Yesterday I was shopping with my friend Yuzi and we talked about some of her current problems.

Yuzi is a person who is not very good at communication.

At work, she rarely took the initiative to communicate with the judge who led her, and every time she just completed the assigned tasks silently without any communication; for further studies, she went to attend lectures, and she had questions to ask, and she had already organized them in her mind.

There weren't many people there, but she just didn't have the courage to speak.

Yuzi’s troubles remind me of a senior, Ms. Zhang.

Ms. Zhang is the manager of a certain company. She is less than 40 years old, has financial freedom, has a good fund, and can buy real estate from the United States.

Sharing in a theater with hundreds of people, she was chatting and laughing, calm and content, and seemed to be at ease.

She said to us: "No matter when and where you are, you have to find a way to let others remember you, and it is best never to forget you." I was touched by this sentence - at that time, I had been seeking improvement

A way to have a sense of presence.

Although I didn't dare to raise my hand at that time, I still forced myself to ask her: "Some people are born not good at expressing themselves, what should they do?" After hearing this, Ms. Zhang told us her story.

In fact, she is not a naturally expressive person and is relatively introverted.

In the first few years of her career, she didn't like to be in the limelight. When she thought about the feeling of being the focus of everyone's attention, she felt anxious and nervous.

She rarely expresses her opinions, so her presence is minimal.

Once, she got acquainted with her colleague Xiao Ke because of business relationships.

She mentioned to Xiao Ke: "Actually, we participated in a training together a year ago." Xiao Ke looked confused and tried to recall it, but frankly said that she did not remember.

Miss Zhang felt a little disappointed.

She suddenly realized that she had been stuck in the same place for two or three years at work precisely because she never "forced" herself to express herself in public - if you never expressed your views, others would not know your opinions; you never spoke.

Ask questions and people will ignore your existence.

No one will notice you, no one will praise you, no one will envy you - no one will notice you.

You are forgotten like this. Even if you have been working for two or three years, you are just a dispensable and transparent person in everyone's eyes.

Ms. Zhang’s company is a multinational company and often has remote meetings.

In every meeting before, she never spoke too much.

Usually, after the representative from the headquarters has finished speaking, he asks if there are any unclear questions, and representatives from the other seven countries ask questions in turn.

Finally, the headquarters asked, do the Chinese have any opinions?

At this time, almost all the questions had been asked by other people, and Ms. Zhang could only say "no, no."

Unwilling to remain silent like this forever, Ms. Zhang made up her mind and forced herself to change.

She secretly set a task for herself - in every video conference, she must be the first to ask a question, even if it is just asking "Can you explain the XXX you just mentioned?"

From the beginning when her scalp was numb, to later it became more and more natural and smooth. Ms. Zhang gradually fell in love with the feeling of positive expression.

At first, she was worried that her questions would be substandard and others would laugh at her.

But later she discovered that if she forced herself to ask questions, she would subconsciously listen and think more seriously, and the questions she finally asked were often of high quality.

Because she forced herself to express herself, in the eyes of her colleagues, she gradually grew from a transparent person like "Oh, let me think about it, she's not bad" to a business backbone with "very thoughtful ideas" and "very insightful".

Sometimes, people have to force themselves to grow.

Ms. Zhang’s advice to young people is: always choose the unstable side.

If you are hesitant about the direction of your life, go towards the direction of drastic changes.

Only by forcing yourself to leave your comfort zone can you grow quickly.

When it comes to what kind of career to choose, Ms. Zhang even joked: "Don't choose the job your parents asked you to choose." For example, she didn't listen to her parents and found a job in the local area, doing the same thing.

There is no challenging job, but I chose to join a highly competitive foreign company, forcing myself to learn quickly every day, learn while applying, force myself to meet challenges every day, break through and surpass myself every day, and grow up day by day.

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Mr. Dong, the general manager of a certain brand in the Asia-Pacific region, also has a similar experience.

The turning point in Mr. Dong’s life occurred when he was 34 years old.

Before that, he was just a small screw in a huge group, and his salary could barely provide for his wife and newborn child.

In 2000, the company wanted to send headquarters employees abroad to explore blank markets such as the Middle East and Africa.

At that time, in addition to Mr. Dong, the candidates also had several colleagues with similar qualifications to him.

Several candidates, including Mr. Dong, were hesitant. Although expatriation is a springboard for promotion and salary increase, it also means leaving home and traveling around in a strange country. It also always faces the huge pressure of exploring the market alone.

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Several other people finally chose to give up this opportunity, but Mr. Dong decided to push himself out of his comfort zone and embarked on the road of expatriation.