Yuhang, a single father who is also a mother, has a particularly deep feeling in this respect, even unforgettable.
Let's take a look at Yuhang's story: How long will a man remarry after his wife dies? A middle-aged man's hesitation is realistic.
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Yuhang's beloved wife, Sun Xue, likes children very much. She has a congenital heart defect. The doctor didn't advise her to get pregnant and have children.
But she insisted on giving birth to her own flesh and blood, even at the cost of her life.
Sun Xue, who loves her son as much as her life, resigned at home after giving birth to her eldest son, became a full-time mother, took care of her baby by herself, breastfed and gave her the best care and love.
At that time, Sun Xue was in a critical period of promotion and salary increase, and she was still working overtime with her children.
It's just that as soon as the child landed and saw her son's wrinkled face, her heart melted, and all her work, career and salary were forgotten by her. Nothing is more important than the place of children in her heart.
When the eldest son was over one year old, Sun Xue was pregnant with a second child, but this time she was not so lucky. During her pregnancy, she had a heart attack, and even her youngest daughter didn't see her for the last time. She left with regret.
After the death of his beloved wife, Yuhang took a son and a daughter and relied on neighbors for help from time to time. He has only survived three years of hardship, and he still has a long way to raise children. He shuddered at the thought.
For three years, Yu Hang was busy with business and personal affairs 24 hours a day, and had no spare time of his own. He doesn't even know how he got through it. It's really hard for him.
The youngest daughter also went to kindergarten this fall, and he felt a little relieved.
But this is also temporary. When the child comes home, he will have a headache again.
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Shuai Shuai, the eldest son, is a living "hundred thousand whys". He is curious about everything and wants to know everything. He always asks "why is this" and "why is that?" He often has a splitting headache.
The youngest daughter Niu Niu loves jiao very much. She always wipes away tears. If someone annoys her, she will cry to you. Her big eyes are always filled with tears, which makes people feel distressed. She is willing to meet all her requirements and change her smile.
That day, Yu Hang went to the kindergarten to pick Niu Niu and her brother home. On the way, Niu Niu is showing off her new hairstyle, braiding her hair from the top of her head and tying red strawberries with a rubber band.
"Dad, brother, you see, my new braid is so beautiful. Teacher Xiaowen combed it. I like it very much! "
After washing up the next morning, Niu Niu will braid her hair in Yuhang, which is as beautiful as Xiaowen's braid. This is too difficult for navigation.
It's good that he can tie a tall ponytail for his daughter and a ponytail from the top of his head. He can't do it anyway. He can only apologize to his little daughter for being timid.
"Wow ... I want my mother. She can wear beautiful braids."
Aijiao's little daughter opened her mouth and cried when she saw that her father could not satisfy her wish to braid her hair. She also shouted out her mind and asked him for her mother.
Yuhang felt bad when he saw his daughter crying. If you want a mother again, Yuhang can't stand it anymore, and his eyes are red.
"Dad is so stupid that he won't braid his sister's hair to make her cry. I hate my father and I want my mother, too. Wow ... "
This embarrassing situation, with the participation of his son, Yuhang is really at a loss. He also wants to cry, but who can he cry to?
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Finally, Yuhang promised many benefits, bought them ice cream, took them to the naughty castle in the shopping mall, and took them to the amusement park to ride the merry-go-round, and the two children didn't stop.
However, the daughter put forward an additional condition, that is, after arriving at kindergarten, Yu Hang must ask Xiaowen to braid her beautiful braid yesterday, otherwise she will not go to kindergarten.
Such a young child learns to blackmail adults. I was so angry that my liver ached. He really wants to beat her up, but he can't. The child is so poor that he has no mother since he was born.
In kindergarten, Niu Niu took Yuhang's hand and skipped to find her Xiaowen teacher.
"Miss xiaowen, this is my father. He said, please, help me braid my hair! "
As soon as Niu Niu saw Xiaowen's figure, she went to running all the way, threw herself into her arms, and then launched the words that sold Yuhang's shame.
"The child, what are you talking about? It's really ... "Aerospace's ears are red with embarrassment, and she stutters to cope with her daughter's favorite teacher Xiaowen.
"It doesn't matter, Niu Niu's father, I'll take her to my office for a while and comb her beautiful braids. Please feel free to go to work! "
The beautiful teacher Xiaowen responded to his embarrassing request with a gentle voice, and he was really grateful.
