9 Golden Rules for Educating Children 1. Fish Bowl Rule: Spiritual growth requires freedom. Several small fish have been placed in a fish tank for several years, but they are still so small.

One day, the fish tank was broken, so I kept them in the pond in the yard. Unexpectedly, these fish grew to huge sizes like crazy.

Fish need free space to grow, and people even more so.

We often help our children make choices, choose schools, choose clothes, choose toys, but the children have no choice or thinking.

Therefore, he does not have innovative thinking and will not try too much.

You can let him learn a lot of knowledge, but you can't let him draw inferences from one example or make him have better imagination.

2. Rosenthal effect: Positive expectations for children and positive and negative evaluations of two groups of random combinations of students. Later, the results turned out to be positive or negative.

Positive expectations are actually a kind of external support.

In people's minds, family and friends are the core of this kind of support, and the expected support from family and friends is also more shaping.

In times of frustration, both children and adults look forward to this kind of strength.

On the contrary, without this kind of positive expectation and support, he will become negative or unable to recover after setbacks.

3. The Law of Reinforcement: To develop good habits, put a glass wall in the water, and put the whales and food on one side.

At first, the whale hit the glass violently, but then it finally realized that it was impossible, so after a while, it stopped hitting the glass wall and tore down the glass wall. The fish was still as if it had a glass wall, but

Act on your own side.

Human behavior is just like this story. After a period of time or repeated experiences, it becomes fixed and becomes a habit.

We must pay attention to the details of our children and focus on guidance.

A good habit is a fortune that will benefit him throughout his life.

4. Wolf Law: Cultivate children's curiosity. Assuming that there are no rockeries or barriers in a park, and there are no winding roads, and we can have a clear view from the outside, then you will not be much interested in it.

On the contrary, it is precisely with these that we are willing to go in and understand.

People's curiosity about things is easy to change. If you change the same thing and sometimes add some game elements, the result will be better.

5. Dream rule: Children need dreams for their growth. In a survey on "What do you want to do when you grow up?", 92.7% of the students wanted to go to a good university and find a good job; only 7.3% of the students wanted to travel around.

world, work on alien planets and other answers.

So where did their imagination go.

When we tell a child something, don't rush to teach him how to do it. You just need to tell him what it should be done, and give him some safety reminders if necessary.

As for the method, let them figure it out.

During this time, we just need encouragement and encouragement.

Tap into your child's imagination instead of telling them "standard answers."

6. The Law of the South Wind: Educate children to pay attention to the method. The south wind and the north wind make a bet to see who is more powerful.

They agreed to see who could take off a pedestrian's clothes.

The north wind blows fiercely, and pedestrians wrap their clothes tighter and tighter; the south wind blows slowly, and until the wind is sunny, pedestrians take off their coats.

This practice of inspiring people to reflect, satisfy their own needs and achieve their goals is called the "South Wind Effect".

Once a mistake occurs, even if we get angry again, it will happen. What we have to do is how to avoid making this mistake again and clean up the mess caused by this mistake.

When children make mistakes, understand the situation and seek appropriate solutions.

7. The Law of Natural Punishment: Let the child bear the punishment for his fault. It is the natural result of his fault. This is natural punishment.

In our words: Everyone is responsible for their own actions, and your fault cannot be borne by others.

We should allow children to try things on their own. The things they experience are often more profound than what we teach them.

Children will grow up in this process: people should take responsibility for their own mistakes instead of taking their anger out on others.

8. The law of delayed gratification: Cultivate children's patience from an early age. Whether people are patient or not shows two directions.

One is to get what you want; the other is to be able to wait until what you need arrives. The other thing in the middle is that one does not wait and the other can wait.

This waiting is patience.

Restraint can be cultivated. There is a "three-minute game" that requires children to insist on doing one thing within three minutes.

Three minutes is suitable for children's attention characteristics. After three minutes, stop. After many times of training and forming a habit, children can focus on one thing for a certain period of time.

9. The law of respect: spiritual growth requires respect. In class, the teacher took out a book by a famous cartoonist, told the children the stories in the book, and then asked them to tell a story and draw it.

Although the children's stories were not exciting, the teacher still took note of them carefully and told the children that this is the first book you have written.

In order for children to truly grow up, they should be allowed to "stand" from an early age rather than "lying down" to look up to those big figures.

This reciprocal approach can help children develop a confident and sound personality.