With the increasing popularity of parenting education, many young parents try their best to make their children have a better childhood and realize "companion" education. A couple born in the 1980s in Hangzhou haven't gone to work since their children were born, and they are taking care of their children at home. The source of life at home is the previous passbook and various credit services. But less than three years later, the couple's credit card was overdrawn by 300 thousand, unable to repay it. When the reporter asked them, both husband and wife claimed that it was for the better growth of their children, but is this really the case? The reporter had to shake his head after understanding.

The childhood of the post-80s couple is incomplete, even more or less shadowed. The man grew up in a single-parent family and was often laughed at and treated differently by his peers. Although the woman's parents are still alive, her father is a gambling addict. Every time he loses money, he always takes it out on her and her mother, so her childhood is full of fear. These two people, whose childhood was not perfect, started with ordinary friends, then confided in each other and finally tied the knot. After they got married, they didn't want children step by step, because the shadow of childhood was deeply branded in their hearts and could not be erased. Finally, they gradually got out of the shadow of childhood and decided to have a child through the guidance of psychologists.

During his wife's pregnancy, the husband and wife bought many parenting books and listened to many parenting lectures. The couple reached an agreement that they must create a childhood full of love and companionship for their children and prevent them from repeating their mistakes. Xiao Qiang, like most people, thinks there is nothing wrong with their ideas, but they are too extreme, even beyond the scope of reason.

/kloc-I was pregnant in October and gave birth once, and my wife successfully gave birth to a 6.5kg son. Looking at the sleeping son lying in the crib, the husband and wife were deeply gratified and strengthened their original planned "companionship" plan. During his wife's confinement, in order to let her get better care and learn more standardized ways to take care of the baby, they did not hesitate to spend a lot of money to invite the gold medal of the housekeeping company. It must be said that as long as you need money,

After the wife's confinement, the husband's paternity leave arrived. The company urged her husband to go to work more than once, but at this time, the wife did not agree to let her husband go to work. She said confidently, "If we go to work, we won't have so much time to spend with our children, which is not in line with our original intention." Under the guidance of his wife, the husband resolutely resigned from his job, so the husband and wife took care of the children wholeheartedly at home and spent all their living expenses.

Surprisingly, however, their so-called peer education is just a rhetoric between husband and wife. Every day when children are hungry, they will give them milk powder to drink. If children take a shit, they will wash the changed diapers first, and then stop using diapers at all. When the child goes to bed, the husband and wife start to do their own things, and the husband is busy playing.

In the past two years, husband and wife have lived in luxury. The wife bought a lot of cosmetics and clothes, and the husband charged a lot of game coins in his online game. At first, I bought expensive imported milk powder for my children. Later, when the economy was tight, I switched to domestic milk powder. Finally, when they have no money to buy diapers for their children, they don't want them. If the children are wet, give them a place to lie down and even let them warm themselves.

Under the education of their "peers", their economy soon got into trouble, with 300,000 credit cards overdrawn, and their children's development was seriously retarded and even suffered from serious skin diseases. It was not until the credit card companies failed to collect debts many times that they sought media help. When the reporter saw the child lying in bed, he had to shake his head and feel bitter for this new life. Finally, under the coordination of the reporter, the husband and wife realized the problem and proposed to pay off the debt within the agreed time. The problem of credit card overdraft has been solved, but what about children's education?

After reading this report, Xiao Qiang wanted to condemn the couple very much, but when he thought of their original intention, Xiao Qiang felt sorry for the children. Although most of our generation's childhood was a bit shadowy, except for a few parents, it was more because of the environment at that time. Now that the society has developed, we are married and parents. We don't want our children to repeat the same mistakes, and we hope they have a complete childhood. There is nothing wrong with this, but we are afraid to be the couple in the article.

In Xiao Qiang's view, the correct "companion-style" education should be accompanied by the mother when the child is 0- 1 year old, because the child has no concept of his father at this time, and the father can go to work and provide material security for the family. When the child 1-3 years old, the child has a sense of autonomy and can distinguish between father and mother. At this time, fathers can gradually get involved in their children's lives, but in most cases. In fact, the real companion education is more about helping children to establish a complete emotional system and objective cognition, so that children can get enough sense of security. The best education for children is to set an example. That is, we often say that "parents are the best teachers for children."