He lost his mother when he was a child, was disliked by his father, and because his stepmother Xiao Qin deliberately killed him, people in four rooms and five rooms deliberately discredited him. Gu has a bad reputation among the aristocratic families in Beijing.
Even though he established the military service and became an important official of the imperial court, he was still full of fear in the face of the girl he liked, for fear that the Sheng family would not agree.
He took great pains, carefully planned, and took out120,000 sincerity and determination to marry Ming Lan.
He planned to destroy the marriage between Ming Lan and the royal family; Let the new emperor marry the first daughter of the Sheng family for him; Begging the queen to give Zhu Chai a dowry; The bride price for Ming Lan filled the whole twilight village.
Even the authentic daughter of Shengjia, who has seen treasure since childhood, is somewhat lost in her heart.
Ming Lan, who was bullied since childhood, loved by her grandmother, and got a generous dowry from her grandmother, looked at the mountain of bride price, and her heart was as sweet as honey.
This bride price is not to show off wealth, but to show off love. Gu showed his love for everyone.
Firm and sincere.
Which girl can stand such naked and affectionate confession?
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Whether the bride price should be given at marriage has always been controversial.
Some people say: no, this is a bad habit.
Some people say: it is necessary, this is a test.
Do you want it or not? Let's take a look at those girls who don't want to get married. How's it going now?
Min Yang and his college classmate Zhang Jiawei fell in love for four years. But Min Yang's parents never agreed to their marriage.
First, the family conditions between the two sides are too different.
Zhang Jiawei's family is in the countryside, and there are two younger brothers and sisters at school. His family is poor. Most of Zhang Jiawei's monthly salary is posted to his family.
Min Yang, an only child in the city, has a good family, but she is spoiled.
Second, the mother-in-law is too bitter to get along with.
Zhang Jiawei's salary is sent home, and Min Yang's salary supplements their expenses.
This move was regarded by her mother-in-law as putting the cart before the horse, and her son had an advantage and could work hard, never mentioning the proposal of marriage at home.
One family objected, and the other didn't mention it. The passionate couple began to live together, and soon Min Yang got pregnant.
Min Yang's parents are very angry and helpless.
I proposed to my husband's family to buy a house for my children. My mother-in-law said: My family has no money. Min Yang's parents have no choice but to pay a down payment.
Ask her mother-in-law for a bride price. Her mother-in-law looks like a dead mouse: my family has no money.
Seeing that Yang was pregnant, our parents had to swallow this tone. Who made her daughter so confused?
There is no bride price when they get married.
Marriage life is not as beautiful as the bubble in love, and the gorgeous aura will soon disappear. Real life is a chicken feather.
Because of the money, the two began to quarrel.
Min Yang quit her pregnancy job. As soon as my daughter was born, the economic pressure suddenly increased.
And Zhang Jiawei's money is still being sent home. Whenever Yang Min complains, her mother-in-law will scold Min Yang as a bargain, and giving birth to a daughter is a loss-making commodity, which will drag down her son.
Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law often quarrel.
Zhang Jiawei stopped going home, gradually mixed up with other women, and finally ended in divorce.
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Do girls who don't want a bride price when they get married end up like Min Yang?
Of course not.
Happy baby is also a girl who gets married without a bride price.
There is also a gap in economic conditions between the two families, and it is even more difficult for her mother-in-law.
When discussing the marriage, her mother-in-law asked her mother how much bride price she wanted.
Mother knew the situation of her mother-in-law's family, so she said no, and said the house, so that the two children could slowly save money to buy it in the future.
Happy baby gave 6.5438+0.5 million cash and a car as a dowry, but made a request, that is, to be good to her daughter.
When my mother-in-law came to propose marriage, she brought a bunch of gifts and a bank card of 6.5438 million yuan, saying it was a bride price.
Happy baby knows that it is not easy for her mother-in-law to borrow money from relatives.
So her mother refused to accept it anyway, saying that her mother-in-law was old and should leave some money around.
Daughters and sons-in-law are capable. If they work hard, life will get better and better.
Later, the two families negotiated the marriage in a measured way, and the whole process was very pleasant.
The mother-in-law did not keep the sum of 654.38+ 10,000 yuan, but gave it to them.
After marriage, her mother-in-law loves her very much and would rather let her son do housework than her.
Happy baby recalled the scene when her mother-in-law lovingly held her in her arms and fed her with water and food during childbirth, which was particularly touched.
Therefore, Happy Baby thinks that the bride price of the house and car is not important, but the person he chooses, his character, personality, ability and love.
As long as he has a good character, his family can't be wrong.
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Giving or not giving a bride price is a woman's business, but giving or not giving a bride price can show your husband's attitude towards you.
Like Min Yang, her mother-in-law just didn't want to give the bride price, and she played tricks on her because she looked down on Min Yang and didn't respect her parents.
Where's Happy Baby? Her family made it clear that she didn't want a bride price, but her mother-in-law insisted on giving it, which shows her mother-in-law's sincerity in this marriage.
In this respect, the bride price is also a magic mirror, which can reflect the sincerity and feelings of the husband's family.
Whose child is not the darling of the family?
Whose children are not brought up with a handful of shit and urine?
Only those who have been parents know the hardships.
Once a daughter is an adult, she will marry into her husband's family and become a member of it, bearing children for her husband's family and managing her life.
The parents who gave birth to her will watch her get married in tears, and they will bear the loneliness that their daughter no longer enjoys.
How can people who are both parents not feel the same way?
If the in-laws are well-intentioned, they will understand that the bride price is not compensation, but a comfort, an understanding, a sincerity and a respect for the in-laws.
This is out of love, and the bride price must be given.
Aside from the warm coat of marriage, I prefer economist Xue Zhaofeng's calm analysis of marriage.
He believes: "Marriage is to run a business and sign a contract. Family businesses are lifelong wholesale futures contracts. "
Marriage is a partnership in which men and women have their own resources. The two sides give different resources, such as health, fertility, looks, family relationships and their own future growth potential.
Everyone gives different resources, and the time to play a role is different.
Traditionally, women usually pay early, have children and take care of their families. The role of men is relatively late, and it is a late bloomer. His role only rises at the age of 30-40.
In this case, it is easy for men who pay late to rip off women who pay first.
Have you ever seen too many men cheat in middle age and women die?
Therefore, before marriage, the bride price that the woman wants is just to ask the man for a mortgage to protect the marriage in case of problems in the future.
In this sense, the bride price should be more important. Only by asking for a bride price will the man cherish the marriage more.
So, girl, don't be silly, don't give up everything because of love.
Please remember that the bride price needs not only wealth, but also the sincerity of her husband's family and the guarantee of her future life.