When a child sees something he likes and you don't think it is necessary to buy it, you should immediately find an excuse to divert the child's attention and take him away. For example, "There's a noisy sound over there. What's so funny? Let's go and have a look! " "or" grandma prepared delicious food for us at home, and she called us to go home quickly. "

2. Cooling method.

When the child starts to roll around like a hooligan and you can't persuade him, you still have to stick to your principles. Tell him firmly: "we don't need this thing, we can't buy it!" " Then make him cry and cool his mood. Of course, you should resist other people's comments at this time. When a child is tired of crying and finds that you have your principles and crying is useless, he will restrain his emotions.

3. Fading method.

When you stick to your principles again and again and let your children know that willfulness and deception can't achieve your goals, this phenomenon will fade over time.

The cultivation of baby's character is actually formed in childhood. If this happens, parents must not hit their children. This will have a very bad influence on the baby. So what should we do?

1. Say no to the baby bravely!

At the age of three, you must learn to say no to your child! Take him to a quiet place, such as back to your car. Make him cry, but don't talk. When he finished crying. At this time, remember not to talk, just look at him quietly. At this time, the baby will secretly see your reaction. If you can't hold on, you lose. Peeking at you several times, he stopped crying if you didn't respond.

You need to understand his feelings. Tell his mother that you really want to buy toys, but toys are a little expensive or something. Mom will work hard for a month to earn money to buy toys for you. I have spent part of it this month, and I will buy it after my mother works overtime for a week.

3. Delayed satisfaction

Postpone meeting children's needs, tell them that mom and dad have worked hard, and I can help you beat your back or draw a picture. Through such requirements, children's concentration can also be exercised.

Every parent loves their children and wants to give them the best and what they want. But loving children needs a certain way, so that children can grow up better.

Last week, I went shopping with my friends and children. When she arrived at the toy store, Jia Jia (a friend's child) suddenly stopped and pulled her mother's skirt, indicating that she wanted the doll in the store.

My friend said that she already had a similar toy at home, so she was not going to buy it for her. At this moment, Jia Jia, who looks clever and sensible on weekdays, suddenly burst into tears and rolled. I was surprised at that time, and my Sisi baby rushed over to comfort her. Later, it was estimated that because of my existence, my friend felt really embarrassed. She went into the store and bought her a doll, and she stopped crying.

In the face of children rolling in the street to buy toys, different parents often adopt different coping styles. My friend's reaction is just one of the manifestations. The impact on children is naturally different.

1, "sheep" parents: compromise and obedience attitude

My friend is actually a typical "sheep" parent. When children struggle to buy toys, she is more of a compromise. Of course, most of the time, out of saving face, I feel that this kind of dress is really inappropriate on the street or in the presence of outsiders.

The child just caught the "small mind" of his parents, so he dared to be so unscrupulous. Sheep parents are the best bullies in children's eyes. Children feel that as long as they are savage, their parents will compromise and obey themselves.

Impact:

(1) Loss of parental rights

Give the child whatever he wants, and he can't stand tossing, crying and spoiling the child too much. The end result is the loss of his dignity. Although we now advocate "equality" in children's education, it is not absolute, but relative. When necessary, parents still need to establish dignity and accommodate their children to a certain extent, rather than blindly accommodating them.

② The child's self-control ability is poor.

Children who have been "satisfied" for a long time will become special self. Once his needs are not met, he may make demands in extreme ways. Such a child's self-control ability is also extremely poor. He doesn't care about time and place. Anyway, as long as he wants something, he must get it at once, otherwise it will be turned upside down. This kind of behavior is harmful to the child itself.

2. "Tiger" parents: the attitude of forced refusal

The opposite of "sheep" parents is "tiger" parents. The attitude of such parents is that as long as they feel that they can't do it, no matter how noisy their children are, they must forcibly refuse. Even if there are other people present, it will not leave any feelings for the children.

In the face of such parents, children are often more afraid. I didn't understand at first, thinking that I could "threaten" my parents by rolling. But after many times, I know that I have no choice at all, but I will feel scared. Sometimes even if you really want something, you dare not express it.

Impact:

Children become timid.

Tiger parents adopt an authoritarian attitude when educating their children. Children are not allowed to have their own thinking, and everything must be operated according to their own regulations. If children don't listen, they will be forced to accept it. Don't leave any feelings and room for children, which will make them feel deprived of their rights, but they can't resist and will gradually become timid.

There is a generation gap between parents and children.

The biggest feeling of children who grow up in such a family environment is that they can't get respect and understanding from their parents. Children will feel that they have been bound and have no right to live and choose. This is likely to lead to the early arrival of children's rebellious period, out of control, and the generation gap between parents and children will only grow bigger and bigger.

