1. Adjust yourself and change your attitude

A person's harm due to what happened is not as serious as his view of the matter. The thing itself is not important, what is important is the person's attitude towards the matter. Therefore, if you can't change things, change your attitude towards the matter. If your attitude changes, things will change.

In ancient times, two scholars, A and B, went to take the exam. On the way, they encountered a coffin. Person A said, "It's really unlucky. I met the coffin. I'm doomed in this exam." Person B said, "Coffin, I will get promoted and make a fortune. It seems that my luck has come, and I will definitely pass the exam this time." When they answered the questions, their efforts were different. As a result, B passed the exam. After returning home, they all said to their wives, which coffin is really magical.

Mental attitude affects people's abilities, and abilities affect people's destiny. The quality of life depends on your daily mentality. If you can ensure that you are in a good mood now, you can ensure that you will be in a good mood today. If you can ensure that you are in a good mood every day, you will have a very good quality of life, which cannot be experienced by others. of beautiful life.

A crow was planning to fly to the east. On the way, he met a dove and they stopped on a tree to rest. The pigeon saw that the crow was having a hard time flying, and asked with concern: "Where are you going to fly?"

The crow said angrily: "Actually, I don't want to leave, but the residents of this place dislike my barking. The sound is not good, so I want to fly somewhere else." The pigeon kindly told the crow: "Don't waste your efforts! If you don't change your voice, you won't be welcomed anywhere."

You can't change the environment, but you can change yourself; you can't change the facts, but you can change your attitude; you can't change the past, but you can change the present; you can't control others, but you can master yourself. I like the moonlight, but not because of its tranquility and desolation; I like shooting stars, but not sad for its brevity; I like the night, but not because of its gloom and tears; I like falling rain, but not because of its falling and feeling hopeless. As William James, a great American philosopher, said: "The greatest discovery of our generation is that human beings can change their lives by changing their attitudes."

2. Live in the present, wonderfully Every day

Life is a process not a result. Life is a bracket, the left bracket is birth, and the right bracket is death. What we have to do is to fill in the brackets, fill the brackets with beautiful and colorful things, and have a good mood. As a result, it is over when the brackets are reached.

A man was chased by a tiger. He ran as fast as he could and accidentally fell off a cliff. With his quick eyes and hands, he grabbed a rattan and hung his body in the air. He looked up, and the tiger was staring at him from above; he looked down, and the abyss was waiting for him; he looked in the middle, and suddenly found a ripe strawberry next to the cane. Now this person has four options: going up, going down, hanging in the air, and eating strawberries. What do you think he is doing? ——Eat strawberries. His mentality of eating strawberries is to live in the present. The only thing you can hold on to now is that strawberry, so eat it. If you ask this question to a child in kindergarten, the child will definitely answer without hesitation, eat strawberries. Children are happier than us adults because they live in the present.

Thich Nhat Hanh said it well: When we drink tea with mindfulness, we are practicing returning to the present moment in order to live in the here and now. When our body and mind are completely settled in the present moment, the steaming cup of tea will clearly appear in front of us. We know that this is a wonderful existence. At this time we really communicate with this cup of tea. Only in this situation does life truly appear. This is exactly what it is: holding the teacup in my hand, raising my mind with straight thoughts, my mind and body stay at this moment and place.

Living in the present does not mean that if you have wine today, you will not be drunk tomorrow. It means that you will not be drunk if you have wine today, so that you will not be worried tomorrow, and live in the present with the future as the orientation. The philosopher Osho said: "I don't think too much about the future, because the future is generated by the present. If we can take care of the present, then we take care of the future. The future will not come for no reason, it will It will come out of this moment, and the next moment will come out of this moment. If this moment is beautiful, peaceful, and joyful, then the next moment will be even more peaceful and joyful."

We often say that when I get old, I will travel around the world; when I retire, I will do what I want to do; when my children grow up, I can...

We all think that we Have unlimited time and energy.

In fact, we can realize our ideals step by step without wasting our lives waiting. If we can work hard to get closer now step by step, we will not live half a life with the ending we least want to see.

3. Discover beauty, be optimistic and open-minded

Once, the home of former US President Roosevelt was robbed and many things were lost. After hearing the news, a friend quickly wrote to comfort him and advised him not to pay too much attention. Roosevelt wrote a reply to his friend: "Dear friend, thank you for coming to comfort me. I am very safe now and grateful for life. Because, first, the thief stole my things and did not harm my life; second, Second, the thief only stole some of my things, not all of them; third, the most fortunate thing is that he was the thief, not me.” Stealing is definitely unfortunate, but Roosevelt found three reasons to be grateful and grateful. This story inspires us how to be grateful for life, how to see the positive side in adverse events, and how to discover the many beautiful aspects around us. This is a philosophy of life and great wisdom in life.

