1 Don't waste money, you can spend it on the cutting edge! When people reach middle age, their ability to make money declines, and the family burden is still heavy. Plan your own money!
0 1 Random followers are suckers! A classmate who hasn't contacted for many years called you and said that the old man had his 66th birthday! What's the point of attending?
Throwing money indiscriminately is like sinking into the sea, and you can't get it back! A friend said that the WeChat business is doing well, so you don't need to invest too much, just simply order some goods! Is it reliable? Save it!
All kinds of health products are all over the street and can be used for nothing. If you use your money well in the future, there is no free lunch in the world. In addition, the best health care is personal mentality and living habits, and the rest are useless!
You can't spend money on adventure and entrepreneurship! Entrepreneurship is almost a narrow escape, the family burden is too heavy, and there is not so much energy and physical strength to toss!
Job stability is the most important thing, and it's too old to lose. Failure to start a business will bring accidents to the whole family!
When people reach middle age, all physical indicators have dropped, so let young people do it!
Can't spend any money that can't see the result! No matter what you do, people should have a sense of planning ahead in middle age!
From the end, investigate and analyze what happened, and estimate the reasons according to the results obtained!
See if things are worth doing and can bring value to yourself! You can't make something out of nothing. Be careful!
1 it's not good for everyone to brag about how powerful their connections are!
When people reach middle age, they have work experience and social experience! There is no lack of contact with many awesome people, and I am outspoken!
How many big business people you know, industry expert leaders, how many things you have done and how many problems you have solved! If you talk too much, you lose. The consequences of the incident are very serious!
Don't brag about how successful your career is! No one likes to hear about your success, but more is envy and jealousy!
This is not creating competitors for yourself invisibly. It is not clear who will catch up with you one day! What is more exasperating is that you are not good?
Everyone comes to you for help, help or not? Don't do it without helping your friends. Help is wrong, or complain!
So remember to keep a low profile, low profile! Make a fortune silently! No matter how confident you are, it is great wisdom to play dumb outside!
Don't brag about how strong your family's economic strength is! Everyone comes to you to borrow money. Do you want to borrow it or not?
Find an excuse not to borrow people to say that you are too arrogant and boastful! Borrowed, most of them sink into the sea, and friends can't do it!
What else is there to be afraid of? Isn't your family very rich? All the meals are paid by relatives and friends. I will settle the bill with you if there are any activities! [Cover your face] [Cover your face]
It's sunny today, and everything is calm, because the cows are working in the fields! Be practical. God is happy!
People who have experienced some storms in middle age should be able to make correct judgments about some people and things. As the saying goes, "forty is not confusing", so what is it to spend San Qian or brag about three cows if people don't help three things in middle age? One, don't help three times
1. Don't help if you are too busy.
I remember a sketch about a middle-aged man who did everything to save face. What he often says is "talk about something". In the sketch, Guo Zi helped people buy tickets all night with a quilt, just to help people spend money on expensive tickets. In fact, this is a favor beyond your ability, and the result can only be "swollen face and fat man". In fact, it is often embarrassing to fight for face!
2. "Busy" when you know what you can't do.
That's why many people help others with guarantees, loans and other matters. As a result, people who beg you often run away. They originally wanted to help, but they had to bear huge debts illegally. Seemingly just, the result is often that they are deeply involved.
Don't help unjust people.
For example, this person is not even filial to his parents. If you help him, can he repay your kindness? I can't help it, because you are the highest in his heart only when you are in trouble, and you will be nothing after you get through it. If you help such people, you will make yourself sad. Why bother! In fact, making friends is the same. First of all, look at whether this person is kind or not. How to treat kindness or not? It is very simple: "Zhu Dexiao comes first".
Second, don't spend San Qian.
1, gambling money
Ten bets and nine losses are the same reason. Maybe there will be small profits and small benefits at first, which will lead to gambling addiction. The final result can only be "the wife and children are separated, and the family is broken."
2. Overoverdrawn money
As the saying goes, "frugality is easier than luxury". Once people get into the habit of being extravagant and have limited earning power, they will overdraw their credit cards and spend money indiscriminately. I have such an example around me. As a result, this card is often taken out and transferred to that card. As a result, they become untrustworthy and have to rely on their parents to pay back the money.
Friends can't spend money.