It can be seen that both parents of "sheep" and "tiger" are actually bad for their children. Blindly compromise and coercion, these two extremes can not make children grow up healthily.

So, when children roll around in the street for toys, what should we do to best deal with it? What kind of parents should I be?

Compared with "sheep" and "tiger" parents, "shepherd" parents know how to deal with problems in a compromise way when facing crying children. This is undoubtedly more beneficial to children.

What are "shepherd" parents?

"Shepherd" parents have a good ability to control the overall situation. It can not only control the child's emotions, but also give guidance from the child's point of view. Therefore, under the education of such parents, we rarely see his children out of control.

What do "shepherd" parents do when their children roll?

First of all, understand and respect the bad mood of children when they can't get toys;

Secondly, patiently explain to the child why he refused to buy toys;

Thirdly, let the child understand the reason, and then give him another chance to choose whether to buy toys or not;

Finally, whether the child wants to buy toys or not, he should recognize his final decision, but let him be responsible for his choice.

It is the nature of every child to like small toys, and we can't deprive them of their rights. We must recognize and support this. But while respecting children's needs, we should also learn to control them.

We can reasonably control the number of toys we buy for our baby every month. This number should be negotiated with our children and everyone should abide by it. Tell your child that if you reach the number of toys purchased in advance, even if you see more toys in the future, you can only wait until next month. Never cry against the rules.

No matter what happens, it is also necessary and crucial for parents to stick to the bottom line and principles and set rules for their children. In this way, sometimes even if the child wants another toy, there is no reason to cry.

Of course, so are other things. Over time, it can help children form good self-control ability, understand the importance of obeying rules, and promote children to grow into an independent, patient and disciplined person.

Xiansi's mother has something to say.

Hello, Ma Bao, glad to answer your question.

What should the baby do if he rolls around in the street to buy toys? The baby is rolling to get this toy, but the way to get it is very bad, and I don't agree. So at this time, we should have our own principles. You tell him you want this toy. Yes, but you can't get it by rolling around. Why don't you calm down and think about what you should do? When the baby is quiet, we will solve this problem slowly. You may not be able to get rid of it once or twice. We should be patient and tell him by actions that he will get nothing.

What should our parents do when the baby is rolling in the street? This hasn't happened to my baby yet, but I've made up my mind. What should I do? Haha, my idea is that I am two meters away from him. Look at him. I won't argue with him in public. I won't lose my temper and order him to get up. I'm proud, too. Stay away. People don't know whose child this is. He is always tired. He is tired, and I want to get up and talk to me. I'll take him to a place where no one cares about him. But reason belongs to reason, and this time it will not meet his requirements.

The most important thing is that when the baby is unreasonable, don't compromise and give up your principles. Otherwise, you can't establish authority in front of him, and he won't respect your ideas. He'll think he can do whatever he wants.

I hope my answer can help you.

I think every parent has a headache when they encounter this kind of problem. Rolling in the street will attract strange eyes from passers-by and make him unable to get off the stage. Faced with this problem, different parents choose different ways. Some parents rudely picked up their children and left as soon as possible, while others chose to compromise and quickly bought them and left. I don't think this is appropriate. I quite agree with the following practice, that is, let him roll, throw it out and watch. As long as there is no danger around, he will spend it with him. At the end of the day, he will be tired, and then find a quiet place to tell him that it is useless to roll around and make trouble. This is not the way to solve the problem. If you really want to buy it, you can communicate with your parents and tell them why you must buy it. You can buy it if you have a good reason, but you can't buy it if you don't have a good reason.

Some children can't walk when they see toys, no matter whether they are good or bad. At this time, parents need to explain patiently and carefully, and teach them to distinguish between good and bad toys. Some toys with poor quality are not only unsightly, but also dangerous, and we need to teach them. I believe that children will gradually get rid of this bad habit through long-term communication.

In a variety show in Japan recently, the program group asked the father to take his son to buy his favorite toy, but the father didn't want to buy it because it was too expensive. Then my father began to perform a large-scale show according to the requirements of the program group, and performed on the ground as simply as his son rolled. The son was shocked by this scene and finally tried to help his father lying on the ground. Later, his son went to coax his father to get up. After all, such a big man is still a little shameful, but he failed. In order to get his father up, he finally gave up buying toys and said, "Forget it."

