I have always believed that Jia Mu is a firm supporter of Jia Baoyu and Lin Daiyu’s marriage. Therefore, I must explain clearly why Jia Mu did not confirm the marriage of Jia Baoyu and Lin Daiyu early. If Jia Baoyu and Lin Daiyu My mother used her authority to finalize the matter while she was still alive. Even after her death, I think Mrs. Wang would not dare to overturn the verdict decisively because Jia Zheng was still there. Although he did not understand the boy and girl between Jia Baoyu and Lin Daiyu It's a matter of love, but I will definitely implement Jia Mu's decision to the letter.

In my opinion, in addition to the reasons mentioned in the previous article, there are some more critical reasons why Jia Mu has not been able to finalize the decision.

First of all, we must not embarrass the Xue family too much.

Especially when the Xue family was in decline and came to join the Jia family. After all, they were the four major families. After Xue Baochai failed to be elected, Aunt Xue's intention to marry Xue Baochai to Jia Baoyu was quite obvious. Even if she disagreed, there was no need to do it so cruelly. It was not Jia's mother's style to embarrass the Xue family in distress.

Secondly, we must give Mrs. Wang face.

Xue Baochai's marriage to Jia Baoyu is the goal of the two sisters, Mrs. Wang and Aunt Xue, who are working together. Mrs. Wang is particularly enthusiastic. Even if Jia's mother objects, she cannot irritate Mrs. Wang too much. After all, Mrs. Wang is the emperor. The imperial concubine's biological mother, Jia Baoyu's biological mother, and the daughter-in-law of another of the four major families, the Wang family. In other words, if Mother Jia had made it clear about the marriage between Jia Baoyu and Lin Daiyu early, it would have offended the Xue family, the Wang family, and her own daughter-in-law, which would cause too much backlash, and Mother Jia would not do this.

Third, we must give face to the imperial concubine Jia Yuanchun.

I have said before that because of a hint from my mother, Mrs. Wang, the imperial concubine Jia Yuanchun, who deeply loved her younger brother Jia Baoyu, got involved, and she once agreed with her mother's opinions and supported Jia Baoyu. Combined with Xue Baochai, the Dragon Boat Festival gift-giving section is a clear proof. However, later, Jia Yuanchun also received hints from Jia Mu:

1. Jia Mu’s opinion was Jia Baoyu and Lin Daiyu. Jia Mu was Jia Yuanchun’s grandmother and the person who had nursed Jia Yuanchun since he was a child. Jia Yuanchun also has to weigh this weight;

2. Jia’s mother’s reasons are more solid. Xue Pan of the Xue family is involved in a murder case. Such a combination is not good for the reputation of the Jia family and is not good for virtue The reputation of the concubine.

So, Jia Yuanchun followed Jia's mother's arrangement and never participated in the matter again. Out of concern for his mother's feelings, he withdrew from the marriage dispute and remained silent. I have articles on these, please read them. I will only talk about the key points here. For this reason, Jia's mother would not embarrass Jia Yuanchun by making the marriage between Jia Baoyu and Lin Daiyu explicit.

Fourth, the most critical and important point is that according to the etiquette in ancient times (at that time), if Jia Mu once clearly proposed the engagement between Jia Baoyu and Lin Daiyu, and it was recognized by the Jia family, Jia Zheng accepted, and Mrs. Wang reluctantly accepted. Then, Lin Daiyu could no longer live in Jia's house and had to return to the Lin family. At that time, Lin Ruhai and Jia Min were already OVER. The Lin family had no close relatives, and some only had distant relatives who were more than three or four generations old. What should they do? This is what Jia Mu cannot tolerate:

1. Jia Mu cannot tolerate Lin Daiyu leaving her care, she is worried and reluctant to let go;

2. Lin Daiyu has nothing to do if she leaves Jia's house. It is also a fact that if someone takes care of you, you will be homeless;

3. The Jia family has always been a virtuous family and has produced a virtuous concubine, so the Jia family must abide by such marriage etiquette regulations .

I think it is for this reason that Jia Mu has been reluctant to clearly propose and acknowledge the marriage between Jia Baoyu and Lin Daiyu, because once it was proposed, it would mean that Lin Daiyu and Jia Mu, Jia Baoyu, and Jia Baoyu, The family separated until the two got married. But getting married is not that easy. As I said, Jia Min's death, Lin Ruhai's death, Jia Jing's death, the old concubine's death, etc. happened one after another. As juniors, Jia Baoyu and Lin Daiyu must observe filial piety, which is not appropriate.

Fifth, of course, there is another point. Even though Jia's mother is old but still healthy, she does not know that Jia Yuanchun will suddenly die in childbirth. She will not be able to bear the blow. Suddenly If you die, who can count your own life or death? cannot. In fact, Jia Mu has been dispelling the opposition little by little, as evidenced by Xue Baochai's withdrawal and support for Jia Baoyu and Lin Daiyu, as well as Aunt Xue's change in recognizing Lin Daiyu as her goddaughter. Therefore, Jia's mother never expected Jia Yuanchun's death in childbirth and her own sudden death. This was also an important reason why Jia's mother passed away before Jia Baoyu and Lin Daiyu's marriage was clear.