This sentence reveals the important principles of dealing with interpersonal relationships. Confucius said that people should treat others with their own behavior as a reference. People should have a broad mind. When dealing with people, don't be narrow-minded, be generous and forgive others. If you push something you hate to others, it will not only destroy the relationship with others, but also make things deadlocked and out of control. The communication between people should really adhere to this principle, which is the embodiment of respecting others and treating others equally. In this world, we should not only pay attention to our own existence, but also pay attention to the existence of others. Everyone is equal. Do not do to others what you don't want them to do to you.
For a proposition, we should analyze it comprehensively. "Don't do to others what you don't want others to do to you" does not logically mean "Don't do to others what you don't want others to do to you". Logically, the original proposition holds, and the negative proposition of this proposition holds at the same time, but "don't do to others what you don't want them to do to you" is a negative proposition of "don't do to others what you don't want them to do to you", and the negative proposition may not hold.
What you don't want just can't be imposed on others, but if the other party wants it, it doesn't belong to the scope of "giving". What you want, others don't necessarily want, so you can't impose it on others.
Generally speaking, whether you "do whatever you want" or not, you can't "give" what you impose on others. There is only one standard for what you give to others, that is, whether they are willing or not. We cannot impose it on others according to our standards.
What you don't want is not necessarily what others don't need; What you don't do to others is your personal opinion when you have something you don't want; You think you don't want the steamed stuffed bun left over from breakfast, but it is a rare meal for beggars next to you; Do as you would be done by. What I want to say is not that the steamed stuffed bun left over from breakfast is cold (which may be bad for the stomach) and a little dirty, so it should not be used as food for others, but that personal opinions should not be imposed on others (the steamed stuffed bun left over from breakfast is cold, which may be bad for the stomach and a little dirty, so it should not be used as food for others). It has subjective content and significance. What you don't give to others is what you don't want.
A sound society includes three aspects: a sound legal system with the constitution as the core; The national quality is relatively high; Have enough ability to participate in international market competition. Among them, national quality includes not only cultural knowledge, technical skills, physical quality, but also ethics and morality that are compatible with it.
The more developed the society, the higher the demand for credit. High credit and low cost. Therefore, ethics is not only a social norm, but also a social resource.
Fake cigarettes, fake wine, fake trademarks, fake academic qualifications, fake numbers ... The poisonous rice and biscuits reported some time ago were fake "disastrous for the country and the people". People are saddened and deeply feel that credit resources have been seriously wasted.
From the perspective of ethics, "bottom line ethics" is the most conservative moral norm. You can't "benefit others", at least don't hurt others. The so-called "self-interest does not harm others." This is the minimum requirement, but also a very high requirement, which is difficult to achieve.
A sound society includes three aspects: a sound legal system with the constitution as the core; The national quality is relatively high; Have enough ability to participate in international market competition. Among them, national quality includes not only cultural knowledge, technical skills, physical quality, but also ethics and morality that are compatible with it.
The more developed the society, the higher the demand for credit. High credit and low cost. Therefore, ethics is not only a social norm, but also a social resource.
Fake cigarettes, fake wine, fake trademarks, fake academic qualifications, fake numbers ... The poisonous rice and biscuits reported some time ago were fake "disastrous for the country and the people". People are saddened and deeply feel that credit resources have been seriously wasted.
From the perspective of ethics, "bottom line ethics" is the most conservative moral norm. You can't "benefit others", at least don't hurt others. The so-called "self-interest does not harm others." This is the minimum requirement, but also a very high requirement, which is difficult to achieve.
Don't do unto others what you don't want done unto you.
People are like a magnet, attracting people with similar ideas and like-minded, and rejecting other heterogeneous people. If you want to make friends with kind and generous people, you must first become such a person, as you sow, so you reap. All your thoughts will eventually come back to you.
As early as 2500 years ago, Confucius said an old saying: "Don't do to others what you don't want others to do to you." . This sentence tells the true meaning of being a man.
The so-called "don't do to others what you don't want others to do to you" means pushing others with your own heart; How do you want to live, you think others will want to live; If you don't want others to treat you, don't treat others like that; I hope I can stand up and understand in society, and I will also help others stand up and understand. In short, start from your own heart, push yourself and others, understand others, and be kind to others. "Don't do to others what you don't want others to do to you" simply means putting yourself in others' shoes, which is the same as what China folks often say: put yourself in others' shoes.
Why do some people think so well of others?
The real reason is: as you sow, you reap.
Sow an action and you will reap a habit; Sow a habit and you will get a personality; Sow a personality and you will get a destiny; Sow a good thing and you will get a good result; Sow evil deeds and you will get a bad result.
To be exact, "don't do to others what you don't want others to do to you" means: civilization. It is not easy for a person to truly become a civilized person. It is precisely because this is a very high and difficult requirement that our society now always advocates "spiritual civilization construction" repeatedly.
There have been many sages in China, who pushed themselves and others. The story of Dayu's water control is a noble example of "Don't do to others what you don't want others to do to you" and "Don't do to others what you don't want others to do to you". When Dayu accepted the task of water control, he just married a girl from Tushan Stone. When he thought of someone being drowned, his heart was as painful and uneasy as that of his loved one being drowned. So he bid farewell to his wife and led 270,000 flood control people to carry out flood relief work day and night. In the process of water control, Dayu went through the house three times and refused to enter. After 13 years of fighting, nine big rivers were dredged, and the floods went into the sea, eliminating the floods, which made immortal achievements. After that, there was a folk song called "Dayu Harnessing Water":
Dayu has been managing water for thirteen years and devoted himself to solving problems for the people.