Rintaro heaved a sigh of relief when he saw his father get up. The last picture is very warm. They walked out of the shop and on their way home. The father asked his son, "You don't want it?" The son said, "Yes." The father asked again, "won't you buy it?" The son said, "Forget it, I'll put up with it." After the program was broadcast, netizens praised the child for being smart and sensible, while the mother said that she saw his super self-control from a simple "I endured".

I think I should buy more toys for my children as long as the economic conditions permit. Toys can not only develop children's intelligence, but also improve their hands-on ability, which is much better than watching boring small videos with mobile phones.

I have several methods that parents can try:

First: Ignore first and communicate effectively.

His parents were worried and pulled his face down to make him cry. When he is emotionally stable,

You can ask him, "Baby, do you want this toy? Why? Why do you like him so much? Which toy do you like best in that house? If they are almost the same, it can be said, baby, it is a waste to buy again, and the mother of the wasted child doesn't like it.

To let him know that rolling is not easy, you can wait for him to behave well that day, give him a toy and tell him that it is for your good performance today.

Second: divert attention.

In order to attract children's attention, such as a sprinkler passing by, you exaggerate and say, "Wow, this car can spray water like a water hose." Children may be interested in it and forget it after seeing it.

When he got home, his mood stabilized. You can ask him, did you just roll around in the mall to let your mother buy you toys? He may say yes, and then you tell him that if you do this, mom will never buy it for you. If you want something, you can talk to your mother. This way is impolite. Mom knows you want it, but there are so many toys at home that you like it. Mom won't buy it for you. Mom will support whatever you like. But next time, can we talk about it?

Third: parents should remember not to beat and scold, not to let their children go, and not to compromise.

Some parents may think that they pretend to leave to prevent their children from crying harder, which will make them feel insecure and even more emotional. He probably really doesn't want toys, because he is afraid that his mother will leave him and doesn't want him. There are many mother-child wars that really broke out to buy toys. This question is really difficult, parents! Maybe most people just picked up the children and bought them. What can they do? So many people look embarrassed. But the consequence of this is that next time, he will get the toy he wants in the same way.

It is not easy to raise a baby. Every day, we are fighting with each other. Parents can try the above methods and learn more about parenting knowledge. Welcome to consult.

1. Parents need to be calm and can't panic when they see their children crying. We should also let go of the idea that children cry and make a fool of themselves, and allow them to cry a few times to release their emotions.

2. Calm the child's emotions and kneel down to explain the situation to the child. If the child is more sensible, it may be better after a while; If children are not sensible, they may become more and more fierce. If so, parents might as well let him make trouble first and watch it quietly. Note that this process is a competition between your endurance and your child's endurance. If parents surrender first, congratulations, you have successfully lost prestige in front of your children. If you encounter something that your child is not satisfied with in the future, you may continue to use this trick.

Be kind and firm in front of children and have your own principles, so that children can see that your position will not change because of his crying.

Seeing that the child is about to cry, ask the child if he can go. Most children will follow their parents if they can't survive, but at this time, the children haven't figured it out yet. On the way, parents can talk to their children about it, accept their emotions, tell their children that their mothers understand you … and show their attitude, why not buy them toys.

Of course, this kind of thing should be avoided as much as possible. Parents should be more wise in educating their children. For example, before going to the supermarket, they should make a list and leave one or two for their children, so that they can decide what to buy and what to give up, so that she won't buy casually again.

This kind of behavior of children is wrong, which shows that there is something wrong with family education.

I saw many children rolling in the street to buy toys, and their parents reacted differently:

Some parents are afraid of losing face in public and have to buy them for their children.

Some parents ignore their children and go away to make them cry.

Some parents beat and scold their children. If the child is obedient, he will buy it, but if he is disobedient, he will not buy it.

Some parents and children left the scene with him after reasoning.

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Which method is better?

Let's first find out why children do this. I guess this happened before or at home. Children are especially good at observing words and deeds, and like adults, they also seek advantages and avoid disadvantages.

Psychologist Professor Li Meijin once said:

When a child is born, it is a blank sheet of paper. What kind of environment children grow up in and what kind of personality they will form.

Nowadays, many children are supported by clothes and their mouths are full of food. Old people or parents at home are obedient to their children's demands, and it is easy for children to feel that he has the final say. As long as they don't meet his requirements, they will cry to solve the problem.

In fact, 1.5-year-old children may cry for physiological reasons: for example, they are unwell, want to drink milk when they are hungry, and it is uncomfortable to pee in the urine bag ... If 1.5-year-old children cry, they should be allowed to express their needs.

What parents have to do is to face their children's demands and give them reasonable satisfaction. If they are unreasonable, they should tell the child why. Maybe the child still doesn't understand, and they should make rules for him to understand slowly.