The money of friends mentioned here means that people will inevitably have expenses such as friends' parties when they reach middle age. Don't be a miser, always let your friends spend money to treat you, so your road will get narrower and narrower, and you will eventually lose your friends. In fact, it can be seen as spending your own money on the cutting edge instead of spending your friends' money here. Don't lose friends!
Third, don't brag about three cows.
1. Don't brag about impossible cows.
If you brag about what you can do, it happens that someone in the audience has this demand, and the result is that you are humiliated and embarrassed!
2. Don't brag about angry cows.
People should be more calm when they reach middle age. Don't be like young people in their twenties and thirties who are always boasting and getting angry with others. For example, what can I do if I have great strength? As a result, I tried in a rage and it was not bad to lose. I was really injured by a crossbow, and one praised myself!
3, the brave "cow" is not blowing.
In those days, men didn't mention their bravery. When people reach middle age, they should know themselves clearly, put down their pride, and don't always talk about how powerful they were. In fact, if you say this, others will not envy you, and they will probably laugh at you and think you are naive!
In short, people must first recognize themselves in middle age, including physical condition, ability, strength and so on. You should keep your head down like a ripe ear of wheat. It is more important to live in the present, because it is most important to live every day carefully!
That's my answer. I hope I can help you!
What does "middle-aged people don't help three things, don't spend San Qian, and don't brag" mean? Different people have different ideas and priorities, but most people generally think it is:
A. no help
A stranger, perhaps for some ulterior reason, is willing to ask you for help. It is possible that others are using your "kindness and sympathy" to make you cheated. Obviously, this kind of help can't help.
2. Help others "cover"-don't help
Don't ask you to "cover for him" just because you are a friend or even your own leader. Imagine why you don't respond. Obviously, there are "risks" in this. You may take the blame for others or act as a "scapegoat". Protecting others means that others are using you. If you want to help, you must be a fool.
3. Others are busy-they don't help.
When someone's husband and wife are at odds or their feelings are in crisis, others ask you for help to persuade and mediate. As the saying goes, "a small official can't break housework", as someone else's persuasion and judgment, it will bring some unexpected effects, often "people are tired and things are not good-looking". Therefore, it is better to hide if you can, and not to participate.
B. Don't spend San Qian
No matter how drunk others are, you should have backbone. You can't blindly follow, and unreliable investment is obviously fruitless. Isn't this a waste of money? Therefore, unreliable investments will never be invested.
Don't spend money to cure all diseases
There is no one-size-fits-all medicine in the world. Wow, this is obviously an exaggeration and a strong "deception". If you still spend money, it is obviously a "stupid" behavior, and the result can only be "spending money can't cure the disease."
3. Don't spend money on "sex"
Finding a lover not only costs money, but also affects family harmony. Sometimes even "people and money are empty." Imagine if you had nothing, would you still have a lover?
C.don't brag about three cows.
Some people always blow their own horn and will do anything to prove their ability. Others always feel "flashy" and give people a "hypocritical" judgment. If someone really finds a job by himself, he may be annoyed because he can't do it. This is a typical "asking for trouble". When you can't do something, you give people the feeling that you are "incompetent and wrong". So, don't blow such a cow, thus reducing your "trouble".
How promising your children are-don't brag.
No matter how promising children are, they can't "show off" in front of others. This is because, if your child is really good and promising. When others hear it, it will also cause some "discomfort" and even sting others' hearts. It's even more disgusting if you exaggerate the facts and brag about your children. Therefore, it is best not to touch such a cow.
3. A cow that can control its "object"-don't brag.
Bragging about the man who can control his wife or husband is an exposure of self-defects. We should know that "husband and wife are equal people", and there is no relationship between management and no matter. No matter what the facts are, boasting that you can control your wife (or husband) is immature. Life tells us that it is better not to blow this kind of cow.
1, if it doesn't help.
It is impossible to prove that one of us still has "strength" in middle age, and it is difficult to get rid of the ability to take over from ourselves. In the end, lying is hard to get away with.
2. If there are contradictions at home, they will not help.
No matter how good friends and relatives are, don't interfere in the housework between husband and wife. No matter how busy outsiders are, it is wrong. Because, originally, there is no right or wrong in family conflicts.
3. Is the letter of guarantee helpful?
Borrowing money from relatives and friends, loans and low mortgage on the house can't help. People are unpredictable, and there are many good words when needed. Turn your back on people when you encounter risks and mistakes. They not only lose money, but also feel terrible.
1, the money for "tomorrow" is not spent.
