At the age of 26, when she graduated from her master's degree, Xiao Min said that looking for a boyfriend must find a man who has a car and a house and knows how to cherish himself.
After working for five years, Xiao Min said that looking for a boyfriend must find "potential stocks", and now it has almost nothing to do with himself.
My beautiful classmate Xiao Min is an extremely hard-working and enterprising person. She studied clinical medicine in 2 1 1 college and oncology in graduate school. She is 3 1 year old and works in a hospital in the provincial capital city. At present, her annual income is over 400,000.
Xiao Min has a good figure, beautiful appearance, high education and high income, so there is no shortage of suitors around him. But after she broke up with her undergraduate, she never talked about her boyfriend again. Colleagues, friends and children around her will play soy sauce, but she is not in a hurry. In her words, if you work so hard, you can't find a boyfriend worse than yourself.
After she graduated with a master's degree at the age of 26, her parents, relatives and friends rushed to introduce her. She always refuses on the pretext that she is too busy at work. But since last year, Xiao Min suddenly realized that he was 30 years old and would go back to his home after work every day. The whole room was empty and even unwelcome.
I realized that I really need to find a boyfriend, get married and start a warm family. In 2020, every time I contacted Xiao Min, she met nearly 20 people on the way to work or on a blind date, and finally decided to have sex with an ugly man.
In the spirit of guarding old classmates, several friends invited Xiao Min to have dinner with their boyfriends, and everyone was ready to see what kind of person Xiao Min called "potential stock".
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That night, we made an appointment at a Hunan restaurant. There is a private room, which is relatively quiet, and the distance from our classmates' homes is similar. The scheduled time is 7 pm.
At about 6: 40, I drove to Hunan restaurant first. Seeing that there was no news in the WeChat group, I thought about waiting for them in the superior private room. As soon as I entered the gate, I saw the waiter smiling at me warmly, reaching out to guide me and saying to me, "Sir, there are already two friends waiting for you in the private room. Please feel free to call me if you need to order. "
I'm surprised that I'm always the first to get together. Maybe someone else came first. With doubt, I opened the door and saw Mandy talking and laughing with a man in the private room.
"Hey, the sun came out in the west today, and Mandy was the last one to arrive every time. Why did he suddenly lose his temper today and even took a 1 number? " I took off my coat and found a place to sit down. As soon as I sat down, the man put a cup of boiled water in front of me.
"My husband said we couldn't be late for our first meeting today, otherwise it would be impolite. When we came, I was so anxious that I didn't even wear makeup. " Xiao Min's voice was awkward, and I was impressed that this was the first time she spoke to me in this tone.
The man poured water and sat down. Before everyone arrived, he chatted with me without saying a word, all of which were financial matters I was interested in. In the meantime, I cast a questioning look at Xiao Min, and she nodded to me.
There was only one feeling at dinner that night: comfortable, especially comfortable, and the atmosphere was not embarrassed by joining an "outsider". Xiao Min sat in the main seat and her boyfriend sat on the left, completely controlling the atmosphere of the whole dinner. Two hours later, some of our old classmates thought it was a waste of time to enjoy the food by playing with their mobile phones before the party.
At dinner, Xiao Min's boyfriend left the scene twice on the pretext of going to the bathroom. Every time, he comes back about 8 minutes later. Before getting up, he picked up his mobile phone to check out.
Through the first dinner, some of our old classmates felt that Xiao Min had found her home, and they were happy for her. Later, after several familiarities, they found that several characteristics of Xiao Min's boyfriend really met her requirements.
First, be kind and have good character and morality.
Xiao Min's boyfriend's smile makes people feel warm and infectious. She said that they were attracted by his warm smile on their first blind date. After knowing each other for a while, they found that the smiling boy was a very kind person.
They are all runners. When Xiao Mingang joined the work, in order to relieve the pressure, he would run 5 kilometers around the nearby park every night. This habit has continued until now. One day, they met for a run and found a small bag opposite their boyfriend, which seemed to contain a lot of things.
They ran to the park, and the boy took Xiao Min and said that he would show her a secret, which was under a big tree in the park. He opened his backpack, which contained cat food and a plastic bag full of leftovers. The boy crouched down and put his things on the lawn. Soon, four or five wild cats came and ate together.
The boy told Xiao Min that he especially liked keeping cats. When he saw these stray cats, he couldn't help feeding them every time fun run came here. He didn't come here during the day, because he didn't have enough time, and because he was afraid that these kittens would be seen in the park during the day, or he was afraid of being laughed at by a big man.