I think the better way is: the method in positive discipline is kind and firm.

The first thing is to agree with your child on the number of toys you can buy each time or every week before going out. This practice can make children understand that mothers will respect your ideas, but it is not unconditional satisfaction.

The second is the love for children, because even if the agreement is good, if the child meets something he particularly likes, he may not leave. Squat down and say to the child: Baby, I know you like this toy very much, but we already have the same kind at home, so we can only buy it next time.

First deal with the baby's emotions and help the baby release negative emotions.

At the same time, tell the baby: "Crying can't solve the problem. Tell your mother if you have any requirements. "

In this process, you can teach your baby to manage emotions and solve problems in a positive and constructive way.

I hope the above answers are helpful to you!

You must understand why children roll around in the street asking for toys. Nothing more than because in the child's memory, this method has been successful, or it may be effective for his parents! Faced with such a situation, you should let him know that this method has failed, and may even face more serious results!

1, face his tumbling in search.

Parents are usually afraid that their children will roll around in public, which will attract many people to watch. In order to end this embarrassing situation, parents choose to compromise with their children, but they don't know that this is the seed of a disgusting cycle, and the children will try again and again.

Suggestion: On the premise of ensuring the safety of the child, you can make it clear to the child that if he is not unreasonable, you can consider buying it for him, but if he continues to be unreasonable, he will not get the toy for the time being. After making sure that your child understands you, you can choose to sit and drink milk tea and let your child make trouble by himself. If he stops, you can buy it for him once to prove that you are telling the truth! After a few times, the child will understand that this trick is useless to you and will not play with toys like this!

2. Buy toys for children independently from time to time.

Children will go to the mall to play with toys, mainly because parents may give their children the opportunity to choose their own toys face to face. Once you get used to this right, it's hard to change it!

Suggestion: Parents should buy toys for their children independently and irregularly, surprise their children, and let their children know through some measures that parents will buy toys for themselves without having to fight for them.

2. Labor acquisition law

After the child stops crying, you can give the child a chance to get toys in another way. For example, if you get paid through labor, your children can get paid from housework. Wait until the children have saved enough money, and then go to Shang Chao to buy it themselves!

This is an experience process, and it is recommended to implement it when children need something. I don't recommend letting children do housework in the form of rewards for a long time, otherwise children will be rewarded for everything they do in the future!

Conclusion: When a child repeatedly takes some measures, it must be what he gets from this measure. Knowing the source of the problem is the correct direction to solve the problem. I hope it helps you!

This problem is not difficult to solve, but you must first find out: why do children cry to achieve their goals?

When children want something, they want to tell their parents in a simple and peaceful way at first. Unfortunately, parents may ignore their children's requirements because they "don't understand" or "don't realize"

When the children found that their demands were repeatedly ignored, their anger came up. The children themselves are too young to express their emotions in adult ways and languages, so they only cry.

The logic of children is simple. If the child thinks that her crying can achieve a certain purpose, then crying will become her means. Slowly, it has become a habit to achieve your goals by crying.

Faced with this situation, mothers might as well try the "five steps of crying"

Step 1: Stay calm and friendly.

When the baby is crying, first of all, don't be influenced by the child and lose your temper. The whole process should be calm and don't really get angry with the child.

Step 2: appease the child.

Mothers can establish contact with their children by touching their heads or hugging them. Let your child know that you understand and accept his emotions. When children understand that they are understood, negative emotions will soon disappear. At this time, it will be very smooth to correct the child's mistakes.

On the premise of ensuring safety, children can also be left alone for a while to ease their emotions.

Step three: divert your attention.

You can take him away from the scene, watch cartoons for a while, give some children substitutes that they are interested in, and shift their attention to other places to avoid getting into trouble because of one thing.

Step 4: Explain the reason patiently.

Afterwards, you must patiently explain the reasons to your baby and let him know that it is reasonable for adults to disagree with his request.

Step 5: Guide him to achieve his goal in the right way.

For example, if a child wants to play with a friend's bike, but the friend refuses to live or die, you can teach the child to discuss with his partner to see if he can borrow it, or exchange toys with her when she is tired of playing.

It is worth noting that in the face of children's bad habits, if parents insist on refusing at first, but after the children cry for a few minutes, there is no way. This is a signal to children-they must cry and adults will pay attention. After crying for a few minutes, my mother surrendered, so the next time I ask for it, I will cry and insist on not being ignored by adults.

As long as parents stick to their principles, do not back down or compromise once or twice, children will realize that "crying is really useless" and naturally stop using crying strategies, and this habit will gradually disappear.