What kind of ant loans, micro-loans and credit cards can solve the temporary funding gap now? But use tomorrow's money in moderation, and people should do what they can in middle age.
Don't spend money you don't have.
Through your own hands, money that doesn't belong to you can never be spent. Middle age is the age of climate, and the rights in your hands will be remembered. Stay awake at all times! Don't be knocked down by money you shouldn't spend.
3, "fishing" money is not spent.
There will be no pie in the sky, and you can't covet petty profits. I believe that the greater the reward, the greater the risk. You should invest carefully. After all, when people reach middle age, their ability to resist failure is weakened.
1, don't want to blow it.
Heroes don't mention your bravery in those days, but often tell your "heroic deeds" when you were young. People flatter you on the surface, but despise you in their hearts.
2, children grow up is not blowing.
It's annoying to say how good and promising your children are. You know, there are people outside, and there are days behind.
3, wealth does not blow
Showing off wealth is a frivolous and immature performance, which does not match the stability of middle-aged people and also contains bragging elements. Its harm may lead to borrowing, robbing and even worrying about one's life.
When people reach middle age, they don't help three things, don't spend San Qian, and don't brag three things. What do you mean?
Let me understand this question and answer it:
Don't help three things: first, don't help others beyond their ability; Help if you can, and don't be forced if you can't. )
Second, don't help people with ulterior motives; If you are not careful, you may be used by the pit and eat coptis with the dumb. )
Don't help people with personality problems. There are always people who like to borrow money everywhere and don't pay it back. They have no sense of credit. )
Don't spend San Qian: First, don't spend money indiscriminately; Middle-aged people need to be rational and know more about what they need. Don't waste things they don't need, because making money is really much more difficult than spending money. )
Second, don't be greedy and easy to be cheated by others; The mind needs wisdom and lucidity. Fish are often caught by others because they eat bait. )
Third, do not indulge in gambling; Gambling wastes energy and money, and once you gamble, you can lose everything. )
Don't brag about three cows: first, don't brag about how much wealth you have; No one will be happy to see that you are richer than him, jealous and so on. )
Second, don't brag about how big your skills are; It's easy to cause a lot of trouble. In reality, the less capable people are, the more they like to brag about this kind of cow. )
The third is not to brag about how powerful your children or relatives are; Being a low-key person will make life easier. )
When people reach middle age, they are wasting their time day by day. We can't do whatever we want just because of increasing responsibilities.
1. Never mind, hang it high. Don't take the initiative to be an enthusiastic person. You think you are better off than others, and your ideas are better than others. Maybe you are not as good as others. People who are warm-hearted and take the initiative to help others may not have a good end, or they help more and more, or they can't help each other. Such things abound.
2. Less icing on the cake, more timely help. If you really want to help others, you must keep an eye on the target. For some people, no matter how much you do, it will only add luster, and will not leave too much impression and get too much gratitude. For some people, your little care and help may bring qualitative changes to others, and this kind of help is the most meaningful.
Don't be a bad guy, don't help your brother. Don't be a bad person in the workplace. The more you help yourself, the busier you are. If something goes wrong, you must take responsibility and do your job well. For relatives and friends, it is enough to provide help. Those demons who help brothers seem to be very affectionate, but in fact they have no principles and can only destroy themselves and their families in the end.
1. Don't spend money on your lover, that is to say, don't have an affair, don't mess around with men and women. Nine times out of ten, such people are ruined, and both people and money are empty.
2. Don't engage in useless social activities. I'm a lout, so I'd better be practical. The days of being friends, eating and drinking are over. It is better than anything to have time to spend with your family and money to help them improve their lives.
3. Don't kick down the ladder. In middle age, there are many places that need to spend money, such as the elderly, children, car loans, mortgages and so on. Whether you are investing or starting a business, don't put all your eggs in one basket. You must leave a successor. Besides, don't touch gambling or anything like that. As long as you do, this family is finished.
1. Don't brag about your connections, don't say how wide your connections are, and don't brag about how big your relationship is. As long as you are good, others can see you. No one will believe you if you are not good.
Don't brag about your health, and never say how healthy you are. Do regular physical examinations every year, not only for yourself, but also for your family. A serious illness may take you back to before liberation.
3. Don't praise your child, don't go out and lament how obedient your child is and how well he studies. Everything is unknown until they become useful. If you sigh in front of others, it will only arouse others' disgust, because everyone has children.
The above is just a family statement, and it is also something I hate. Welcome to discuss.