This is just the beginning for Xiao Min to realize that this man is kind. It suddenly occurred to her that every time he went out to eat and go shopping, the man was full of kindness to everyone he met and would smile and thank the waiter. I will keep the empty bottle in my hand until I see the trash can, or directly hand it to the sanitation worker with a smile; When the green light is on, we will wait until all the pedestrians have left before going forward. ......
These little things are like threading a needle, sewing up Xiao Min's mood bit by bit. She told herself that kindness is the key to finding a boyfriend!
Second, high emotional intelligence.
Xiao Min later told us that her boyfriend went out twice during the first meal, but in fact he didn't go to the toilet. The main reason is that we will have some discussions about him. If he is present, we can't say it directly, but let Xiao Min really listen to his friends' first impressions of him.
When I heard Xiao Min say these words, I found that if a person's EQ is high enough, it will be so powerful. He will make you feel comfortable when you get along with him, but he won't make you feel anything wrong.
Before dinner, he asked Xiao Min who is most likely to arrive first, what his clothes are like, what kind of topics this friend usually likes, whether he likes tea or boiled water, and so on.
So from the moment I entered, the waiter led the way to the private room. As soon as I sat down, boiling water was placed in front of me, including waiting for someone. We had a nice chat. It turns out that Xiao Min's boyfriend did his homework in advance.
Of course, in the final checkout session, Xiao Min's boyfriend also won the unanimous favor of everyone.
Third, a strong sense of professionalism and financial management.
Xiao Min told us that her boyfriend is a real "potential stock". On the other hand, the reason is that my boyfriend is more concerned about his work and is also a good financial manager.
Since his junior year, he has stopped asking for money from his family. He took advantage of the holiday to work, usually part-time, saved the living expenses, and opened a drink shop near the school with his friends. He has invested more than 30,000 yuan, and the annual profit dividend is enough for tuition and living expenses.
After work, when he is busy, he would rather let her work overtime with him than leave work to accompany her and coax her. Every time Xiao Min heard her boyfriend tell her that "if I don't work hard and make progress now, we won't live a happy life in the future", Xiao Min's anger disappeared.
Boyfriends in Xiao Min usually live frugally, not just saving money. He has taught himself to manage money online for more than two years, and also dabbled in stocks and funds. Taking advantage of the surge in funds in the past two years, he bought a three-bedroom apartment with a down payment and began to teach Xiao Min how to manage money carefully.
Xiao Min said that she is looking forward to her future life now. Although boyfriends are still burdened with mortgage and car loans, they have gained a firm foothold in this city, and their future can be expected!
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Fourth, be cautious in making friends and be close to Zhu Zhechi.
Since Xiao Min officially dated her boyfriend, she often dresses up with her boyfriend to meet friends. It was not until some time later that Xiao Min understood the meaning of the phrase "Birds of a feather flock together" and was more sure that the man she was looking for was a "potential stock".
Two friends whose boyfriends are brothers:
One is a classmate who opened a drink shop together. Currently married, with one daughter.
One is his friend who instructed him to learn investment and financial management. He is unemployed for the second generation and claims to use money to make money and realize wealth freedom.
Xiao Min's boyfriend called his friend who runs a drink shop "Daniel Wu" who runs in a happy circle and "close father" of stray cats and dogs. He has successfully brought back four or five "fluffy" good friends for his little princess.
The second generation of friends met in a financial management class. In the 15 stock market, they successfully cashed out a villa and two facades, which were his mentors on the road of financial management.
Xiao Min said that her boyfriend's two best friends have very happy families. One knows how to be content and is good at housekeeping. Although a person seems to have lost money, he is still alive.
She said that she was going to go home with her boyfriend to meet her parents during the Spring Festival. She always smiles from ear to ear when listening to her boyfriend telling interesting stories at home. I think she can educate such an excellent child, and his family should be very harmonious and warm.
Write it at the end
Xiao Min is the most diligent woman among my friends. She doesn't have a good background, and there is no sign of becoming a "giant" at present, but she is very accurate in judging people and knows her own weight, so when she decides to meet her own "potential stock", she firmly grasps it in her hand.
In fact, whether a boyfriend is a "potential stock" is not the most important thing for us ordinary people. If two people are suitable, they can stay together for a long time, and stability will lead to enough happiness.
If one day, your "potential stocks" really make a fortune and flourish, what you need to pay attention to is whether you really have the conditions and ability to seize them for a lifetime.
I believe Xiao Min will be happy, because in my opinion, she is also excellent and a "potential stock"!
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