"Thank you, teacher. Thank you ... "Yuhang thanked her politely, then waved goodbye to her daughter and left the kindergarten for work.
While driving, he was still sighing at himself. In the morning, Niu Niu insisted that he braid his hair. He really complained about this Xiaowen teacher.
"What's the good to braid niu. Niu Niu can't control herself at all. She is looking for trouble and loafing about! "
Now it seems that he is really a gentleman's belly and a villain's heart.
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This incident seems to be an opportunity, laying the groundwork for the in-depth communication between Yuhang and Xiaowen.
Niu Niu especially likes Miss Xiaowen. At home, Miss Xiaowen is always long and Miss Xiaowen is short, and there are no three sentences that cannot be separated from her.
Teacher Xiaowen really cares about Niu Niu, combs her braids, sings children's songs to Niu Niu who refuses to take a nap, puts her to sleep, and often brings her all kinds of cupcakes baked by herself.
Yuhang also often thanks Xiaowen for his little daughter, buys her flowers and invites her to a big meal. Four people sit at the same table, happy as a family.
Niu Niu and Yuhang said that she wanted Xiaowen to be her mother. She thinks that her mother, like Xiaowen, is beautiful and gentle, especially kind to her and loves her.
The child's heart is the purest, and she can always perceive who is good to her and who is not good to her.
Teacher Xiaowen's gentle care makes this little girl who has never enjoyed maternal love since she was a child feel warmth and love. She wants to keep this warmth forever, and wants Xiaowen to live in their home and live with her every day.
"Niu Niu, have you heard the story of Snow White? Aren't you afraid of your stepmother? They will abuse children. "
Yu Hang was upset by her little daughter's nagging Xiaowen all day, trying to scare her.
"Dad, I'm not afraid. I protect my sister. My sister likes Miss Xiaowen. Let her be our mother! "
His son, Shuai Shuai, is his elder brother, and he supports his elder sister's idea without reservation.
"Dad, you are broken. Teacher Xiaowen won't abuse me. She loves me the most. She said that she didn't have a mother when she was a child. She wanted a mother. "
Niu Niu is definitely a die-hard fan of Teacher Xiaowen. Even her dear father won't speak ill of her. She tried her best to protect Miss Xiaowen, indicating that the little girl longed for a mother, and Miss Xiaowen was the mother in her heart.
Teacher Xiaowen is really good to Niu Niu and is single at present, but that doesn't mean she likes him. There is still self-knowledge.
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In these years, Yuhang never thought about getting married again.
First, Sun Xue and I have deep feelings. I think it's boring to marry anyone again.
Second, the child is still young. He is afraid that his second wife will be bad to his children and that the children will be wronged.
Now, my daughter wants Xiaowen to be a mother, encouraging him to pursue her favorite Xiaowen and be a family with her forever.
The daughter's words made the man who vowed not to continue to get married move the idea of remarriage.
However, Yuhang is hesitant. Should he really please Xiaowen and let her be the stepmother of the child?
Is this unfair to Miss Xiaowen? Why did Yunying, an unmarried girl, marry her and have to bear the hardships of raising children? He has nothing to repay others.
Teacher Xiaowen married him. What's the plan? As a small shopkeeper, does he earn enough money to maintain a well-off life for a family of three?
Nobody is stupid. Why should people take the initiative to jump into their own "trouble nest"?
But it seems impossible not to marry. My daughter grows up day by day. She really needs the care and companionship of a female elder more and more. A big man like him really can't handle his charming little daughter!
Readers and friends, please give your comments to Yu Hang. Should he take the initiative to marry Xiaowen?
If Yuhang really works hard, will Miss Xiaowen agree to marry him?
Yuhang is waiting for everyone's insights. Welcome everyone to talk about their own views.
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For marriage, we all have moments of confusion, whether the marriage is unhappy, whether we choose to end the marriage and start over, or whether we lose the other half, and whether we want to remarry or not.
For each of us, these are important moments in life. Your choice determines whether you will be happy for the rest of your life. So, how can we choose to make a decision without regret?
The most important thing is that you need to really understand marriage and know what kind of marriage you need. In this regard, I hope you can read the book Psychology of Marriage.
This book will explain marriage for you in detail, tell you what marriage is, what marriage needs most, how we should have a good marriage, how we should properly solve the problems in marriage, and so on.
When you have the most basic understanding of marriage, you can be confident. When faced with a choice, I believe it will be easier to make the right choice.
If you choose correctly, your marriage will be more than half happy. May you do the same.