Field observation and investigation, unity and diligence to listen to opinions.
3. Stay indoors, forget to eat and sleep.
Rivers were dredged, floods were destroyed, and everyone was happy to irrigate farmland.
During the Warring States Period, a man named Bai Gui talked to Mencius about this matter. He boasted, "If I were allowed to control water, I would certainly do better than Yu. Wouldn't it be much easier if I dredged the river and let the flood flow to neighboring countries? Mencius said to him rudely, "You are wrong! If neighboring countries are used as catchment areas, floods will flow back and cause even greater disasters. People with kindness don't do this. This is the origin of the idiom "beggar thy neighbor".
Judging from the two stories of Dayu's water conservancy and Bai Gui's talk about water conservancy, Bai Gui only thinks of himself, not others. This wrong idea of "don't do to others what you don't want others to do to you" is inevitable. Dayu's efforts to control the water and the sea, though arduous, eliminated the disasters of both his own people and those of neighboring countries. How worthy of our admiration and imitation is this spirit of putting yourself in others' shoes.
The moral feelings of "putting yourself in the other's shoes" have a wide influence not only in China, but also all over the world. It is said that in the headquarters of the International Red Cross, Confucius' famous saying "Don't do to others what you don't want others to do to you" hangs, which reflects the human yearning for good interpersonal relationships.
The vast majority of people in America and the world are against terrorism. One of the means of terrorism is to take innocent people hostage. When you can't achieve your goal, you take killing hostages as an example. The United States sent planes to attack in order to warn or retaliate against Iraq's attempt to assassinate former President Bush. If the attempted murderer is attacked and justice is done, such an action can be recognized by everyone. But in fact, they killed innocent people. This kind of action is no different from terrorism! From the beginning of opposing terrorism to becoming a terrorist, it is also because of pushing "don't do to others what you don't want others" too far.
An American soldier was killed, which was publicized by American-controlled news organizations. The White House and Congress reacted strongly, which was immediately reflected in diplomacy. A Somali citizen was killed, and the news was understated, even without saying a word, as if an ant had just been trampled to death. From these comparisons, we can strongly feel the equality and inequality between people. This behavior, the decision is wrong.
If the local people knew "Don't do to others what you don't want them to do to you", there would be no civil strife and famine. On the other hand, if the local people don't know or are unwilling to implement "don't do to others what you don't want them to do to you", then no matter how the international community intervenes, the unrest can't be completely subsided. With this understanding, we will understand that the international community's help to Somalia can only be limited to alleviating the suffering of the people, and it can never be to quell the civil war. In recent years, United Nations military operations have been very frequent. What is the purpose of these operations? What is its boundary? On the one hand, we should learn lessons from past military actions, and more importantly, we should understand Confucianism from the depth of law, ethics and philosophy.
"Don't do to others what you don't want others to do to you", a Confucian moral creed, has been tested by practice for more than two thousand years, and now it shows its philosophical wisdom more and more. As the saying goes: Half the Analects of Confucius rules the world. Now it seems that the phrase "Don't do to others what you don't want others to do to you" can make the world peaceful.
Don't do unto others what you don't want done unto you.
The superficial meaning of "don't do to others what you don't want others to do" is: don't impose on others what you don't want to do or don't want to do, which is immoral. This sentence often appears in ancient Chinese, which is often said by ancient great thinkers. "Don't do to others what you don't want others to do to you" sounds so reasonable and just. In our real society, we also need such a mind, but who can do this, who can serve the people selflessly and never complain? There may be such people, but they are only a tiny part of1200 million people. In this modern high-speed development society, people's work, study and life are in fierce competition all the time. I remember the teacher once said in junior high school politics class: "All kinds of competition in society are, in the final analysis, the competition for talents." At the same time of fierce competition with others, this person's relationship is getting farther and farther and stranger. We are all only children. At home, we are the lovely daughters of our parents and the lovely granddaughters of our grandparents. We grew up in their hands, without any injustice or rough work, and thus developed a spoiled and selfish character. Therefore, it is difficult for us to do the sentence "Don't do to others what you don't want others to do to you". At school, we are all selfish, except for studying and doing things, which seems to have nothing to do with ourselves. We all want to impose what we don't want to do and what we don't want to do on others without reservation, but who will silently bear it at our age? In this world, there is black and white, and there is ugliness and beauty. Some selfish people impose what they don't want on others, and some selfless people take what they don't want down. If we have more undertakers and less givers around us, people will not be so alienated, their selfish desires will be weakened, and everyone will serve people selflessly and never care. How peaceful the world will be! I think this sentence is not only the standard for a person to be a man, but also the standard for a country to be a man, otherwise it will cause dissatisfaction among people all over the world. For example, in today's world, the nation-state is still the main body of international relations, and national interests should indeed be the primary consideration of every country. Benefit. It is also based on this idea that the United States has strengthened its plan to implement the missile defense system on the pretext that missiles from so-called "rogue countries" pose a threat to American interests, regardless of the possible consequences for world security. People can't help asking whether the United States should also consider and respect the interests of other countries when talking about its own national interests, and should not pursue its absolute security at the expense of the interests of other countries. At that time, the federal government of the United States led by President Lincoln fought resolutely against the plot to create "two Americas" in politics, military affairs and diplomacy. He left such a famous saying in the struggle: "The land occupied and lived by the American people on the earth can only be used as the home of one ethnic family, but not as the home of two or more ethnic families." Today, some people in the United States should learn a lesson from this history: don't do to others what you don't want them to do to you. Their behavior will arouse people's dissatisfaction all over the world.
For the sake of world peace and a better life for people around us, let's try to be the undertaker of "what we don't want"!