We can always find a phenomenon in our life. At the same level, the more you are willing to spend time working for others, the better your popularity will be. If you are stingy and spend time on yourself, although you will find that your grades have improved, your popularity will also decrease.

Let me tell you something very interesting first.

My senior is a gentle girl with good learning ability. She went to a company for an internship some time ago. She has just joined the company for a while and everyone likes her very much. Because no matter what others ask her to do, she does her best. Spend a lot of time thinking about others. Therefore, seniors can be said to be mixed. On the contrary, the children who enter the internship at the same time with her just do their own things every day, and refuse to help others unless they finish what they are doing. She is always immersed in doing her own thing and seldom eats dinner. So the company has no "green channel".

In the final assessment of the internship, both of them officially became employees, but the children won the favor of the top management with their excellent professional ability. Although the senior sister scored a lot of points in the support vote, she lost some opportunities because of her work mistakes.

In your environment, it is difficult to balance the two unless you reach the point where people look up.

What is popularity?

Popularity usually refers to your relationship with others. When we say that people are nice, we usually mean the attitude of others towards you. If others are around you and willing to associate with you, then your popularity is very good, and vice versa.

We have seen since childhood that people with good popularity are usually rich, humorous and nice people. Can be divided into people with positive resources, can also be divided into people with potential positive resources, can contribute.

Later, I heard that the child once again showed her professional knowledge level after entering the official staff, and many people came to ask her. Different from usual, she won't keep people away, and she will explain patiently. Let people around you redefine her.

Her own value is enough, just take care of the relationship around her.

Everyone is talking about the influence of others. In fact, everyone is almost the same, and they are willing to be close to those who have positive resources and contributions.

Because with them, you can get benefits, both materially and emotionally.

So the premise of people and people is very clear, that is,

First of all, you should have your own positive resources.

In present terms, it can be divided into asset income and labor income.

Xiao Li is the department manager. He needs to socialize with various bosses every day. His communication skills are excellent and his popularity is good. And his classmate and friend A Guang started his own business as a boss. Although he is very close, A-guang never invites people to dinner or benefits others, but there are many people around him.

This kind of person is bourgeois popularity, and his popularity is based on the benefits that others get in all aspects, so even if there is no small favor, as long as there is potential hope, his popularity will always exist.

On the other hand, being a good person is based on your ability to give feedback to others in time. Never offend you, let you have a good mood, feel very comfortable, as long as he opens his mouth, he will do his best. This is called labor popularity.

Labor popularity keeps piling up into sand piles. It looks like a pyramid, but if there is a strong wind, there may be nothing.

Then you spend this precious time on yourself. Although you can't always have a good popularity, it is obvious that you are on the road of self-accumulation, so it is yours, and no matter how strong the wind is, you can't run away.

We can obviously use our time to improve ourselves, but why do we have to give up our time to be busy for others?

It is precisely because we lack positive attraction that we hope to make ourselves feel more secure through some accumulated labor popularity.

Because we hope to get the expected response at some point in the future, we expect others to repay us in the future.

But since it's hope,

The initiative is naturally not in your hands.

Generally speaking, in many exchanges, the reciprocal relationship between the two sides is relatively stable, so the probability of others getting the same return is relatively high. But the problem is, if your positive resource value is not so high, then when the other person's positive value is higher than yours, he doesn't need to play games with you many times, and the chances of the other person returning you will be greatly reduced.

So we will find out why some people have done a lot for the great god, but it is difficult to ask the great god to give a small return.

Because many times they don't really need to play games with you. If you want them to do something for you, you must first try to be at least valuable and not so different from others. When you can bring him almost the same resources to exchange, then the fate between you will last longer.

Man is an unstable variable.

Many people seem to be popular people, but in fact they just keep continuous and output constantly. Once interrupted, kung fu may be in vain, and many seemingly popular people, even some withdrawn people, suddenly have a great improvement in the value of that day, then popularity will naturally come.

Just like the children mentioned above, if you have certain value, then you can allocate some time to help others and balance it. If you are still popular with others, you should not spend too much time to please others and win the so-called popularity.

So, I tell you,

Your popularity is only temporarily different from others.