What if I suspect someone other than my husband?
Because the existence of doubt will often lead to our emotional alienation, and finally develop to the point of irretrievability, when we feel uneasy, we can use the method of cheating trace test to determine whether men have betrayed us. At this time, men have the following performance. He began to pay attention to diet or lose weight. He began to buy new clothes; From boxers to crotch guards, I don't even like it; The material of clothes changed from cotton to silk. He gets nervous when the phone rings. When answering the phone, he will try to speak in a low voice. He often makes excuses to work overtime, especially on weekends. He began to look for reasons to stay out of it. He is on a business trip and doesn't tell you the itinerary, flight and hotel information. When you ask him where he is going and when he will come back, he will yell at you, and he will say, you can't contact him at all. He will go out alone on weekends for some bad reasons. When you ask him when to go home, or where to go, he will be very unhappy and angry. He began to hide credit card receipts and phone bills. He kept his mouth shut about his travels and the people he met. When you show some interest in his private affairs, even if it is only normal interest, he will think it is an invasion of his privacy.
What should I do if I find my husband having an affair?
First, keep calm and treat it rationally.
You can't be absolutely calm. Because a person who sleeps with himself all day is related to others. This kind of feeling has been hidden for so long that it makes you sick and angry to think about it. It is obviously unrealistic to keep a straight face. But not being calm doesn't mean you can break into a furious rage and announce his evil deeds all over the world. A smart woman should understand that losing her temper and asking for sympathy can't solve the problem at all. Will only push him to the gentle San Xiao village for comfort and consideration, so that he will only go further and further. So, even if you find your partner cheating, don't become a bitch in minutes. Instead, we should try to be rational and find out the current situation. How long has the husband been cheating? To what extent? What do both sides want? Only by knowing the situation can we prepare for the next step.
Second, calm down and analyze.
When you are sure that your husband is really cheating, you are angry, but it is not the time to be angry. Now you need to calm down and analyze why your husband did it. Many times, men cheat because of marriage problems. If you find that this is your problem, correct it in time, so that he will feel that you still have the heart to save. If this person still loves you and sees your concessions and changes, he will definitely come back to you.
Third, recover sovereignty.
If you forgive your husband for cheating easily, then you are too cheap. Don't let him take the initiative, or you will be very tired. You should make a decision as soon as possible, don't just wait patiently, otherwise it will only make your situation worse. You should reduce or even stop paying for him and stop listening to him. So you can regain your sovereignty.
Fourth, convince people by reasoning.
Because if you make a scene, you will lose the most important person and position. This person is her husband, and this position is her integrity and tolerance as a wife. After the trouble, the problem is not solved, but it will make things out of control. Whether you choose to get back together or get together after a man has an affair, you should consider your own problems from the beginning. Communication is a bridge between people, because everyone knows each other through communication, from understanding to familiarity. Therefore, no matter what you choose in the end, you should seriously think about what you did wrong and then seriously correct it. Maybe it won't happen again.
The best way to find out that her husband is having an affair.
Meeting her husband's infidelity in marriage is a great blow to women and a great harm to the family. A large number of women are likely to choose to quarrel with their husbands, propose divorce, threats, self-harm or even suicide, or compromise, in an attempt to make their husbands change their minds and find their conscience, or persuade relatives and friends to make their husbands feel guilty and return. In fact, the problem is not what will happen to your husband at all, but your attitude. Quarrel, divorce, or compromise, the final result is actually not what you want. No matter what attitude you have above, you haven't jumped out of the club circle. Think from another angle, jump out and look at it as an independent individual, and you will get different results. But if you still regard your husband's affair as an accessory and a follower, then you can't get through this hurdle. You will feel that his infidelity has hit you hard. Without him, your life is meaningless. You can't live without him, so you can only live in such a narrow space, and you hinder your progress. When we meet a third party in marriage, the first step we should take is to control our emotions and calm ourselves down. Impulse is the devil. Impulse will also make you lose your thinking ability, lose your reason, and do things that you regret. When you can calm down, make a comprehensive analysis of your current marital status and what causes it.
If your husband still has feelings for you, it's only because he has been married for a long time, his feelings are getting dull, lacking freshness and excitement, and the temptation outside is relatively large. He cheated on you after being crazy for a while in love, so you have a great possibility of redemption. At this time, you need to deal with it correctly and calmly, instead of making a mountain out of a molehill and letting others know about it. This will not only make your husband lose face, but also make you lose face and make the only good impression you left in your husband's heart disappear, thus pushing him to a third party. If you are really exhausted because of your feelings, you can't communicate at all, and there are other irreparable factors, then you need to take a good look at your marriage and don't kidnap a meaningless marriage for your children. Respect yourself and let yourself go. After examining the marriage problem clearly, you need to start repairing it, instead of disturbing the third party or threatening the third party to leave your husband. This is only a temporary solution, not a permanent cure. All infidelity and extramarital affairs are caused by the rift between husband and wife, so a third party has the opportunity to intervene, so you need to solve the problems between you first. Is there a communication problem, or a lack of concern for each other after marriage, or a series of problems caused by other problems? Only by finding the problem can we solve it.
What if my husband has a woman outside?
1, grab a man's heart and grab his stomach.
This is not just a folk saying, nor is it just reflected in the fact that you can cook several good dishes on the surface. A wife who can cook also represents considerate and virtuous, and will know how to send the warmest care when her husband needs comfort. The implication is to care about him from all aspects of life, constantly improve himself and enhance his "personal charm".
2. Don't rely too much on men.
It is not uncommon for men to cheat now, and it can be said that there are too many. The main reason is that they are too attached to men, dependent on men and lack independent ability. Therefore, if you are in such a state, please be independent, don't rely too much on men, understand his needs, meet him scientifically, let him realize your advantages, and let him think that you are better than others.
3. Occasional mistakes can be forgiven.
There are many temptations in a person's life, and not many people can be absolutely loyal, so an occasional mistake may be forgiven according to the situation. Of course, if the husband still compromises and forgives after many infidelities, it will become connivance. Think about whether you have done something wrong and learn more about his thoughts. It is very necessary to increase the communication frequency when the husband comes back from cheating.
4. Be a "bad woman"
"Too good a woman" will always suffer. Whether in love or marriage, don't be too kind to the other half, especially unequal. Because feelings are mutual, there is not much demand in return, and such feelings are not long enough. So try to make your thoughts more free, have your own circle of friends of the opposite sex, have your own hobbies, and keep some mystery. Besides, the language can be a little worse. For example, say which man is handsome and excellent in front of his eyes, and let him know that you don't have to "marry a dog and a dog".
Sometimes letting go is the best retention.
The center of gravity of a woman is not necessarily a man, but a career or a child. If your husband often looks for a woman outside, I don't think you need to go back to him, because it is difficult for a person's heart to change back, unless it can't be found decades later. So what do you want him to do? Will you take care of him when he comes back? But what about your youth? Who supplies you? So now you might as well worry about your career instead of your husband changing his mind.