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Marriage brings two young people in love together and become the closest partners. Many people imagine that the most intimate partner should be inseparable, with 100% trust in each other and no secrets. However, over time, we will find that this state is just our beautiful imagination.

Countless couples have turned against each other because they talked too much. Men are rational, women are emotional, men are from Saturn, and women are from Mars. If the two completely opposite species do not have some appropriate secrets and distance between each other, they can only get closer and closer to the point of explosion.

There is an article saying that "the closest relatives are husband and wife." For couples who are not related by blood, this sentence perfectly explains the relationship between men and women who are brought together by fate. If you want a long-term relationship between husband and wife, you must grasp the scale between the closest and the most distant.

Just like many women will tell their husbands all the troubles of their parents’ families, and plausibly say: “If I don’t nag you, who else can I talk to?” Such moral kidnapping words. In fact, many divorced friends have given more or less this kind of advice to people around them: "Between husband and wife, don't tell your husband about many things about your natal family, otherwise there will be endless trouble."

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First of all, it’s about the trivial matters of your aunt’s family. Don’t nag your husband too much. If you talk too much, men will not only not understand, but they will also think that your natal family has too many things and is really annoying. They may even turn their anger on you. Once you show your mother-in-law side, he will think that there is something wrong with your whole family, which will create a bad impression. After that, if your natal family needs help with something, he will Extremely disgusting.

Nana got divorced because she told her husband too much about her mother’s family. Nana has been divorced for 5 years. When I got to know Nana, I could feel her happiness very strongly. When she mentioned her husband, there were stars in her eyes. She was really like someone in an idol drama, which is enviable.

But in the subsequent interactions, I discovered that Nana has a very fatal flaw, that is, she loves to nag. The things she nags are all trivial matters of her family, such as her cousin-in-law cheating on her, and her mistress. I just came to my cousin’s house and beat her up. Or, for example, my cousin had violent tendencies and brought the matter to the police station. My sister-in-law’s entire family went out to seek justice. Just tell me these things. Nana said she would still talk to her husband. Forget about this kind of thing.

I asked Nana how her husband behaved when she heard her talk about these things. She said that she was just echoing herself, but she didn’t care, she just wanted to find an outlet to vent.

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When I heard that Nana didn’t care about these things and was completely like a bystander, I had a hunch that there would be something wrong with Nana’s husband. Sure enough, a few years later, Nana got divorced. The reason for the divorce was that the husband had cheated on her.

When Nana asked her husband why he cheated so blatantly, the husband said: "Didn't you once say that men are animals that think in their lower bodies, and is it normal to have an affair? You also said that some of the consequences of domestic violence for men are Blame it, man, it’s okay if I don’t have domestic violence. Compared with your mother’s family, I’m a good man.”

When you are nagging, you think it’s harmless, and you think he just can’t handle it. Take it into your heart. In fact, he will remember everything in his heart and return it to you intact. He will subconsciously compare himself to your natal family, and will unknowingly lower his standards of doing things.

Always tell your husband about your mother’s family’s financial background, but you must never tell her husband. A small family background is fine, but a rich family background must not be revealed. Because maybe at some point, he will do something shocking.

The natal family of my neighbor Sister Du was defrauded by her husband. Sister Du's natal family is well off, but her parents are not public. Instead, Sister Du has been bullying her husband because of her family's wealth. She even mentioned to her husband from time to time how much her natal family's income is this year, and her parents have bought a house, etc. , her idea is very simple, let her husband treat her well after hearing it, listen to her words, and subconsciously have the idea that he will not go wrong by following her.

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A man with a bloody heart can’t stand his wife showing off her superiority in front of him. Sister Du’s husband, who has no connections and was born in a rural area, followed Sister Du’s words The mother-in-law kept nagging her, became more and more silent, and became more and more inferior to herself. Even the children followed Sister Du and disrespected their father.

Sister Du’s marriage ended because she was extremely disappointed with her husband after paying off a large number of credit cards. She didn't expect that her husband had used her identity information to apply for countless credit cards in the past few years and owed a lot of debt. When she was found out, her husband said with an indifferent face: "Isn't your mother's family rich? What's wrong? Why? Won't you go?"

At this time, Sister Du realized what a blow her previous praise of her mother's family had to her husband, so much so that he chose to die. Marriage is a matter between two people. Husband and wife can be intimate, but it is better not to talk about the affairs of the mother's family. Sometimes it doesn’t matter when we say it, but if we say it more often, the other party will remember it in their heart, causing unexpected consequences and causing irreparable harm to each other.

Everyone has a selfish heart. Although husband and wife are the closest companions, they should never talk about these things about their mother's family if they can. Heaven or hell, it's up to you.