It is impossible for professionals to have smooth sailing in their careers and lives. All kinds of failures and helplessness require us to face them bravely and deal with them openly. At this time, should we just complain about life and become depressed and sluggish from now on, or should we be grateful for life and get up again after we fall? British writer Thackeray said: "Life is a mirror. If you laugh, it will laugh too; if you cry, it will cry too."

4. Work is a paid and enjoyable learning process

Faced with the complicated market environment, Li Dongsheng, the head of TCL, a group company that leads thousands of people, said when talking about pressure, it is not without pressure, "We must strive to treat work as a 'paid pleasure'" Learning process'. Only those who are good at learning can turn pressure into motivation; and only those who are good at learning can have the desire to continuously pursue progress, take on greater responsibilities, and have more opportunities for success than others. "

As a leader of the company, Li Dongsheng has very high demands on himself. He has always emphasized: "Only when you maintain sufficient growth can you lead a team to grow." It is with this learning spirit that Li Dongsheng led his team to turn a local small business founded with a loan of 5,000 yuan into a small business 20 years later. A large group with sales exceeding 20 billion yuan, and has grown at an annual growth rate of over 50% for seven consecutive years.

If everyone learns such a simple art - to love his work, no matter what it is, and enjoy it without asking for any recognition, then we will definitely have a better place , a happier self, otherwise the world has trapped you in a painful pattern. The reason why you think what you do is good is not because you love it or because you do it well, but because the world recognizes it, rewards it, gives you a gold medal or gives you a Nobel Prize, This is a very sad thing in life.

Many people always come to work with the attitude of "no pain, no gain". Of course, there is nothing wrong with this mentality. The problem is that if this mentality is too true, it will make us fall into distress and depression, and we will not be able to enjoy the joy and happiness that work brings us. For example, if you finish a job well but your boss doesn't show any reaction, you always feel like something is missing and you feel very disappointed; if you overcome a problem or sign a big deal, but your boss doesn't give you a salary increase or promotion, you always feel aggrieved. I think my boss is sorry for me; I did a big favor to my colleagues, but they didn’t even ask for a coffee. It’s really boring. If we always work and live with this kind of "tit for tat" mentality, not only will we not experience happiness, but we will end up feeling exhausted. Anyone with an independent will will live according to his own love, live according to his own understanding of work, regard work as a pleasant learning and life experience, and will not care about what others think.

5. Enjoy the process instead of focusing on success

After the spread of Chinese Zen Buddhism to Japan, the spirit and wisdom of Zen penetrated into every corner of society and produced many variations. For example, tea ceremony, flower arrangement, archery, and kendo can all be said to be branches of Zen. Miyamoto Musashi, a master of modern Japanese kendo, and his disciple Matajuro Yagyu were two great swordsmen who had penetrated the true spirit of Zen.

When Yagyu came to pay homage to his master for the first time, he couldn’t wait to ask: “Master, you have come from the past and have a sharp eye.

You see, with my basic skills, when can I become a first-class swordsman? "

Miyamoto thought for a while and said to him emphatically: "It will take about ten years. "

"Wow, ten years, isn't it too long? Yagyu was young and wanted to become famous as soon as possible. He said eagerly: "Master, I am a strong-willed person. What if I work harder and practice harder?" ”

“Then it will take twenty years.” "Miyamoto looked serious.

Yagyu asked in confusion: "What if I work day and night, forget about food and sleep, and study non-stop? ”

“Then you won’t succeed even in thirty years!” "

Miyamoto's words are really puzzling. He asked pitifully: "Master, why is it so strange to practice kendo? Why does the opposite take longer the harder you work? Please tell me, what does this mean? "

Miyamoto taught him earnestly: "If your two eyes are fixed on the word 'success', where can you look at yourself? The so-called first-class swordsman must always keep one eye on himself. "

Yagyu was so shocked that he was sweating profusely, and he suddenly had an epiphany.

In our careers and career journeys, do we also have the same emotional journey as Yagyu? "Haste makes waste." "We must remember. The happiness of success is in the process rather than the success itself.

Remember, if we can "wake up in the morning with radiance on our faces and face the future with a smile; At noon, the glory is on your waist, and you can live in the present with your back straight; at night, the glory is on your feet, and you should be down-to-earth and be yourself. "Then, we will enjoy the wonderful process of life, and our life will always be full of sunshine.